Rights of parents

Relationship with one's father after divorce

9 years ago By admin

Q: I have a very complicated question for you. Basically, my mother got divorced from my father many years ago, it was a forced marriage and was not built to last of course. Father was 40 years older than her, she was just 16 when she got married. Now she is saying I cannot speak to him, nor attend his funeral if he dies. In fact this year she has told me to completely sever all relations with him, otherwise she will disown me. I know she has been through hell and back because of him, and they did not get on well with one another, but do I have any rights, or must I be obedient and do sabr? If mother finds out that I have even glanced at him, I will be disowned and possibly thrown out of the house. I don't blame either of them. I love them both, but why must I go through all this? Is this a punishment for my sins? Your help would be greatly appreciated.

Pleasing one's parents

9 years ago By admin

Q: A man wants to name his child Luqmaan, however his parents have requested that the childs name be changed to Talha. I fully understand the status of parents in one's life, however will it be permissible for the man to name his son Luqmaan even without his parents approval?

Making tawbah for cursing one's mother

9 years ago By admin

Q: I am now 23 years old. When I was 11/12 years old - I did something very stupid as I had anger issues at the time. So back then, in a moment of anger I made dua to Allah that Allah sends my mother to jahannam forever in addition to adding that may Allah never accept a counter-dua (i.e. that Allah never accepts a dua that anyone makes to give my mother jannah). I regret this dua I made in anger and feel remorseful and shameful. Alhamdulillah my mother is alive and is a practicing Muslim to this day and has instilled in me strong Islamic principles through the permission of Allah. Since the time I was 11/12 I have by the grace of Allah Ta'ala also become a Hafiz e Quran. I still worry about that dua which I made more than 10 years ago. Should I stop worrying about this as Allah says: وَلاَ تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى And no bearer of burden will bear another’s burden (Quran 6: 164)

Respecting one's mother

10 years ago By admin

Q: My mother gets angry easily and I try to respect her however from a young age she has hit me even though I try my best not to irritate her, being in my teenage years it is difficult, could you please advise me on what to do in these situations.

Respecting one's father

10 years ago By admin

Q: Recently me and my father just came back from a court case our first one which gave us a sign that this was a great trial from Allah. Previously my father kept on demanding a change from me and forcing me to change my attitude, behaviour, talking to family nicely etc. But the problem is my dad doesn't do anything of them as well so how can I change if the environment that I'm surrounded by has some bad and my father keeps on getting my brother involved because he has changed because he has moved to a darul uloom in the UK where the environment is full of huffaaz and ulama. So it's different to mine. I seriously don't know what to do? I told my dad I can't change in one day that's what he is demanding. It went to an extent that I said to my father that I said I can't change unless you do and my father says theres nothing for me to change just you even though my mother had agreed that if you want people to change some points that even you have to change as well but my father said never. I'm not going to change for no one and this is bringing my anger through that I can't live with my father anymore but my mother just said avoid him for a few days and not to deal with him. I don't know what to do. I'm trying to change but if I have my father around I don't think I will but I did say that if you want me to change theres going to be some rules as well that there are no more jokes to be done as it leads to haram and there has to be little talk as in I talk to you less but still he disagreed I mean what can I do. Now I told him some of the stuff he said was wrong even backing my self up from the quran he still said no? Subhanallah I get the feeling sometime that what kind of a dad has Allah given me (astagfirullah)? Please give some naseehah for what should I do? Move out the house to my grandparents? Or never talk to him anymore? Or anything that you think because my father is ruining my life.

Verbally abused by one's non Muslims mother

11 years ago By admin

Q: My mother (christian) keeps abusing me verbally. Each day she is telling me continuously how bad I am, that nobody can ever love me, that I'm too stupid for everything, that my fiancee will also soon leave me (she says) because I'm so bad. Because of that I got depressions, panic attacks, huge fear from going to school. I'm trying to stay calm or go away, tell her to stop but she doesn't care. I know the value off mothers in Islam and don't want to displease Allah. But what should I do?

Fulfilling the rights of parents

11 years ago By admin

Q: I often have attacks of anger and because I cannot control my temper, I sometimes swear at my parents and physically abuse them. After I calm down, I say sorry to them and ask them for forgiveness. I feel very guilty because my parents are old and due to my physical abuse, they suffer body pains. I am very scared that something dangerous might happen to me on account of my ill-treatment towards my parents. My question is, "Will I burn in hell for treating my parents in this manner?" How can I repent for this sin?

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