Q: I am unable to adjust with my in-laws. The moment I decide to have a family feeling they taunt me for my work done and my mom's family related to dowry. I don't want to have any hard feelings on them please suggest me Islamic way to deal my relationship with them and my husband. Going to be a mother soon please suggest me some things to do to have a obedient child.
Q: I am a male, 26 years old and newly married (7months). My wife and I are very good humans with average Islamic knowledge but very happy. I provide almost every common thing she needs and she is very happy in today's era, a car, house, clothes, food hangout, movies etc. very good and my parents are really happy with her. I have been a a bad human before and only Allah can forgive for the sins but I hate the past and very happy with present and looking for a better future.. Since I have had multiple sexual relations before and everything, I don't have a high sex drive anymore and my wife is pretty much a virgin as I know her family background and since I know women alot, I can tell that after living for 7 months with her... The thing is she is not interested in sex and because I have done so much bad in my past I also feel fine and I am never upset or sad when she gives me excuse if I try... But I am just scared since I want to be a nice Muslim. If this is my duty to satisfy her or if angels or Allah is angry at her bcz of me? I don't want sex from her if she cannot give me and I want her to go to heaven and that's why even if I have 1% sad feeling about sex I just say Allah I am happy and not upset with her I swear dont be angry on. But on my part I am scared if she curse me for not giving her sex? Since as I know women well but in this case by grace of Allah I am very nice husband overall so I have no doubt she is happy with everything else also the other thing I am scared is if she doesn't find me attractive? Since I'm not a handsome guy compare to average but women do get attached with guys if together so that shouldn't be issue.. My question is is it ok if we r happy and we don't sex at all or is it a must to have sex also i dont want kids now aswell so sex for pleasure is the only thing I'm worried about her the most.
Q: I recently said "Allah is equal to someone, and that person is no one." Is that shirk? I am a good Muslim and I do good deeds. Please respond.
Q: My mom had an affair...please help...I belong to a pretty religious family...We family members love eachother alot...we have heart to heart connection...but we are facing money problems from alot of time as my father dont undrstand about my mother's and his daughters daily needs. My mom starting borrowing money from people.. I agree my father is irresponsible towards our financial needs but he is a very good father and husband.. He loves my mom alot and he doesn't have any bad habbits...but he doesn't give her enough of money and he mistreated her verbally..he doesn't give her enough money because we have alot of financial problems .. my mom and dad have suffered alot...my mom strived hard to be a good wife but the situation became worst when we had no money and she had to borrow money from a man...whom she loved before marriage...as time passed she started texting and meeting him and they fell in love again...she now loves him alott...The relationship might be sexual too...but my mom is very religious and cries alot during namaz and loves my father too..but i just cant accept that my mom is having this kind of relationship with someone..It makes me cry everytime..It feels so bad to see her doing all this harram stuff...my heart breaks...I am not able to tolerate it anymore...my father trust's her alot...but she doesn't find enough of love in him...So she started falling for that man again...I don't know how to face all this anymore..if I ask her, all she says is that he is her friend...and the thing is I cant even force her or tell her about it..because she loves that man alot and she might even try to harm herself if something happens as she has suffered alot about this money problem, debts and all....What should I do?
Q: I am married to someone whos already married. He promised to give me the same in due time. He hasn't told her because shes got 3 kids and shes gonna leave and doesnt want to lose his kids. He opresses me now after 2 years of sticking by him. He says that he doesnt even know if our nikah is proper when it is. He also says that I'm not his wife. I am really angry and I want to tell the first wife, but I dont know if I should. Now he is telling me that he doesnt want it anymore because his family, his dad and sisters, mum has found out. What do I do?
Q: I am a working as a teacher from the past 7 Years. I had a student who be my student for 4 years. She wears proper Hijab/ abaya in my presence. In the third year she called me Baba (Father) and from then we became father and daughter.
Now my question for you is that is it allowed in Islam to have any relation like this?
Secondly and most importantly she sometimes puts her head on my shoulder and I, many times give bosa (kiss) to her head only. Till now the intentions are pure but is it allowed in Islam? or just to have relation is allowed or bosa (kiss) or other acts like this are not allowed.
Q: If a Muslim tells a lie intentionally or unintentionally or by mistake or he breaks an oath if he can't keep it or breaks it intentionally or because he forgot or he does not pay someone's amanat will he remain a Muslim?
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1. I used to make sincere tawba but now a days I cannot make tawba because I do it repeatedly.. Such as I touch Ayah during hayez unintentionally but there is no other choice as I read islamic books and ayah is always there even in siratun nabi.. Should I stop reading books?
2. I want to have good akhlaq but I have bad temper and low self esteem.. How to have good akhlaq and a clean heart?
3. I want to give dawah but I don't get correct words or the confidence to give dawah..
4. I want to be with correct people ma shaa Allah I go to talim they are always in a spirit to help.. But I want to avoid backbiting there is no such place where there is no backbiting and negativity and I also try to read books but there is always contradiction.I started reading Naim Siddiqui's book on our Prophet but his thinking was kind of political. Should I read this kind of writer's books?
5. After listening to a lecture of Maulana Tariq Jamil I used to make dua in my mind before salam in namaz, sometimes I took more time than the tasbeeh is my salah valid?
