Advice

Q: I have a question regarding asking forgiveness from people whom one has hurt or cheated. I did hurt a few people in past, had arguments too. Later when I apologised they said they forgive me and asked me not to contact them ever again. My question is I sometimes get a feeling they might have said so in anger and not meant to forgive me, later on when they might remember any of the things they might again have ill feeling against me. So how do I approach this situation. Are there any specific deeds I can carry out (for eg:making charity and duas in their favour etc) or should I have to contact them (I fear talking to them again might cause more arguments ;both the person's are non-mahrmam) kindly help. Jazak Allahu khair.

Q: Please send a dua or waazifa to read. My brother in-laws son wants to come stay with us and I don't think it is right when I have a young girl of 13 years in the house and he is 17 years old. I also feel that I will have no privacy as I am full time in scarf. My husband and in-laws feel I am selfish. I don't want to hurt anyone but Islamically I don't think it is right he is not my son. Please help to read something that he can understand and agree to stay somewhere else or travel daily to his parents than staying in my house.

Q: I have a 3 year old son that gets very angry at times when he is scolded or reprimanded for doing something wrong. With the result he tends to get a bit aggressive with people around him. Is there a duaa I can read for him?

Q: My son does not like to study and he can not concentrate and he can't learn. He forgets whatever he studies. He is experiencing the same problem with his hifz.

Q: My question is about my wife. I have normally extreme need of sex but my wife does not allow me to have properly she come to me only twice or thrice a month sometimes only one time. That also not willing by her only. She performs it as a formality. It has been 12 years of my marriage. In early days it was ok, but also not that much which could be normal among husband and wife but since more then 5 years she is does not take any interest. Give me any good answer. I love my wife but I don't want to do zina. Please guide me what should I do? Even if I discuses with her, she does not take anything serious. Am I allowed to do 2nd marriage in this condition?

Q: If a wife is disobedient to her husband in any case of deen/dunia, what should the do? Take action or to be patient (sabar) for Allah Ta'ala?

Q: I am in great trouble and need sharia based solution. My husband is having sexual relationship with male guys and has been in this practice since puberty. I came to know when I got married to him. Another problem is that he wants me to be a part of his game and join his friends in this venture. I tried to get divorce but he says he will keep my children. I cannot leave my children with him cause he will destroy them. I am doing a job as he does not want to spend money on children's education. I have taken this responsibility but now as I want my children to join my school as it is a well known he is not allowing them and creating all the barrier to keep them not getting admission there. My only purpose in life is to provide quality future to my children so they may not become the victim for such a man and stand on their own feet.

Q: I found out that my husband is having an affair with a 21 year old muslim girl. He has confessed that he does love her. So I read istikara to ask for guidance. My first dream was I was at my mums house and all of my bags were packed but I am busy helping my mum to make sweetmeats. My second dream was I was at the mall but I was having intercourse with my husband. I am very confused so I am not sure what this means.

Q: I want to ask a question about my marriage. I got married when I was 18 to a guy who was 28 at that time. Then we lived together for 7 days because I was a student. So I came back in dubai and he went back to Canada. He never came back from Canada now. It's been 6 years I am waitng for him and we didn't have any intercourse in those 7 days. Now what am I supposed to do. Is my nikaah still valid?

Q: My question is how can a girl make nikaah himself?