Advice

Q: Is it right for in-laws to pass remarks and hint at the daughter in-law calling her a Satan, jaahill and judging her for 26 years?

Q: My husband and I have a daughter Alhamdullilah and Allah has blessed us with twin boys who will be born soon In Shaa Allah. I am stuck as to what to do. My mother who has decided to marry again this will be her forth marriage but this choice has made both myself and my sister very unhappy we are heartbroken about it as she has before gotten married without our knowledge. Now this time she has told us that she made this choice and did not ask our opinion or how we felt. I know it is Sunnah to be married, but this decision has caused so much pain to my marriage as well as my husband is always saying really bad things about her and I am constantly having to pick sides. I cannot find a way to solve this I am suffering but cannot explain to my husband that she is still my mother and I need to respect her but what if I can never accept her decision to marry again. I don't want my children to suffer as well and I am afraid this will cause her to not meet with her grandchildren. May Allah guide in this difficult time. Based of the above. Is what my mother is doing correct by choosing to marry over the heartbreak of her children?

Q: Is it allowed for family members to go against rules that parents have made for their kids? For example, when a child has an upset tummy, parents ask family not to give the child things to eat without asking the parents first?

Q: Is there any Islamic reason for a person sleep talking almost every night?

Q: I am a 29 years old married male, married against my will (parents pressure) since last 3 years and suffering from depression since last 3 years because of it. I have a 9 months old daughter but my sexual satisfaction is not there. My wife really loves me but I unable love her back (never liked her face). I am emotionally destroyed because I really feel empty inside. I am planning to do a second marriage and for this purpose I ask a girl at my office whom I really like (she likes me too) but she is saying that I should leave my wife behind or make an agreement with her that I will spend only one day a week and the rest 6 with my second (probable) wife. I can't do this because I have heard that there is extreme punishment for inequality between wives and I am not that stone hearted to do so either, and now that girl has stopped talking with me and I am in intense depression. I can't work at my office properly, finding it hard to follow Deen because my mind is seriously disturbed since last 3 years. I wish I could die right now because its really seems impossible for me to live like this and still following Deen completely. Please make a dua for me and give me a solution.

Q: I am a married woman. My husband is impotent. What can I do to feed my sexual needs apart from fasting?

Q: I am in a difficult situation and need some help. I have been married for 6 months. My father in law gifted a house to my husband which we have been living in since the beginning. My husband has an elder sister who is divorced. She has been living with the elder brother and his family, but due to difference of opinions, some fights and due to not being enough space in their house, they can't keep her any longer. My father in-law has now asked us to take her into our house. My father in-law is married for the second time and lives with my husbands step mother, thats why its not possible for him to keep the daughter in his house. Another thing is that the sister in law has her own house (which she has rented out to someone) just 2 mins away from where we live. She is independent and works fulltime. I feel uncomfortable sharing the house with her because I have become used to having the house for my husband and me. We wont be able to have the same private life in the house with her presence. There is a big age difference between me and my sister in law and i am afraid that unwanted discussions/ fights can start in the house. What should we do in this situation? Should my husband try to ask my father in law as to why she cant live in her own house or should we just keep quiet and let her in the house?

Q: Since I am earning a basic salary and only meet my household needs for each month with only a little left over to spend on odds and ends what possible ways are there for me to ensure that my wife is able to give birth in a decent enough place that has correct treatment facilities and doctors. I under stand private hospitals are expensive and so are specialists. So is there any way that a normal gp can perform the delivery in a public hospital but at the same time ensuring that the wife giving birth gets the correct treatments. Or is there any medical aid or hospital plan available out there that us most Shar'iah compliant in order to help this need? Similarly are there any facilities that are not expensive that the wife can go to for delivery and or check ups? This is a question in need as some places are really in a bad state and to send women there and to be on those beds are not the best.

Q: Will Islam and its followers accept me? Does God really matter?