Advice

Q: Is it ok to lie in order to save yourself from trouble if what you are doing is not sinful at all but only looked down upon because of culture? If so or if not can you please provide an example?

Q: I passed my puberty and now as an adult can I marry... How should I convince my parents about it. 

Q: I said to a man in a video that he is the son of a kaafir, what if the man is the son of a Muslim. And also I said to a Muslim person that he is a kafir without knowing his religeon and then I came to know that he is a Muslim. What to do?

Q: My daughter Gave Birth First child how long is she allowed to stay with her parents? Both mum & child need mums attention Husband being inconsiderate wants her home as theirs no one to baby sit him. He’s complaining and nagging my daughter that driving from work to our home is tiring and no one to see to him. As a father I have been very patient.

Q: A few days ago I came to know that nikaah happened jokingly is valid. Since then I have been trying to remember whether I ever happened to jokingly do nikah with any of my cousins or friends. In my knowledge nothing like this has ever happened. But I am in constant doubt what if it has ever happened but I don’t remember. Should i ignore these doubts?

Q: My husband cheated on me and got another wife but he doesn't take any care of me or my baby. Its been 2 years now. He never takes any responsibility of me and our baby. He is too busy with his new wife. He never contacts me or when I call he uses bad language and tells lies. Can I ask for divorce?

Q: I have told my husband a few times that I want a Talaq due to the following reason. We married for 18 years

1. He has never gave me nafaqah

2. He is always rude to me

3. He is disrespectful towards me

4. He does not contribute to the childrens health and clothes needs.

5. He is always asking me for money and never paying it back.

6. He never considers that by not paying me back that whatever debts I may have incurred cannot be covered when he does not pay me back.

7. He has not been intimate with me for 4 years and even then it was only twice a year.

8. He has nothing left over for me never gets me anything for my birthday for the whole 18 years that we are married.

9. He never stands up for me against his family when there was ever an issue.

10. He comes from a wealthy family and they know he does not provide for me or his kids.

11. My kids are studying hifz and he will never sit with them /relieve me sometimes to test them.

He has just asked me for money again this month and I told him No. He got upset to which I said that I was going to resign and stay at home so that he cant ask me for money anymore. He then said he wants a Talaq. So I told him it just proves that he would not talaq me before because he needed me for my money. Now that I will not have money should I resign I will be of no use to him and he cannot take responsibilty for a wife and children.

He has so many debts . I cannot understand what he does with his money that he earns as he is a plumbing contractor. Our rent is even behind.

I need some advise going forward as I feel the talaq is the best thing for me and my children

Q: Im separated with my husband for nine months now. Due to the emotional problems I went through with my mother in law and my husband hasn't supported me in that and even whilst separated, I've tried through three moulaanas to make it work but there has been no improvement or any sort of support either. I've had many emotional breakdowns but now I finally want a talaq. Please help me as I can't keep going on like this.

Q: What should a woman do if everybody treats her unwanted and even after her repenting and spending her life sincerely, people try treat her badly. Who does Allah disgrace and what should they do to be saved? 

Q: Is reminding someone of their past errors allowed in Islam especially when it was something haraam?