Proposing for marriage
Q: What is the best way to propose marriage? I am afraid I might get rejected, so I want to approach with confidence and calmness.
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Proposing for a girl
Q: I've heard that premarital relationships are haraam, but I'm not sure to what extent am I supposed to keep my distance from this girl I am in love with. My friend keeps telling me to express my feelings to her, but as far as I've learned, I'm supposed to go to the girl's father to ask for her hand in marriage. I don't want to involve our families and make it hard for her to reject me, so I was wondering if it would be halaal to just tell her that I like her and wish to marry her? And then we would go to her father if she accepts my proposal.
Breaking off a proposal
Q: I am a 22 year old female. Two years back an alliance was fixed for me. They told us to wait for two years till his younger sister gets married. Everyone in my family accepted. But now after waiting for two years that's boys mother and sister are making problems trying to stop the marriage. His sister is also not accepting any alliance for her. Please help me to change his mother's and sisters mind. After waiting for two years they are trying to cheat us now.
Maal ki bunyaad par rishta ku inkaar karna
Q: Please meri islaah kijiye. Mera maslah ye he ke mera bachpan se mamu zad se rishta bola hua tha ke hum ek dusre ko pasand karte he or dil dimag me yehi he ke hmari shadi ek dusre se hi hogi. Ghar me sab yehi kehte the. Ab mera us ladke se rishta bhi tey ho gaya. Me bahut educated hu or wo kam pdha likha he or zyada dolatmnd bhi nahi he lekin mujhe iski garaz nhi h pr ab meri ammi ye shadi nhi krna chahti wo kehti h k wo tere layaq nhi h log kya kahege k itna pdha likha kr ese se shadi krdi. M bahut zyada preshan hu kyuki 13 sal se hmare dil dimag m ye bat h k hmari shadi hogi pr ab ye sb. ammi kisi syrat nhi smjhti ghr m behas hoti h. meri umar 29 sal hogyi h ab b ammi ko lgta h k jb koi or acha rishta aayga wha krege hm. Mere abbu ka inteqal ho chuka h or 2 bhai h wo b ammi ki bat ko tarjeeh dete h.. m apni ammi ko dukh nhi dena chahti lekin mera kahi or shadi krne ka b mn nhi krta. plz aap btaiye m kya kru. Slaah dijiy or koi wazaif b btaiye jisse meri preshani hal ho jaye.
Parents refusing to let the boy come to see the girl due to his cast
Q: There is a family who want to come to my parents to ask for a marriage proposal for their son and me. I appreciate their son and I agree for their proposal. But my parents don't let them come. They don't want to even hear about their proposal because of their cast. We are Pakistani. We are from the upper cast and their are from the lower one. My parents don't know the guy nor his family but they are not even ready to meet them. They told me that they prefer keeping me unmarried than marry me to this guy because of cast, because of the dunya. They told me that what would they say to the people if I marry that guy. Is their reaction right in Islam? If the guy agrees for the marriage and I agree too, if both of us are happy with this marriage, is it right for my parents to stop the marriage, to not let it happen? I am 26 and the guy's family want to come since 2014, it has been 2 years that my parents refuse and delay my marriage whereas the guy is religious. Please can you help me and reply to my questions about it.
Dream
Q: I saw a dream. I talked to the father of the girl which I wish to marry and he didn't tell me no. He was texting me through whatsapp. I got more better person than you. I got guys who are CA (chartered Accountant) and look at you what qualification you have? I was upset that time because I didn't have a degree and I was going start my network engineering course after few months. I also saw huge waves of sea and also saw vintage car (which I like) in green colour but it was a little dusty. Also I wanted to do wudu but I slipped then got up and went home to read salaah. Can you tell me the meaning of this dream?
Mangni tootne ki wajah se pareshaani
Q: Mere mangni ayk saal rahi phir tot gae aur us larki nay apni bhabi kay bhai say foran shadi kar li. Mera problem yeah he ke mai us ko bhol nahi pa reha bulkay mai usko bholna nahi chata pershan rehta hoon us say abi be peyar kerta hooon koe galt keyaaal zain mai nahi ata bus yeah dua kerta hoon k Allah ji ager us per jado huva ha (uskay ghar waly kehtay haan) aur ager wo waha kush nahi ha to aaappp plz hum ko mila dain aaap yaqqeeen janeye namaz kay doran be ansoooo nikal atay haan meray bohet pershan hooon mai.
Choosing between two proposals
Q: There is a boy who's character is very good and praised by all but he doesn't wear topi, jubba and all. He wears normal clothes, he has very humble character and has the desire to learn more about Deen as he has little knowledge about it. On the other hand there is another guy who is a very strong tableeghi boy. He dresses according to Islam, he has Deeni knowledge also, but his character is normal (not so rude not so humble). Whom should a girl prefer to marry?
Mother not being pleased with the girl one wishes to marry
Q: My mum is refusing to marry me to a woman because she didn't find her pretty and she didn't like the girl's family. She says that they are dangerous and that the girl is not good (not respectful). But I know from mutual friends that the girl is righteous and she does her best to follow Islam, even if she doesn't wear Hijab. My mother had heard from a lot of families here that the girl's family is quite special and she doesn't like that. So she is arguing with me to not marry this girl. What should I do? I know from personal sources that the girl's family won't give her hand to me if I don't come with my whole family. Please tell me what should I do?
Receiving a good proposal
Q: A girl got a good proposal for her marriage. Everybody is satisfied with all other aspects except the boy's age, he is only one year older than the girl so, as the girls get older soon due to delivery and all, girls parents are in confusion whether to accept the proposal or not. May mufti Saheb please give your precious suggestion in this regard?