Advice

Q: Agar biwi nikaah me hai aur biwi dusre admiyo se hum bistari kare to kya ushe talaak dena chahiye ya shariyat me kuch aisa mujhe plzz mujhe batye.

Q: I have a big issue in my life, my wife has left me. Its been over a year and half and every time to time she comes back says she wants so reconcile but on her terms and when I don't agree she says forget it. All the issues started a year and a half when her mother started to interfere and she started to listen to her mother over me. Her mother feels that a woman should be independent and work were she feels and do as she feels and I did not agree with this so my wife's mother told her to leave me and she went. I have also seen my wife with another man who she said is just her work colleuge and she was walking with him to the train station I have told her this is wrong and haraam but she feels it is not. My wifes friends have advised her that she should leave me and ask for a divorce also my wife has asked her friends to find her a husband even though we are still married my wife has completely turned against me of course its not all her fault there are times when my wife has been disobedient to me and I have shouted and swore to which I have apologised. I am very heart broken. My wife has said and done things that make me feel that maybe she has been un-faithful. I love her very much. We also share a child. She has not let me see my son for the last 9 months. I don't want to divorce her but she has no care for me. I have tried so many times to reconcile but if she does not get her way, then she says its over I don't no what else to do but I cant seem to get over her and still love her after she has hurt me so much and all she does is blame me and make me feel bad. Her mother and friends have turned her completely against me. I have done so much for her financially. She left me in a very bad position as well. I can't seem to forget her and my son. I really want to be with her but she does not care even though we are still married, she is doing whatever she likes. She is working in an environment with a lot of male workers and she finishes work late but she says its my fault because I am not around but I am around but she does not care. She keeps making excuses and blaming me to justify what she is doing. I don't no what else to do. I am very depressed that i loved her so much gave her everything and she has just left me even till today I do not know what I did so bad that she just left and doesn't let me see my son and she says I never done anything good for her. I use to do everything for her. I used to go and buy everything for her but I never complained as I was happy with her but now she says so many bad things about me like I never did any good. A year ago her father asked me to go to try to resolve things but her mother said my wife does not need to listen to everything I say, thats not how it works and I said but we will keep arguing if she doesn't listen and her mother responded by saying well then it wont work. I need help on how to deal with this. I feel as I am going through severe pain and heartache and am not able to deal with this trauma. I don't understand how someone can just stop loving me so easily. I feel she was with me when it was good but when things was going bad she left. I feel her love had conditions if I did as she wanted then shes with me but I loved her unconditionally. I am very lost and need help. Everyday is becoming harder and harder. Please help me.

Q: Please tell me the method of istakhara for love and arranged marraige and can anyone else do this type of istakhara for me?

Q: My problem has reached to critical point. It is psychological. Can any moulana help me?

Q: I have a common issue. I want to get married to a girl but my parents don't want her. I love and respect my family but I really want to marry this girl. She is Muslim of course. What should I do?

Q: I want to ask about istakhara. I will do it according to the Sunnah method. I want to know about my marriage. I want to know about love marriage and is that guy good for my life or not? Can you tell me what sign I will get in the dream? Second if I get a negative answer, can I do istakhara again? If again negative, can I do it again and if third time I get it positive should I marry that person?

Q: What happens if you back bite someone who is a believer or a non-believer who has already passed away? How can I get rid of this sin off my record?

Q: My father's means of income is tainted and as I'm financially reliant on him what can I do? He his a photographer and he runs a cooperative society in which involves interest. He provides all the food etc? I study in another state, different from where he lives, but I stay with him on holidays.

Q:

1. If the wife asks the husband can you please help me to pick up the cupboard and he doesn't want to move that cupboard, he is lazy to do something then the wife moves the cupboard herself, then the wife got angry with the husband and said "You just watching, what kind of husband are you?" Was it right what she did to her husband?

2. My friend got married with two kids now her husband wants to marry to another girl but he didn't divorce her Islamically. He sent her court divorce papers. He said to her I am not going to divorce you islamically. They haven't been having physical relation since 10 months. So I want to ask you that their relationship is finished or still exists till he divorces her?

3. If the husband says something which the wife already knows she has to do (something at home) then he keep on saying which annoys the wife. Is it the wife's right to say yes I know what to do? If the husband doesn't help the wife to buy something is he still getting sin and he tells the wife, whatever you earn, buy for yourself and help me because I pay bills mortgage insurance. What should the wife do? Even she helps little bit and buys clothes with her own money?

4. If husband shouts the wife when she she tells him to perform namaz, what should the wife do?

5. If the husband wants to celebrate the kid's birthday just buying a cake and wife doesn't want to celebrate. They argue with each other. What can the wife do if she is religious?

6. If the husband keeps on saying nonsense which is not true to the wife and she gets angry. In that situation what should the wife do to answer back?

Q: I stay in the same house with my mother in-law and sisters in-law.When I give salaam, they don't respond to it. Am I obligated to make salaam or should I stop greeting them?