Q: My ex husband and I want to remarry after our divorce and we have 1 daughter. But my parents are becoming a big obstacle between us. My father is a very strict person and he said he'll beat me up if i communicated with him again or talked about him.. He misbehaved with my mother in the past but now he is a totally changed person and asked for forgiveness but my parents arent forgiving.. We both want to get back together. What must do?
Q: Mujhse zina ka gunah hogaya hai... main 21 saal ki ladki hoon, mere ek cousin ke saath mujhse kai baar zina hua hai... main muhabbat me yeh gunah karti chali gayi, lekin mujhe yeh ehsaas hogaya ki yeh sab ghalat hai... mujhe unse aur unhe mujhse nikah karna hai, unhone mere ghar pe rishta bhi de diya hai... lekin mere gharwale raazi nahi hain... maine bohot koshish ki magar raazi nahi ho rahe... aur main un dono ko sach bhi nahi bata sakti... aur wo log meri kahin aur shadi karna chah rahe hain jisse ki meri zindagi barbaad hojayegi... maine Allah se bohot maafi maangi aur mangti hoon... aur mujhe nikah us cousin se hi karna hai... kya main istekhara karke positive signs aaye to apne maa baap se kehdu ki maine Allah ki marzi jaan li hai... ab aap log bhi maan jayein... yehi ek raasta dikh rha hai ab kyuki Allah ka naam aane se wo log zaroor maanenge... Lekin bas dar is baat ka hai ki kahin negative signs aagae to... Ab to sirf pasand nahi meri majburi bhi hai us aadmi se nikah karna... iska kya hal ho sakta hai? maine Allah se bohot tauba karli hai ab kuch samajh me nahi aa raha kaise apne ma baap ko raazi karun... un dono yeh rishta bilkul bhi nahi pasand magar ab yeh meri majburi hai...
Q: I belong to a pakistani family. I am 29 years old my parents are not thinking about my marriage as i am a girl they should think about me but unfortunaltely they keep ignoring this main issue even though if any proposal comes they just ignore ,as a single girl sometimes it is very hard for me to control eveything how can i tell my parents that i also want to get married and wanted to live my life with my husband, i know parents are a blessing but they should also think about my marriage and my parents dont talk to each other literally .
Q: I am writing in regards to my situation.
My mother is a single parent with my father having left when we were very young. Many people have sent proposals and my mum refuses each one without any valid reason. Now there has been one proposal from someone I like and I am happy with but my mother is refusing and when asked why says "just".
My grandmother (my mother's mother) and my mum's sister and uncle have looked into the man and his family and are satisfied with his deen and character and from people that know them we have found out that they are respected and humble practising people and the boy is of good character and practising masha'allah. I am very happy with this and would like to go ahead and the rest of my family are also happy but my mum just wont let me get married and won't let me even speak about it and doesn't have any valid reason to say.
I don't know what to do in this situation as I only have my mother as my guardian as my father didn't keep in touch since he left and my brother is only 20 and unfortunately got into the wrong crowd and not at home. My mum doesn't have any brothers either, only sisters. My mother unfortunately does not prioritise deen and I know that either she will not want me to marry for years or the people she may eventually consider will not be based first and foremostly on deen which is what I want.
I don't know what to do in this situation as I would like to marry this person and all the rest of my family are happy with the proposal. I would appreciate your guidance on this matter
Q: My husbands uncle asked him to marry his cousin. She lives in Kenya and we live in the US. I am okay with it but my husband is telling me that he feels like he is deceiving her because he doesnt think he can take the responsibility but he doesnt want to get his uncle mad and he regrets accepting it. What I want to know is, is it wrong for me to make dua saying "Allah, if he cant take the responsibility, may Allah not make the marriage happen" because I dont want the girl in sadness because she is my sister? I dont want her to miss the chance of having someone that will love her and not be forced because the father wanted?
Q: I have been having problems with my husband for over 16years. He has been having an emotional if not physical affair and emailing and meeting with this woman. The last time I found out was in April last year when I told him that I wanted a divorce. Besides this affair he ignores me, is increasingly irritated with me, criticizes me all the time and generally is angry and resentful to me. We have been to many counsellors but he initiated it this last time. However he does not go with the intention of resolving the matter. Rather a case of "fix my wife, she has a problem" He has narcissistic tendencies and thinks that he has made his business his life and focal point. I lack for nothing materially. But I am living with a boarder. He has not been remorseful and doesn't apologize for anything. He says he has done nothing wrong because he didn't sleep with her. We are separated for 6 months. Even in this time he refused to cut her from his business and have no contact with her. I had made up my mind that I wanted a divorce. Every waking moment was a torment with thoughts of what he put me through mentally and emotionally. I was so angry that my blood would boil during this time. I have been praying tahajjud and making Dua. I went to the Jamiat and the lady there said I should decide whether to make an agreement or to divorce. At this point I was convinced that divorce was the way. I decided to read istikhara. The next morning after my mind was calm. The first thought that came to mind was the agreement. The next two nights were restless and nothing came to mind. Should I look at this as a sign that I should go with the agreement?
Q: I did istikhara for three consecutive days but I am unable to determine what is the outcome of this. I didnt experience any dream at all and neither do I feel my heart inclined to a particular outcome or decision. How to judge what is Allah's suggestion in such a situation? Should I ask someone else to do istekhara for me and believe in the outcome and do accordingly? I did istekhara to seek Allah's suggestion for a marriage proposal.
Q: I dreamt that we were in the car and it was myself and my husband. My husband was the driver. Whilst we were in the car driving we came to a stop street and the road ahead had different lanes. So as we proceeded when it became our right of way, the road I assumed my husband was going to take, he didn't. He decided to take the new road. As he proceeded towards the new road, to our surprise it dipped. I can't begin to describe what we felt at that moment. When we looked ahead of us, our hearts were in our throats. Our life flashed before our eyes. I just started reading kalima. It was as if we were on a roller coaster. The drop was so deep and scary .It's like we fell in a very deep hole. I woke up with a shock and quickly looked at the time and it was 4:23am.
Q: I am officially going to get engaged with a guy on april 9. I am not happy with this engagement and don't dare to speak about it with my parents. Please advice me.
Q: My family had got a proposal for me and I was interested but with no solid reason my father refused. He said things like, the boy's family were living far away, and also he is 10 years older then me. I did istikhara many times and I got no negative signs. I do pray daily to turn my heart away from this but it is uncontrollable now. I want advice whether I should ask my family to consider it. I'm afraid that once it mustn't get refused for a reason that is not valid.