advice

Girl not ready to get married

Q: I'm 29 years old and I have a cousin that I'm proposing for and I want to marry her but I can't get married to her because she said that she is the one carriying out most of the household activities and she said that untill I build house first. I want to marry her so what must I do now?

Not stopping to help at an accident scene

Q: Yesterday I saw a very bad accident on the highway. I was in a taxi and the accident happened behind us. The taxi driver did not stop. I called the rescue services and kept my phone in my hand. While my call was picked up, for a few seconds as I was probably thinking what to say. When I listened to the voice it was a recording saying that the number was busy and call later. Now I am not sure whether someone initially picked up my call and then cut it or it was recording all along. I asked my brother to call the rescue services but he said that the other taxi driver stopped where the accident happened. At that moment I kept quiet but when I got home I started regretting that I did not try to call the rescue services again and what if people nearby called late and that person may have died due to that. I don't even know what happened there afterwards and I feel extremely guilty. How do I prevent myself from feeling like that because I never reacted?

Deen ke oopar madhbooti se jame rehna

Q: Meri zindge ghaltiyo sy bhari hui hy or ghaltiya b aisi jo jan bojh k nai karti bus ho jate hy theek tareeqy sy mera koi b kam ho raha ho main aisi ghalti kar deti hu k sub khatam khud mera nuqsan hota hy lakin mujh sy jury har rishty ko b takleef hoti hy .meri shadi ko 4 sal huwy 2 sal sy maiky main the seprat rehti hu meri sas mery shohar sy larti rehti hain un ko kehti hain tumhri bv milte nai hmain shakal b nai dikhati.or such bat ye hy k kuch sas k ghusy sy dar lagta hy or kuch sharmindagi hy apni ghaltiyo py himat nai hoti unka samna krny ke aulad ke naimat sy b mehroom hu deen sy b kafi dur hu jutna qareeb hona chahti hu utni dur ho jati hu meri islah farmaiye.

Controlling one's anger

Q: I am getting angry and cannot control it. I do not stop to reason and calm down but I just blurt out whatever I want to say without thinking to my husband, and when he leaves the house I get back to my senses and think what is wrong with me. I have very bad scary dreams and I am very restless at night when sleeping. Secondly I want to know if rukya is permissible and can it be done by a female? My third question. I am in a 2nd marriage and I have kids from my first marriage. How do I divide my property, car, pension fund and money in the bank? I have one son and 2 daughters.

Husband not controlling his gaze

Q: I need some advice. I find my husband does not control his gaze and this really hurts my feelings. If there's a woman, no matter what nationality he HAS to give one quick look. I feel really hurt and hatred towards him. Please advice me what I can read etc at that moment so I can overcome the grief and be rewarded in my difficulty instead.

Marital problems

Q: I have a question and hope to receive the answer in the light of Quran and hadith at the earliest. I am the only son if my parents, my dad has a multiple alignment but my mother though in her late 60's is in good health alhamdulillah,in addition to this I am married and have two kids and one wife. Soon after marriage my wife and my mother could not accommodate each other well and I often had to listen to their complaints. I always thought my mother was less at fault. After few years of marriage I created two kitchens in the same house, in spite of this problems remained and in 2010 when things went out of control, I bought a separate accommodation for my family on the instructions of my parents to shift. Slowly things started to improve and till 2015 all was well. During this period have fulfilled all my duties towards my parents as well as wife. Then In 2015 my Dads health deteriorated and we shifted back to my parental house. It was not a force to my wife, instead she willingly agreed to go back but with a condition that she will not put up in a different kitchen. I was reluctant to her condition and wanted to have a different kitchen for my family in our parental home. At last I reluctantly agreed. My worst fear came true, again my mom and my wife went well with each other for a year no doubt with minor issues. But after some time things started happening again and one fine day my wife decided to go back to her house, even I agreed as I was fed up of all the nonsense my wife was attributing towards my mother. I could no longer take the behavior of my wife towards my mother. Soon I agreed to shift and left my potential home once again, leaving behind a hurt parents, sisters and all relatives. Everyone very angry towards my wife and her parents and my in-laws towards me and my parents blaming each other. I did not offend my parents for my wife and gave my wife a separate accommodation she wanted. Have I committed any sin by leaving my parents alone though I visit them every day even twice a day and ask them if I can do anything. I have arranged a full time servant for them as well. I live 4 km away from my parents. According to me I had no other option but to shift as I could not see my mother being dominated by my wife, as my wife wanted most of the things to happen as per her taste. My wife is a good lady as well follows Islam, had good intentions but her short temper is all that is not good in her. I am very tense please advice me what should I do to ease out my life as this issues has fully engulfed me and I has become difficult to concentrate on other issues like work etc. Thank you very much.

Haraam taalluqaat se tawbah karna

Q: Meri ayk parosi he jis se ayk ghalti huwi thi. Uski kisi larki k sath bohot ache friendship he dil ki gehrai tak leken us se ye galati hogai ke usne ayk bar lesbian rishte jesa kam kar diya ab wo pachta rahey he leken use dar he k ab Allah use maf karega ya nahi please answer me k use ab kiya karna chaye.