6. Sometimes I feel Allah is not helping such as I said Bismillah wala barakatullah with belief that there will be baraqah but the rice got overcooked and my mother complained that it caused her stomach disease ,I wanted a blessed ramadan the first two days tarawih was invalid and I suffered so much waswasa I had to make wudu 10 11 times.. I started to wear full niqab the next very day something happen that never happened when I didn't put niqab.. I wanted to hide and go to another room in order to do parda but all the rice dal fall on the floor in front of everybody.. What is the explanation behind these.. I am trying to please Allah!
7. When I am on my period how should I do aamal? Should I do the zikir which I use to do after every salah?
8. I want to be in a routine but I always fail to do so.. Please tell me what a good Muslim's routine should be..
Please make dua for me and my husband (may be he is trying to become a good muslim but his environment is not deeni) and my family..
Q: My question is that I lost my youth (jawani) and my parents are forcing me to marry, but I cant because of fear of ruining another persons life by marriage, so can I marry?
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1. I am having lots lots of bad thought So bad i dnt feel like saying it. I get bad thought about Allah The Holy Quraan Islaam sometime Prophet. What to do. Sooo bad thought n i just try to move away the thought but i feel sometimes they r soo near to my mouth then i think have i said anything about Kufr.
2. As far as i think i try not to say it verbally but sometimes my head get fill with sooo much bad thought n it feels like i have said it. I get sooo bad thought about Allah Quraan What to do then i think if my nikaah is valid if am sleeping with my husband if its halaal.
3. I try my best to be a better Muslimah every day. Now i give saadqah like $1 Some times more now sometime say i want to buy something i have$20 n i havr Change n my mind say put saadqah n i dont put would i be sinful. Sometime i take out money to save n something say put it saadqah so if o dnt put im sinful n if i used to money for my stuff is i wrong? I do put money in Saadqah but sometimes when i pick up a bigger note my mind say put that in saadqah if i dnt put am i wrong?
4. I have these problem with getting thought as i say now something in mind say make this oath i dont want to make oath because i u break oath u have to give kaffarah. . Now in my heart n mind comes make this oath n i dnt say it verbally does it count? Sometimes the whole sentence for oath runs in heart n mind but i try not to say it does it count
5. Iif u think of oath does it count
6. If i make intention to give away clothes or items in charity can i changed my mind after n take back the stuff once o haven't given on charity?
7. In my mind comes il put this clothes for saadqah n then i change my mind can i take back.
8. If i want to give a gift to a friend i take out gift to give to her n then change mind for someone else is it permissible
9. If i want to give my friend cousion or family gift say jewellery clothes shoes n they where it would i be sinful if they were it n sometimes if nahmahram c them.
10. If i give perfume to someone n they wear it n men smell it would i be sinful
11. Somethings my mind say give this in saadqa charity n i dnt give n i used myself would i be wrong?
12. If i say this thing is haraam on me would it become haraam on me to used it.
13. I get thought in my mind to say that this is haraam on me. N i dnt say it but sometimes it seems so near in mouth then i think have i said it.
14. The other day something came in mind n tell me say ur husband is haraam for u forever i didn't say it but it came as the sentence in mind if i said it does my husband become haraam for me?
15. My mind tells me so much thing about oaths thoughts bad things sometime things u should not say about someone that it would mean slandering my mind plays alot of things.
16. How can i overcome all of these thought ? I dnt want to make oaths but they come i dnt want to say thing that are permissible haraam but the come what to do?
17. Another question in mind its not permissible to do vidoes n picture that what we know so we try to avoid. Now when we lookon youtube you c moulana Taariq Jameel bayaan on videos hes a very big ulama we respect him and u havr many other religious scholars some who are on vidoes n picture now what is the ruling now i dnt want to say something wrong im scared supposed is kufr?
They r ulamas n they r way higher in knowledge than me i respect them i am happy to hear their bayaans but a thought was bothering me about the video n picture now i tell my self i dnt no what their intention is they r spreading the knowledge of deen.
Now i was reading fatwas below
http://islamqa.org/hanafi/mufti-online/21759
So when i read the hadith about the picture makers does that include videos When i listen to the ulama bayaans i get bad thought bout them which i dnt wany. May Allah grant us all Jannah They r pious respected Ulamas they have more knowledge than me. But when i c their videos i get these ad thought about them what to do.
http://islamqa.org/hanafi/mufti-online/21759 Copy n paste link.
Please help me please my mind have very bad thoughts Abdullah Ibn Masood (Radiyallaahu Anhu) narrates that the Messenger (sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The people who will receive the worst punishment in the sight of Allah will be those who make pictures.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
Aisha (Radiyallaahu Anha) narrates that once the Messenger (sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) entered (her house) while there was a curtain with pictures in the house. (Upon seeing it) his face changed and he removed the curtain. He then said, “The people who will receive the worst punishment on the day of judgement will be those who make these pictures.” (Bukhari)
Ibn Abbas (Radiyallaahu Anhu) narrates that he heard Messenger (sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) saying, “Everyone who makes pictures will be in Hellfire. A creature will be created for every picture that he made. It (the creature) will then punish him in Hellfire.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
When i watch the videos on bayaan then these hadith play in my mind. I dont want to think bad bout the scholars that does video bayaan but these hadith comes n bad image about the scholars come Now Allah can forgive any one I Dnt no about myself cuz i myself trying to avoid pictures on phone as well trying to become a better muslim May Allah forgive me as well. Pleasr please help me Muslimah sister I worry about nikaah n if i said anything on kufr or shirk.