Advice

Q: I got a best friend since school years till now who has been much help to me when I am in trouble. She doesn't need anything in return but I feel that I would feel much better giving her something that is dear to me. I got this diamond ring that I love and was thinking of giving it to her as a remembrance of our friendship. I know she doesn't need it but in the same time my heart is like telling me that maybe it would be better to keep the ring and give it to my daughter when she grows up. I don't know whether its the shaitaan telling me not to. What should I do? I love my friend and I love my daughter. To whom should I give the ring?

Q: Because my husband totally owns the house we live in for 34 years, does that mean according to Islam that I cannot invite my son and his family from a previous marriage to visit us or spend a night with us. Please help me here, I was told that it is my husband's house and he has the right to refuse them, but his family and friends have the right to visit and stay. That since it is his house, and even though we are married, have 2 kids, that he has the right to tell me that I can leave his house. Please advise me, this us causing me much depression.

Q: I'm a young man that experiences semen leakage throughout the day if I don't go to the bathroom for a while. I also seldom wake up with a morning erection. However, my erections are strong and lasts when needed. I'd like to know if something like this can affect my marriage life later on? What is the remedy for this? What should I do? Please help.

Q: I like to know that if your husband forbids you to visit your mother with good reason, do you still go without his permission or abide by his command? She has done and said terrible things in past and I really want to see her, but in fear that she will control our lives and say and do those awful things again and cause us to be so stressed he thinks it's wise I stay away. What does one do in this case?

Q: Now a days I am too much distracted. Actually I am going to get back on track after a big time gap. But can't get a Push. Wazkur rabbaka iza naseeta. This ayat is striking my mind because I forgot Him. Surely, He never. Whenever I try to offer prayer, I feel it mountainous (auzubillah). I leave without any reason. Even if I pray, my body and mind doesn't support me. I feel lazy. Where Allah Ta'ala says wastaeeno bisabri was salati, innaha la Kabeeratan Illa alal khaashieen? Who are khashieen? And how can I find peace and happiness in prayer. How can I pray it happily? Also I almost always offered Farz Namaz. And ran away from sunnat and nawafil considering them unimportant. Even now I just try to run away.

Q: What is the meaning (tafsir) of these words by Luqman Al hakim (A.S): " Don't be so sweet that people swallow you up, nor so bitter that they spit you out"

Q: I need some advice on my marriage problem. After four months of my marriage my husband confessed to me that he doesn't love me at all and is in love with another girl from before marriage. He only got married to me because he was angry and wanted to get over her. He never gave any feeling like he doesn't like me at the beginning of marriage he even accepted me as a wife, it after 2 or 3 weeks I could see he was changing and had a strong gut feeling. Now he asking me for some time to change but doesn't know exactly how long it will take. He accepted he loves his ex too much he doesn't know if he could forget her and start loving me. I really wanted to know in this situation what am I supposed to be doing, are we still supposed to be staying together as wife and husband and is our marriage still valid can I also include all this is really affecting me mentally.

Q: So sad with cancer and side effects of surgery which is swelling to the hands. Can't really get on with my life. Over thinking about it everyday. Wishing life could be back to normal as it was before. Depressed most of the time. Nobody to talk to and feeling lonely.

Q: My son is studying in grade 6 in a boys class but all teachers are female. From grade 7 they are taught by male teachers as per school's rules. He is 12 years old. Please guide as to how can he avoid looking at female teachers in such a situation?