Advice

Husband not interested in having children

Q: I want to know about azal in Islam as my husband don't want to have children from marriage up till now, which is 8 years already. He don't want children  for the next 5-6 years and is insisting that I take family planning medicine but I dont want to take it because it is affecting my body badly and I get sick very fast from them. What is the right of the wife in this situation? Should I live with him or separate?

Marital problems

Q: I want to ask you about a good prayer to make my husband good as he is changed after he came to dubai and meeting friends. He keeps telling everything about us to his mom and she never find his mistake. I am from maldives and he is frm india a Christian he is . When we got married he converted to Islam and he was good when we were staying in maldives. But now he met his old friends and always goin to drink and doesn't care about me fights with me leaves me crying and goes out with girls and boys to party. And I am pregnant 2 months now and still he makes me cry always. I am very sad please help me to find a solution and tell me good dua to make him realise those friends are not good and to make him love Islam more.

Husband leaving wife and children

Q: If husband left his wife and kids without any kind of support (deeni and dunyawi) after came back 20 months and still not support. But he wants to meet his wife only for sexual meet and wife refused him bcz the older childs doesnt want to accept again his father to enter home (bcz his badest behaviour with his family) and he came to Canada just to pick them up his mother father and go back home after few months. In this condition if wife refused to sexual contact his husband,so any sin to the wife?

Father insulting husband

Q: I am a Muslim woman and I would like to know in Islam if a father hits his daughter who is married without valid reason and my husband tells him to stop with respect and he then hits my husband and uses excessive vulgar languages in the open public.

I, the daughter have held my dads clothes to stop him from going to hit my husband but he continued to slap me wildly infront of many people.

He does not like my husband because my husband is not well to do and is very simple and calm . He has a quite nature and never argues with my parents from the time I have been married . On a daily basis my father insults him tries to put him down infront of other people uses languages to him infront of me all because in life my dad out of his own will had paid for my hospital bills. But that was on his own will as my husband could not afford it and I have agreed that he couldn't afford a private hospital rather government which I was very happy to go to.

He insults my husbands parents and put them to value infront of many people . He shows off to people what my husbands parents position is and disgraces them all the time .

My father is very nice but his attitude and pride of money is very bad . If he pays anything out of his own will for me or my children he will insult and tell the public he paid for that and he says it in such a way that makes my husband down in the public eye.

I am a very blessed woman to have such a great husband . Allah has given me the best man as my partner and I dislike when I see him getting insulted . I cannot take it anymore and I do not know what to do . The only thing I have asked my father is to guide my husband in business but my father rules his life and wants to fight for everything.

Delaying nikaah till after studies

Q: I am struggling with this issue for some time and would like to receive some good advice inshallah.

I have met a good Muslim girl (as is common these days) and wish to pursue a halaal relationship with her. Her parents are aware of me, accept me and are very welcoming of the idea. However, my parents are not aware of the extent of my relationship with her. After a brief conversation I had (regarding marriage, not regarding the girl) with them, they have two issues.

1. We are a Pakistani family and the girl is from a South African family. They are concerned regarding the effects of the difference in culture on our household. They are typical joint family people while the girl and I myself are not too fond of that idea. Nonetheless, the issue is that they do not prefer to marry outside culture, while I disagree as I believe the requirement to be Muslim, not Pakistani. Regardless of that I have spent 8 years of my 22-year life in South Africa and as such am a part of this culture as much as I am a part of Pakistani culture.

2. They do not want to even initiate a conversation about marriage until I have graduated and have a stable job. I completely agree with the idea, that they want me to be able to support and provide for her and I will accept no exception. However, that will take around 2-3 years and until then our relationship will either be haraam or non-existent. The girl's family will not accept me just dating her for the next 3 years and Islamically this is wrong also. I wish to know what to do about this situation.

Lastly, if I were to approach my parents with the idea of Nikaah, what would be the best and safest way to go about doing this. 

Marital problems

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a Hindu married woman. This affair is going on for a while now and she travels alot. He has changed and hits me and denies it. He even threw me out but doesn't want to break this haraam relationship. I have a son 11 years old and we are married for 20 years. I need a dua to destroy this enemy.

Stray thoughts

Q: I was talking with my mother on the phone and I was telling her about my husbands accident that he got 2 times accident yesterday and then I said that (k Allah ny mushkil sa bacha liya) the same time I felt did I say something wrong then again I said to my mother (Allah ny liya) the purpose of asking is, is it first sentence wrong but maybe intention was not wrong after hang up the fone i am upset is it (kufriya sentence) mary mind mein ya waswasa aa raha ha i am worried mara qaim ha please answer me i didnt say intentionally or preplanned but i am worried

Inviting a Christian to Islam

Q: I invited a Christian business aquaintence to Islam. Below is his reply, how do I answer him?

"Jesus appears more than Muhammad in the Quran. Find out why and tell me. Who made the blind see and the lame walk in the Quran? If you give me an honest answer. I will embrace Islam. Peace be with you."