Advice

Q: I work for a company where the owner of two companies on the same premises is a Muslim. I am one single person running the one company as if it is my own ,the other company employs over 20 staff and some temporary staff. In the second company all the managers and staff are non-muslims,and they earn huge salaries some 3 to 4 times my salary. Last year the company purchased four new bakkies, a Mercedes and a car for the owners daughter. Now in February the company is on the verge of purchasing a 4x4 double cab bakkie and a new car for the daughter because she does not like to drive a manual vehicle so one of the reps will be driving her car as a company vehicle. For the past two years to current the company I am running makes so much business that it is paying the salaries of all the employees of the other company and all increase I get every year is R200 rand and 1/2 of it goes to TAX. I do not get over time, no lunch break. I start from 7 am to 17h30 sometimes until after six but my normal working hours is from 8h00 am to 16h30pm and on Friday suppose to work till 15h00pm. I do go for Jummah it works out to +/- 13.5 to 15 hour overtime per week, 60 hours per month. Not a single cent is being paid to me or a thank you. But the other company those staff get their overtime even if it is 10 minutes over. For 8 years I have been working like this, worst of it is the owner curses the staff by saying that we will not find any work some wear else. I have been trying to find other work but having difficulty. Many companies knows that people are desperate for work and what they are paying them is peanuts. There is no baraka in my earnings, month end it disappears into thin air like water sliding through my fingers. What dua can I recite for baraka in my rizq and sustenance and for a better job. I definitely must come out of here, especially where Muslims are involved in fitnah and fasaad and eat anything from any take away with out considering the Hahaal issues. I cannot be part of their collaborating in sin. Please advise urgently!

Q: My husband has two daughter from his X-wife. His wife was in adultery and she divorced him and took both girls with her. She got married with other guy and divorced him too. Now she (X wife) send her oldest daughter to my home. She is now 18 years old. My husband is still paying child support for them and will continue paying for the next 5 years, until his younger daughter turns 18. First daughter is also in adultery just like mom.  X wife sent oldest daughter to my home to let her live with me and my husband. She said that she asked some people in mosque that how can she save her younger daughter from her older sister to stay out of this habbit. They told her to send her here to her father. Even she got here but she showed herself just in a week. My hubby and his x wife hid all their daughter's behavior from me. I let her stay in my house, but now my question is, I have two sons too, don't I have to save my kids from her to learn bad things. I don't want her to stay in my home. So I told my hubby to send her back as she is the punishment of her mom
not me. Why should keep her and I am not even comfortable with her, but father doesn't want to send her back as she came to live him after 13 years. Am I doing something wrong. Don't I have right to save my kids? They are just 8 and 6 years old boys. Please let me know what should I do?

Q: I met a boy and spoke to him for the purpose of marriage. It didn't take me long after that to decide that I would like to marry him. My parents did not have a problem and were happy as well. I have now been speaking to this boy for over a year because he says he still needs time to decide. According to him, he does like me but he is just very confused about getting married. Please advise me on what to do as I know now that it is haraam for me to continue speaking to him. I did try stopping but he always says that he will decide soon and he also gets upset and has a problem eating and sleeping when I do stop. Please advise on what he can do as well to help him decide.

Q: I have found some message on my husbands phone to another female colleague with whom he works with and I have confronted him about it and he confirms it is only friendly message and nothing attached to it.  Ever since I keep feeling suspicious about him and I just want to read his messages. I now don't trust him anymore. How do I overcome this problem.  It is really disturbing me and I cannot concentrate on my salaah and it is making me so bitter towards him. I feel I am so sinful. Please help me and advise me how to overcome this situation.

Q: It has come to my father in laws attention that I have spoken to his second wife on three occasions. However now she says that I phoned her and revealed normal routine of the household. My father in law in turn took his anger on my husband and involved my husbands mother (my mother in law, the first wife). Thus resulting in emotional and verbal abuse, My questions are as follows:

I do realize my mistake was to pick up the phone and innocently respect her. Did I do wrong by adhering to the phone call? Should I prove to these inlws that I did not contact her and she phoned me? Is it right for my mother in law to order me not to communicate with any near or distant relatives of my husband saying that because she does not talk to my relatives, I should not talk to hers. My mother in law wish to not interact with me at all. Should my husband now be obligated to remove me from the household that belong to my father in law? I feel they are purposely trying to break my marriage, how does one make sabr in this circumstance?

Q: I would like to know what advices can I give to a sister who is learning Aleema but is a chain smoker?

Q: My husband thinks that his a Waliuallah. He reads 24/7. He is a 6 times namaaz reader including tajud namaaz. He always talk Islamic. He doesn't go anywhere. His friends can't joke about anything. He doesn't spent time with our kids. He'll take us somewhere if it benefits him only. Pleas help! Is this the way to go about being a Waliuallah?

Q: My husband has a habit of calling his friends (girls). I don't like ths thing and he is totally addicted to calling them and talking to them for a long period of times. What will I do in this situation? He says that these girls are only good friends of his and he won't stop whether I like it or not? He says that he is not sleeping with her just talking with her so its all mine fault. He says "k tmhare zehniat kharab hy".

Q: My question is in regards to forced marriage divorce, if a women who has fled her home and has had no contact with her family for 10 months due to violence and sexual abusive in the marriage requires a divorce, how can this be done without going to a islamic court and making contact with family in fear of further abusive/violence. The women is also pregnant with her new partner (which we know is not islamically correct). The nikah was done in Pakistan. How long before you can remarry after a divorce whilst being pregnant as a result of new relationship and paternity not being required?

Q: Nowadays I am worried due to several reasons. Among others, one reason is that it is my greatest desire to follow the Shariah, including keeping a fist length beard and attending congregational prayers.However, as you know that especially in regards to the beard, most people are mocked and opposed by family, friends etc. Also I want that my family members follow Shariah more completely, though Alhamdulillah they are quite practicing Muslims already but dont have enough knowledge of fiqh. Mufti sahib, I want you to advise me some zikr, wazeefa etc, but which is not very lengthy  so Allah relieves me of worries and tension and gives me tawfiq in adhering to Shariah and acheiving my wordly goals also.