Advice

Q: I am a 29 years old married male, married against my will (parents pressure) since last 3 years and suffering from depression since last 3 years because of it. I have a 9 months old daughter but my sexual satisfaction is not there. My wife really loves me but I unable love her back (never liked her face). I am emotionally destroyed because I really feel empty inside. I am planning to do a second marriage and for this purpose I ask a girl at my office whom I really like (she likes me too) but she is saying that I should leave my wife behind or make an agreement with her that I will spend only one day a week and the rest 6 with my second (probable) wife. I can't do this because I have heard that there is extreme punishment for inequality between wives and I am not that stone hearted to do so either, and now that girl has stopped talking with me and I am in intense depression. I can't work at my office properly, finding it hard to follow Deen because my mind is seriously disturbed since last 3 years. I wish I could die right now because its really seems impossible for me to live like this and still following Deen completely. Please make a dua for me and give me a solution.

Q: I am a married woman. My husband is impotent. What can I do to feed my sexual needs apart from fasting?

Q: I am in a difficult situation and need some help. I have been married for 6 months. My father in law gifted a house to my husband which we have been living in since the beginning. My husband has an elder sister who is divorced. She has been living with the elder brother and his family, but due to difference of opinions, some fights and due to not being enough space in their house, they can't keep her any longer. My father in-law has now asked us to take her into our house. My father in-law is married for the second time and lives with my husbands step mother, thats why its not possible for him to keep the daughter in his house. Another thing is that the sister in law has her own house (which she has rented out to someone) just 2 mins away from where we live. She is independent and works fulltime. I feel uncomfortable sharing the house with her because I have become used to having the house for my husband and me. We wont be able to have the same private life in the house with her presence. There is a big age difference between me and my sister in law and i am afraid that unwanted discussions/ fights can start in the house. What should we do in this situation? Should my husband try to ask my father in law as to why she cant live in her own house or should we just keep quiet and let her in the house?

Q: Since I am earning a basic salary and only meet my household needs for each month with only a little left over to spend on odds and ends what possible ways are there for me to ensure that my wife is able to give birth in a decent enough place that has correct treatment facilities and doctors. I under stand private hospitals are expensive and so are specialists. So is there any way that a normal gp can perform the delivery in a public hospital but at the same time ensuring that the wife giving birth gets the correct treatments. Or is there any medical aid or hospital plan available out there that us most Shar'iah compliant in order to help this need? Similarly are there any facilities that are not expensive that the wife can go to for delivery and or check ups? This is a question in need as some places are really in a bad state and to send women there and to be on those beds are not the best.

Q: Will Islam and its followers accept me? Does God really matter?

Q: I did istikhara to study in a non-Muslim country which came out good. I know that in a non-Muslim country people do anti-Islamic and blasphemous activities or support them. The University itself has a professor who supports blasphemy as freedom of expression. I will not be studying under him, but he is still in that University. I am afraid that due to this, my studying there were affect my love for Islam and the Holy Prophet(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and that I may be among the bad people in the hereafter. I feel that if I do not boycott this, then I will die as a kafir or I will be questioned that why I studied under and with such people who support blasphemy. My heart says that I believe that Islam, The Holy Prophet(Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and the hereafter is important and therefore I must leave the education in that country. Please let me know what to do as the istikhara result was good and I do not know what to do.

Q: What to do when relatives (around 12 people or sometimes more than that) come to your home without invitation and it makes you so frustrated that you are unable to follow the Sunnah of hospitality, however you still take care of their comfort and food? What to do when their stay makes you extremely tired, restless and helpless. You can't sleep well. Your kids can't study and you can't go to your work place on time and also when all of these people come from another city to do their shopping and you have to take care of their children while they go to shop. Please tell me what to do. I don't want to behave badly with anyone. I don't want to make my Allah angry but their stay make me literally ill. It gives me migraine because they are extremely loud people and they keep talking late night till three. My father says it is in Deen. No matter what they do with us, we have to be nice otherwise we will get gunnaah. But I don't believe this, because in Islam there are equal rights for everyone. Allah can't let only one person suffer.

Q: Nowadays it is very common to see women in very revealing clothes in public, social media, websites etc. It's difficult for me to be looking away from so many places. Is it okay to let them be in my view if I don't induce sexual thoughts about them? Because I'm used to looking at them by now, but I still feel guilty because it is known to be sinful. Do I have to repent every time I see women wearing obscene outfits?

Q: My mother is a widower since 18 years. She raised me her daughter and my brother on her own. I am married for seven years now Alhamdulillah. My brother is married for four years. He is involved in drug addiction. He has no child yet. My mum has money and good house but no happiness at all. Life is all scattered. She wants to ask what could be the reason for such situation?