Oaths & Vows

Q: If one makes a promise by accident or something they don't want to say comes out of their mouth as a promise to Allah, does the promise have any effect? If a married woman says Allah, I promise not to have sex with anyone and thinks she also included her husband in this, has she promised not to have sex with her husband and will she be sinful to have sex with her husband?

What if a woman explicitly promises not to have sex with her husband by mentioning her husband in the promise. Will she be not allowed to have sex with her husband and will she be sinful for having sex with her husband? 

Q: I broke my oath. I know that I have to give the kaffaarah and I have the means. But I can't find any poor Muslims around me and I hardly know who to give it to. And also I can't just go out to find 10 people to give it to. Can I just keep three fasts instead?

Q: I want to know if someone takes a false qasam on the Quran, what’s the kaffarah?

Q: A woman who lives next door held a book containing 5 surah of the Holy Quran and said that she won't talk to her son ever again but her son wants to talk to her and she also wants to talk to him, so what should she do?

Q: A girl said some words on the phone to her cousin (Irfan) in Ramadhan, sitting on prayer mat after salah. The words are "I never show my face to Khalid (cousin) and never try to meet him just let me talk to Khalid on phone call, if I did so, I will see my mother's dead body". Girl said that, its my oath or qasam. Now what she have to do if she wants to meet Khalid. Is there any kind of kaffara for it?

Q: I told myself that if I did this again, I would fast for 3 days as a punishment, what fast is it necessary to me now?

Q: Can a person fulfill an itikaaf of a vow/pledge during Ramadhaan? 

Q: One year ago I was caught up in a situation where I feared for my life. I kept lying about something to my perpetrators and then they asked me to keep my right hand on the Quran and make a vow. I vowed to tell the truth but again lied to them. I have repented to Allah for this wrong vow and I want to know how can I correct this.

Q: How do I go about in carrying out my vow? I made a vow that if I find my lost item, I will give a certain amount of money in sadaqah.

Alhumdulillah with the grace of Allah I have found it and I wish to carry out my vow. Please advise as to who I can give the money to, can I give it to a family member, or a beggar that comes to our door, can I buy something with the money and then give it in sadaqah or should I give the money in sadaqah just like that?

Q: On the demand of my mother in law, I had to give 10 tolas of gold before marriage but I arranged for 7 tola and for rest, I was not financially strong so I made artificial gold bangles so that our marriage should not be affected. At that time I thought of making real gold when I will be able to make it.

Now our marriage has been done and its been 5 months and now her mother got to know that the bangles are artifical. So can I take false oath to save our marriage? Or what should I do?