Advice

Q: Is it ok for a husband to go on numerous holidays with his friends leaving his family behind? His argument is he provides and takes family too.

Q: My daughter who was 16 years was married to a relative. A few months into the marriage the husband seemed to have lost interest in the marriage and stopped talking to her and stopped spending time with her my wife and daughter made numerous attempts to reconcile the marriage but to no avail as the parents of the boy seemed to manage the situation from a distance and left all decisions to their son with very little input we even attempted the intervention of the jamiaat but they also failed to get any response from the boy who seemed completely disinterested in the marriage in conversations with the boys parents we were always asked for more time which we agreed to on numerous occasions however the boy than started flirting with other family females and many of the youngsters from the in-laws side started a social media campaign belittling and mocking my daughter this prompted us to ask the parents of the the boy to give her a divorce as all attempts to reconcile was fruitless as their son was not making any attempts to reconcile and encouraging family members to denigrate his wife that is my daughter his response was that he wanted to punish her after deliberations with the jamiaat and our family elders we asked for the divorce a few days later the parents of the boy dropped of a letter of divorce so my question to you is that the marriage which lasted for only +- three months before which and also during that many promises were made to her like giving her a monthly allowance,paying her medical bills,etc she even used her own money to go for mini breaks and paying for a holiday in advance which they they planned to go can she claim all the money spent on all the above and also the money spent on the wedding which in any case was a small affair. Please give advice and opinion.

Q: My qustion is about my brother inlaw: He is 23 years old and I am 27. My husband works 7 days a week and he comes home late night. On Sundays and in the mornings and evenings I am alone with my brother inlaw. We live in uk and have just one bedroom and living room where he sleeps. My problem is I am really not happy about sharing my life with him. I don't trust him and life is hard since I have to cover self while cooking, going to bathroom, etc. I have spoke to my husband about it but he doesn't care. My brother inlaw lives here illegally and he has got the option to live somewhere else as well by his own, the only difference will be that has to pay his own rent. My husband don't want that because he is after saving as much as money as he can. I feel angry and especially that I can't have my privacy and his brother finds out everything I won't like to tell him and so my in-laws through him. In last time me and my husband are having lots of arguments and he even gave me one talaq for no reason  because we had an argument on his brother. Now my question is: is it wrong in Islam if I don't want to live with my brother in-law? My husband spends more time with him then with me. I feel upset. Is not my rights bigger then his brother? Shouldnt he be more with me? I love my husband but I feel so much neglected that I'll say I'll leave him. My other questions is: What if I complain to the home office anonymously if it's allowed in Islam. I feel wrong to do so since we paid 7000£ for his brother to get here and I thought it'll be good so my husband will have some support, but I didn't know he'll live with us.

Q: Should a person cut relations and move away from parents and other close relations if he or she is being made to feel isolated because of failure to adhere to the societal norm of free mixing? The individual in question feels that he is being an inconvenience at gatherings. Family feel compelled to make separate seating arrangements, which due to their habit of free mixing they can't keep to. In addition even on the rare occasions when complete segregation is adhered to the social gathering contains useless talk, which leads to gheebat. If the individual in question addresses this issue in the only way that he knows, then he is regarded as either being a spoil sport, breaking hearts or even mentally unwell. His family regard themselves as deendar but their Deeni talks ironically take place whilst brother in laws and sister in laws are sitting in the same gathering. This brother is now beginning to feel depressed and isolated and the only way out seems to be move away from everybody. Is this a reasonable course of action to take in this particular situation?

Q: Child kidnapping is taking place largely in Pakistan. What amal can I teach my school students, parents, teachers and other staff?

Q: I am the only child of my mother, married with two kids alhamdulillah. But recently things are not going well for me. I'm not in a position to provide for my mother and wife at the same time and this is eating me up. I understand very well both have rights upon me but my earnings are very little! It's like choosing my wife over my mother.

Q: Please advise me. I always think that I am a faasiq and my family and other people around (we are in Nigeria) if I see how other Muslims live in other countries which is not possible here. I have once attempted suicide and I am still thinking of it although I am afraid of it, please help me.

Q: My daughter wants to marry a white non-Muslim guy. We have tried a lot to inform her about this sin but she is not listening to anyone and is very stubborn on her decision. The current situation is that she is being very nice with us, but once we try to talk her about him, she gets extremely upset and changes her attitude. I would greatly appreciate your help.