Advice

Q: I met a boy and spoke to him for the purpose of marriage. It didn't take me long after that to decide that I would like to marry him. My parents did not have a problem and were happy as well. I have now been speaking to this boy for over a year because he says he still needs time to decide. According to him, he does like me but he is just very confused about getting married. Please advise me on what to do as I know now that it is haraam for me to continue speaking to him. I did try stopping but he always says that he will decide soon and he also gets upset and has a problem eating and sleeping when I do stop. Please advise on what he can do as well to help him decide.

Q: I have found some message on my husbands phone to another female colleague with whom he works with and I have confronted him about it and he confirms it is only friendly message and nothing attached to it.  Ever since I keep feeling suspicious about him and I just want to read his messages. I now don't trust him anymore. How do I overcome this problem.  It is really disturbing me and I cannot concentrate on my salaah and it is making me so bitter towards him. I feel I am so sinful. Please help me and advise me how to overcome this situation.

Q: It has come to my father in laws attention that I have spoken to his second wife on three occasions. However now she says that I phoned her and revealed normal routine of the household. My father in law in turn took his anger on my husband and involved my husbands mother (my mother in law, the first wife). Thus resulting in emotional and verbal abuse, My questions are as follows:

I do realize my mistake was to pick up the phone and innocently respect her. Did I do wrong by adhering to the phone call? Should I prove to these inlws that I did not contact her and she phoned me? Is it right for my mother in law to order me not to communicate with any near or distant relatives of my husband saying that because she does not talk to my relatives, I should not talk to hers. My mother in law wish to not interact with me at all. Should my husband now be obligated to remove me from the household that belong to my father in law? I feel they are purposely trying to break my marriage, how does one make sabr in this circumstance?

Q: I would like to know what advices can I give to a sister who is learning Aleema but is a chain smoker?

Q: My husband thinks that his a Waliuallah. He reads 24/7. He is a 6 times namaaz reader including tajud namaaz. He always talk Islamic. He doesn't go anywhere. His friends can't joke about anything. He doesn't spent time with our kids. He'll take us somewhere if it benefits him only. Pleas help! Is this the way to go about being a Waliuallah?

Q: My husband has a habit of calling his friends (girls). I don't like ths thing and he is totally addicted to calling them and talking to them for a long period of times. What will I do in this situation? He says that these girls are only good friends of his and he won't stop whether I like it or not? He says that he is not sleeping with her just talking with her so its all mine fault. He says "k tmhare zehniat kharab hy".

Q: My question is in regards to forced marriage divorce, if a women who has fled her home and has had no contact with her family for 10 months due to violence and sexual abusive in the marriage requires a divorce, how can this be done without going to a islamic court and making contact with family in fear of further abusive/violence. The women is also pregnant with her new partner (which we know is not islamically correct). The nikah was done in Pakistan. How long before you can remarry after a divorce whilst being pregnant as a result of new relationship and paternity not being required?

Q: Nowadays I am worried due to several reasons. Among others, one reason is that it is my greatest desire to follow the Shariah, including keeping a fist length beard and attending congregational prayers.However, as you know that especially in regards to the beard, most people are mocked and opposed by family, friends etc. Also I want that my family members follow Shariah more completely, though Alhamdulillah they are quite practicing Muslims already but dont have enough knowledge of fiqh. Mufti sahib, I want you to advise me some zikr, wazeefa etc, but which is not very lengthy  so Allah relieves me of worries and tension and gives me tawfiq in adhering to Shariah and acheiving my wordly goals also.

Q: A friend of ours daughter got married exactly a year ago to date ,three weeks ago we learned that the daughter landed in hospital with serious injuries, it came to light that her husband was beating her up from day one and never told a soul not even her own parents. She was released from hospital a week ago and went to stay with an uncle of the family, the husband telephoned his battered wife at her uncles house informing her that his family is in their flat search through their clothes. A couple a days ago the girls parents received some of her stuff via freight services and a letter attached to the goods stating that their son has given the girl a talaq. It is believed that the boys family is rich and they took all the best stuff belonging to the girl for them, they threaten that the girl no longer has any right to see or talk to the so call ex husband, the young lady several times called her husband on his mobile and at his work place. Everybody seems to play with saying that no such person works there. The husband did not issue any talaq but the boys parents did and they are all so called pious persons with long white beards,white thobs on. The girls mother is devastated and the young wife wants to be with her husband, it was brought to our attention that the boys mother had another girl in mind and was not happy with her sons choice. Can this really be Muslims doing such evil things? What can this young wife do please advise urgently?​

Q: I have been married few years and there are problems in the marriage which I consulted the ulama, yet my husband continues his nasty behaviour.  The problem now is that with regards to inlaws too, my husband refuses to mend the relationship, although having full power to do so, he rather avoids the issues and subjects himself to be in the 'middle'. He has always had this habit of lying to me abt every small thing, and I always find out the truth later on. It has come to a point where he even lies and says that he is going to do some work for inlaws but instead, he takes them out and enjoys the day with them, how bad is this? Please give me advice.