Advice

Q: I have a very weird question and you may think I am being irrational but please hear me out. I am married to my husband of 4 years and we have a young infant. I have been noticing for the past year or so that my Mother has taken a liking to my husband. And it is not in a civil Mother in law way, she likes him romantically. I have thought I could be misled and confused but this is why its taken me a year to be fully convinced. I will explain some of the things she does to clarify my assumptions. Firstly i do not live with my parents I stay there every school holiday. My Mum has become very nosy if i am on my phone she comes to look at it. If i am alone in my room with my daughter and my husband video calls she would barge in and interfere (take note she pulls my daughter and gets on the video to him). She always takes my phone. When my husband comes she tries to get his attention she walks by him from the next room in a way where she cant see me but she looks at him. Another thing is she is absolutely furious when i tell her that my husband is loyal. Take note she is always trying to cause problems e.g. his family are bad to you. She wants me to tell him and it always causes us to fight and its silly things. She does this when nobody is around. She also tries to get him closer to my sisters. For example my husband eight now is on holiday so my mum asked me if hes enjoying it and i had told her that he is actually bored. The next thing i see is she rings my sister and tells her that my husband is bored he needs someone to talk to. Basically indirectly telling her to call him. She tries to make me jealous with my own husband. Bare in mind i think my husband knows this i am sure she told him things in my absence. He has told me that my mum is bad so i'm sure he knows. There are so many examples but those are basic things i have noticed. She acts like she is his 'thauba' wife because when my brothers want to eat she acts like it is not her job. She takes my daughter and acts as if shes here to visit. She doesnt like me bonding with my child. Please help me is there a dua or something i can read on her? I trust my husband but i feel like what if he listens one day. I hate to say this but she is acting like a shaythan always trying to come in between our marriage.

Q: My mother has selected a bride for my elder brother. He is not happy with the skin color of the bride however the girl comes from a good family and has good character. But my elder brother is not happy as all his friends have beautiful wives. Please provide an explanation so that me, my mother and family can convince my brother. Is there any salah or ayah to offer and fill my brothers life with piece and love?

Q: My husband often verbally abuses me and I have been enduring it for the past 1 year 6 months. I told his parents and they even advised him yet there is no change. What should I do?

Q: My parents were separated when I was two  and divorced when I was 10. Now I live with my father and his 2nd wife. Relationship between her and me is not stable since her entry in the house. She always says something objectionable about me to father and father doesn't investigates. She ruined my character in front of him and my neighbours. Every time hates me. Does anything to distract me from studies, and I am preparing for medical. But she always disturbs me. What shall I do? I complain to father. She puts the blame on me. Anyhow..! What is the solution..? I am not able to tolerate these things anymore.

Q: If you do not agree with the decision your husband has of wanting a second wife, just because you are carrying his second child while wanting a second wife and he gets upset. Can one still get a faskh?

Q: I am living and working in Denmark. I am having a problem with my wife regarding third child. I hereby want to explain you my problem in details. When I married with my wife she had the same problem (Back Pain) that she has today but after the marriage she want baby as soon as possible and she got pregnant after two years of marriage and than after first baby she had the desire for second baby as soon as possible and she got second baby after one year of our first baby and when I asked her for third baby she said that she wish to have third baby but after two years. Whenever I ask her for third baby she replies me that wait some more time and now three years have gone after second baby. I asked my wife now I want third baby because its three years now after the second baby and she replied me that she don't want any more baby due to her disease (Back Pain and bawaseer). Then I asked another Mufti from Denmark. He said that she can't stop me to have third baby. My question is that her disease is the same as it was in beginning, only bawaseer (piles) ka masla new ha. I need this answer with reference to Quran and Sunna because I want my third baby and after your e-mail to her she totally denied for third baby. Looking forward to hear from you.

Q: I am aged 22 from India. Two years ago I fell in love with a girl. She was a cancer patient. Her parents came to know about us and were positive for our marriage. My parents said first finish your degree and get a job and we will assist you in marrying as you wish. Days passed and it is because of her I started offering Salah..Allah made me turn to him through her. I was So much worried about her cancer.. And days passed ..I changed a Thug..Smoking drinking..Etc..And we had problems ..We were about to break up ..And then..I started salah once again.. And allah gave Her back to me..And at a period of time..Once again I was moving in opposite Direction. Smoking and Drinking. In november 22 2015 she went very Bad that her organs stopped working that she had to undergo dialysis. It was like a calling bell from Allah.."O my servent come back to your lord".I was So afraid of losing her..I started offering my salah..And on december 22 After offering my maghrib salah..I heard a recitation from quran saying.."We Will test you through loss of life. If u can't handle the pain ask allah ya Allah if I can go through this let me..If I can't take me" . Suddenly it Striked my mind lyk she has gotta go...And to I had dreams lyk ambulance in Front of her home..But I never left my salah..Asking allah to save her..Cure Her..On jan 6 2016..Inna lillahi wa innae ilaihi rajiyoon.. She passed Away..But wallahi ..I never had a negative thought in my mind like..Allah Hates me..Or he didn't accept my duaa..Instead I had thoughts like my allah Knows what's best for me..He never does bad for me..In sha allah..Allah will Make me join with her in jannah..I still can't believe she left me..I weep Remembering those beautiful days spent with her..But wallahi I say allah Made me stronger.. Am right here messaging you its all because of allah..If I Never prayed ..Surely I would have ended up with suicide.. Now am getting Closer to allah .I can feel it..He is getting me closer..There have been days That I have thought why allah is always doing something with me .Yet still There are people out there enjoying life..(my cousins) ..But now I realize Allah loves me a lot..He gave me a ticket to jannah..In sha allah I should Make me built up and be capable for it..Now during my supplications I ask Allah to make me join with her in jannath ul firdhous.. Now when I offer my Salah..Tears comes out uncontrollably remembering the day of qiyamah..My Question is will Allah make me join with her in aakhira..?

Q: Can you tell me the tips to wake up for Tahajjud prayer?

Q: I was married before and have three kids from a previous nikaah. I am now married for 7 months and have no kids. I do all the house work, cook, clean, iron and it's taking a lot of strain one me. I don't have a helping hand and requested to my husband that help me get a helper even if it's 3 days in a week. He refused saying he does not dirty the house, my kids do and said he will never get me a helper. I asked him if was his biological kids make the house dirty would he not pay. He said he will pay if his kids dirty the house. His kids live with his ex-wife and Alhumdullillah he does everything for her and kids, which is the right thing to do. I am depressed because all I do is clean and cook and iron. I don't even have time to go to ta'leem. It's just a mess. Please advise if this is the right thing to say. Even if he doesn't get a helper for me, I will carry on this way but does it have or did he have to tell me in this manner?