Advice

Q: I am very troubled. My husband's Iman is already weak. Once a month we travel to Johannesburg so that I can visit my parents. My husband's parents have a flat here in jhb so we stay there. I have noticed now that in the flat that was furnished buy our in-laws that there is a frame with "Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatu" writtn in arabic. Its hanging in our kitchen. The thing is the kitchen and lounge is all in one, like its bascially 1 room. And my husband watches tv in the lounge. So basically the frame is exposed to the tv and the frame obviously has Allahs name on it. Its not my flat so I can't remove it. And A am afraid to tell my husband incase he says im just being parinode and wont listen. Which would be worse because now I think he doesn't notice. What should I do?

Q: Please advise me. My husband and I are having many marital problems for the past +- 1 & 1/2 years. It's mainly because of my husband's phone. I spoke to him on many occasions but he doesn't want to change. He doesn't show love to me as well. At the moment we are not on talking terms. We only speak what is necessary. The hadith that mentions something to the effect, that the angels curse a woman whose husband is displeased with her and her ibaadah is not accepted, will I fall under this hadith? I am very worried, if my ibaadah is not accepted then how will my duas,tilaawat etc benefit me? Can Mufti Saheb please advise me.

Q: Pray for my success in this world and hereafter. Pray that Allah makes me patient during my hard times that I am facing and make me more mutaqi. Pray that I may enter a good medical college so that I may become a doctor to help and to treat needy patients. Tell me some zikr which makes my mind sharp.

Q: I need a dua to make my husband listen to me and never let anyone come between us. To free our marriage from divorce.

Q: We live with my in-laws. While I was away this weekend my husband let his 25 year old brother use our personal bathroom. There are 6 other bathrooms in the house. My husband knows that I do not like to share a bathroom. Do my in laws need permission to enter into my personal area, or his my husbands permission enough?

Q: I am 25 (male) from a well-off family and presently pursuing PhD in earth sciences with a decent fellowship but you know the environment here at the university not very pious (there is co-education in the university) and one finds it very difficult to control his emotions. Nikkah seems to be the best solution to prevent oneself in such a dirty environment but the problem is that I am not able to communicate the same to my parents. Now I request you you if you could spent some moments of your precious time to suggest me how to approach my parents for the same. I am ready to marry any girl from any nationality unless she is a pious and practicing Muslim.

Q: I am suffering from cancer and my treatment requires lots of money. My husband has left his job in order to take care of me and follow all my treatments. He has taken so much loan from his relatives to run his family needs and my treatment. Now he says me that if something happens to him its my duty that I pay the loan giving away my gold which I got from meher and also gift from my mom during marriage. I feel that is the only backup I have for emergency since I also have a baby. But my husband has plans to use my gold to invest or get property rather than simply keep in locker and give zakaat. But I am not willing. Please replay if my husband has the right to do so.

Q: I lost all my jewellery two years ago and I have not yet found it. I did a lot of wazifas.

Q: If my husband speaks to his female cousins or friends just to keep a good relation and friendly chat but I don't like it and I don't like such conversation. What should my husband do as he thinks I am over possessive and he is not doing anything wrong.

Q: I have been having great problems with my wife the last few years. She separated herself from me because of her mother telling her and the last few months she came back and we have been trying to reconcile. She's very disobedient and always fights with me but we have a child so I have tried and tried with her. When we were separated, she and her mother disrespected my mother and my father and now my family don't want me to reconcile because of this. Also she kicked me out of my home three times. I made an agreement with my wife that I will go back and live with her but I want her to sort things out with my parents just an apology to break the ice. My wife refused and just left and has completely cut me off. I want to know is this wrong what I asked of her. I do want to reconcile but know she doesn't want to anymore. I don't know what else to do. My wife only let me see my son the last few months after years and now she is doing the same again. I don't know what to do. Can you please help me.