Advice

Q: My question is that if someone is getting engaged and he she want to chat, is it permissible for the both and if not then is their any other way?

Q: From about many years, I feel that somebody sits on me when I suddenly get awaken from my sleep. At that time, I use to be awake but suddenly my eyes get closed under pressure and my mouth gets closed. I try to shout but can't. I also feel somebody is walking in my room and from about a year I even hear some words which that person makes in my ear during that time which I don't understand. As a result of this, my heart has become very weak though I offer prayers five times a day and also recite ayat ul qursi and four quls (surah kafiroon, surah iklas. surah falaq. surah nas) but still undergo this. Same was happening with my father who passed away last year. Same also happens with my sister and mother but rarely. I even hear knocking sounds on door during this. Please tell me something about this.

Q: I need to know that if the husband does not want children to study in standard English medium school because he does not want t o invest in education although he earns a lot. Can wife take step in providing proper schooling to her children on her own expense.

Q: I am making nikkah soon Insha Allah. I will become a second wife to this man. He is married to a very violent woman and this is one of my concerns as she has already attacked me physically in public and I'm sure she won't stop. She isn't afraid of him, she swears and hits him, in public too. I love this man very much so I have made sacrifices to be with him. My other concern is that they are married in community of property, that means, what is his is theirs and that means whatever he buys for me will legally belong to them and not me, which also means that should he pass on, she can claim my home and leave me stranded. What are my rights once we married? He wants to get us an apartment while his first wife owns a house. He has set up a trust fund for her but nothing for me as yet. I feel like I will be second in everything. If I do marry him, it will be anc, in accordance to shariah. Am I right in being concerned for my future or am I being selfish? Please advise me.

Q: I have a 10 year old daughter who obeyed me till now. But trying to behave like her cousins, she now misbehaves with me and reply back when I scold her even for her betterment. Can you please advice me on some duas to change her attitude?

Q: I am a first year pharmacy student, but since the time I have gotten admission into this college, I have been struggling with my grades. I managed to pass my first semester with C's by a hard struggle but this semester I do not know what is wrong. I study very hard, I read duas before my exams but I do not know why my grades do not come as I expect them. Sometimes I think its someone's evil eye on me or that this is no good for me astagfirullah. Please can you help me; are there any duas any wazifas to help me? I have searched online and found many but I do not know what to do. I used to teach at the mosque little kids Quran and Islamic studies but when I got admission here I stopped because of my schedule. Could it be that I stopped because I feel like I did not wrong thing. My classes were at a timing where I could not make it to the masjid on time so I had to stop. But please let me know anything that I can do to help me get good grades. I have gotten many loans to go here because of the tuition fees so I need to do better.

Q: What do we have to do to gain our parents good Duas?

Q: I am married for 27 years and found out my husband is on  chat room. Each time he tells me he is done with it, just to find out that he is still busy with it. He sees nothing wrong with it. I have access to his cell account via his cell and ID no. and I saw some of the disgusting messages. Can you please advise?

Q: I have been married for fourteen years. I have three daughter. For the past seven years my wife had affairs with different men and I tried every time to speak to her to repent but the affairs just happen over and over year after year. As a result of this my life been constant worry with no peace of mind. It is because I loved her so much I just tried to save the marriage every time. I have my brother and my parents here to stop this marriage but in my heart I still love her. How do I occupy my mind through this talaaq process because it feels like I am scared but I don't want to go back to this life. As I know myself I will try to go back and in past that is how it happen over and over. I forgave her but her affairs never stop. I gave her one talaaq seven years back and I wanted to know if I can give her the rest two talaaqs not in anger in any way, but just so that I can't go back to that life.