advice

Waalidain rukhsati se rokte he

Q: Maine ik ldke se apne ma bap ko bina btaye ik nek ur shareef ldke se nikah kr liya.hm log sath me business krte the. ldke ki walida ki moujudgi me. Ur fir maine bad me apne ma bap ko bta diya to unhone mujhe ghr me kaid kr diya.meri ik bdi bahen ur 2 chhoti bahene hai.ur unki shadi nhi huyi hai.mere shouhr dosri biradri ke hai is lia mere walid ne shart rakhi hai ki jb tk tino bahno ki shadi nhi kr denge.hamari shadi nhi krenge.ur isi shart k 6 mahine bad hi meri sas ka intekal ho gya hai.ur mere shouhr ur ik unka bhai hai bs.ur koi nhi hai khana pkane k lia roz unki appi ati hai.ab mere shaouhr chahte h ki badi ldki ki shadi k bad meri ruksati kr den mgr mere walid nhi man rahe hai.ur mere shauhr mere riye bahut rote hai.mere shouhr ne kaha ki mere ghr chali awo mgr meri ma ne doodh na bksne ki dhamki di hai ur kuran pr kasam bi kilayi hai ki bina ijazt nhi jana hai.mera shuhr bahut presan hai. Mujhe kya krna chahiye .ma bap ka sath dun ya shouhr ka .mere ahouhr me koi burai nhi bs biradri ki wajah se mere walid nhi man rahe h

Committing indecent acts during childhood

Q: I am a 20 year old Muslim female. In my childhood maybe up to 13 years or so, I used to involve in some physical sexual activities with some of my younger and older cousins both males and females ,in the form of a game at that time. This did not extend up to zina (the actual penetration) but touching and kissing each others body parts. Will this make my marriage (I am unmarried) in the future invalid? I want to repent from this but please tell me how to repent from the same? In order for me to repent is it obligatory to ask them also to repent from the same and is it obligatory to ask forgiveness from them. I don't remember whether at times I have asked them to involve in this act and they reluctantly did or not. Please help me out with this. I really want my marriage to be valid according to Allah.

Marital issues

Q: Me and my wife are currently seperated and waiting for the MJC to discuss the matter. My wife says she is done with our marriage but I feel there is still room for reconcilliation. The question I have is as follows. 

1. I am being told that that my wifes decision and the fact that her mind is made up goes directly from her mother and eldest brother not to take me back. Please advise what I can do to as I want my wife back as well as my two kids. Even if there is a dua I can make to make things right between us..

Mia biwi ke darmiyaan ikhtilaaf

Q: Mere dost ki sister k shadhi ki bat 8 saal sy chal rahi thi us jaga per un ki bat paki ho gae sister k father ny istiqara karwa lea us main no aya jaha shadhi hoe sister ki vo dono sagi sister hain yek ka beta hai our dosry ki beti apas k taloqaat kharab na hon is waja sy shadhi ho gae ab vo bhen apny ghar main parashan hain hasband wife main banti nhi hai istiqary k khalaf hum ny kam kya hai is ka koi kafaara ho yeh our koi bat ho plz batain

Marital problems

Q: My sister got married last month. She was happy with her husband but since last week she is behaving very weird. She is telling that she is feeling depressed and having uneasiness. She is not even allowing her husband to come near her. Not praying namaz. Crying all the time and telling that I want to go somewhere. Please help me whether she is having some asarat of Jin. Should I consult a mufti regarding this?

Marital problems

Q: I am in desperate need of good advice. I have downloaded your app and been listening to your talks. I have been having marriage issues for a while now and my husband and I almost got separated about a month ago he moved out the house and after some time came back. We then left for umrah about 3 weeks later only to come back from umrah to find out he has been cheating on me for some time now. According to the girl it's been 2 years according to him it's from late last year his not sure exactly when but she has known him for 2 years now. I am hurting really badly I don't know what to do. I have forgiven him for it but it's not the 1st time I have found out about him doing this. We are married for 5 years now. How do I go about dealing with this issue? I feel I should let him go and move on as he causes me a lot of heart ache not only this buy many other things.

Obeying the husband

Q: What is the importance of a husband? How shall he be treated? I'm reluctant to obey him in every matter. I want to correct myself but I'm stubborn and a pampered wife. I want to rectify my amaal.

Father abandoning his children

Q: My friend's mother died last year and they had 8 kids. It was less than a year and the dad fought with his children on purpose and ruined his kids birthday so that he can go Pakistan. It was a planned visit and went Pakistan and got married against his kids wishes. All he does is listens to his wife and has pushed all his kids away from him. He don't listen to the kids and all he does all day is talks to his wife. All he does is listens to that lady and then wants his kids to listen to him. Don't know what she should do? The lady is greedy and wants him to give his lands to her and not to his family. Also all she ever does is asks for money. Her family is greedy but he wont listen. The kids are so lonely and on the verge of doing something wrong?