Advice

Q: I have really low self esteem, lack confidence and tend to over think situations. Could you please prescribe any duas that may help my situation?

Q: Please advise. My wife does not want to have intercourse with me. I find my self wanting to stimulate myself using her shoe, can I do this? I am attracted to her feet. She won't even come close to me or satisfy me in any way. Please help I don't want to end the marriage.

Q: My husband has issued his first wife with three talaaqs years ago but still continued living with her as a married couple. When we got married last year she requested him to give her talaaq again which he gave her three talaaqs again. After three months, he issued her again with six talaaqs which she refused to accept. Husband ask me not to tell anyone that he has irrevocably divorced her and claims he only wants to care for her. Husband then left me in august while I was pregnant had me thrown out of rental home. Didn't bother finding out where I'm staying nothing. Accuse me of having affair, but was living with his ex-wife and even paying the bond of her house. He took back the car he bought me and allowed her to drive it. Took her on holidays etc. but refuses to set me free. I have consulted with three muftis and was told he doing a injustice upon me and my child who was born two months ago. Currently all his assets his house policies business she will inherited because he hasn't change his will. Islamically he knows what he is doing is against Allah Ta'ala's law but he doesn't seem to care. A mufti has spoken to him. He said he will rectify his wrongs but he hasn't. Will it be a sin upon me if I apply for a faskh because I cannot be involved in him committing zinah and pretending its okay. Also his ex is very abusive towards me and has always been and he allows it. She has even stated that he says my son is not his. Please advise.

Q: My husband drinks and gambles and has extra marital affairs with women, comes late at night three, four o'clock, does not give me and my daughters time, not even talk to me, always in anger, does not give me money, but he never beats me up or abuses, does not allow me to do job, but i'm totally fed up of his behaviour. Even I am in depression sometimes thinking of suicide. Can I seek divorce from him? How? What about sponsorship of daughters? Please guide me. Although I know Allah Ta'ala does not like divorce.

Q: I have a fourteen year old daughter. Does Mufti saheb advise me to send her for Aalima classes (day classes) or should I teach her at home. If so, what kitaabs can I teach her? I feel the aalima classes have become such that if one's daughter is not going to school, she still has to be 'studying' something. If you tell people your daughter is at home, it's like a disgrace. Please advise.

Q: Is it allowed in Islam for a husband to complain about his wife to his parents who in turn bad mouths his wife as well instead of giving him good advise?

Q: Is it right for in-laws to pass remarks and hint at the daughter in-law calling her a Satan, jaahill and judging her for 26 years?

Q: My husband and I have a daughter Alhamdullilah and Allah has blessed us with twin boys who will be born soon In Shaa Allah. I am stuck as to what to do. My mother who has decided to marry again this will be her forth marriage but this choice has made both myself and my sister very unhappy we are heartbroken about it as she has before gotten married without our knowledge. Now this time she has told us that she made this choice and did not ask our opinion or how we felt. I know it is Sunnah to be married, but this decision has caused so much pain to my marriage as well as my husband is always saying really bad things about her and I am constantly having to pick sides. I cannot find a way to solve this I am suffering but cannot explain to my husband that she is still my mother and I need to respect her but what if I can never accept her decision to marry again. I don't want my children to suffer as well and I am afraid this will cause her to not meet with her grandchildren. May Allah guide in this difficult time. Based of the above. Is what my mother is doing correct by choosing to marry over the heartbreak of her children?

Q: Is it allowed for family members to go against rules that parents have made for their kids? For example, when a child has an upset tummy, parents ask family not to give the child things to eat without asking the parents first?

Q: Is there any Islamic reason for a person sleep talking almost every night?