advice

Q: I would like your advice, other than interpretation of dreams, regarding my first wife. It is understandable the shock she had about hearing about my second marriage, but at that point I did not deny it and I accepted it and told her the circumstances and reasons for taking this step. Now she is in constant denial and acceptance. For a while she relaxes and then starts again, suffering herself and making me suffer too. I would like to say that my second wife is in Indonesia. And I have told my first wife many times, that look at the big picture, I am here, with you alive and well, but she sometimes gets relieved, but after a short while, she starts again. It is affecting me very hugely, because I am in a high pressure job. First wife also had gynecological problems. I am taking her for medical help, but that will only work if she believes in herself . I need your advice.

Q: I would just like to ask you how can I stop thinking too much and worry, like even when I fail to sleep well during the night?

Q: Enchanteur Talcum powder having mention ingredients as talc, fragnance, benzyle, benzoate, butylphenyl Methylpropional, hexyl cinnamal. Is this powder permissible to use?

Q: I have a friend who is in a situation, she is getting married in less than a month Insha Allah. She has made many changes in her life as growing up for her was on the jahiliya path with the wrong crowd and being involved in a lot of haraam things. Now she was in a haraam relationship and it was ended many years ago. She had met this guy who now she is engaged to and introduced the parents were now alhumdulilah are getting on and like I said nearly getting married. My friend committed a sin a few months ago and committed zina with her past relationship. She has repented sincerely and has promised herself not to ever let shaitaan win over temptations and commit haraam again. She now isn't sure if she should be honest with her husband to be or to not expose her sins what can she do?

Q: I need guidance that how I should react when my father hurts me and my mother with his rude words. No doubt he has brought me up, gave me education but nver showed affection to me. I am the only child of my parents but he has never pampered me. I only got love from my mother. Now I am 29 years old women unmarried but engaged. My father has a greed for money. My mother is a patient of multiple problems but he never cares for her, rather makes her feel like she is not so good. My mother is a very kind person but my father never appreciates her nor me. Neither he offers prayers. Now my question is when my father crosses limits fights with me, I control my anger but sometimes I say back to him but logically how should I react with him? When he don't talk to me how I should greet him when he don't see towards me because I fear Allah. Please guide me and ease my pain.

Q: One of my friends has obssesive compulsive disorder. She always doubts things. Now she's doubting if her children are her own children or not because she saw on news that the hospital she delivered her children, they sometimes forget to put the mothers name tag on the child's hand so the child might go to the wrong mother. Thats why she is really worried. What should she do now? 

Q: Is it bad for you to make dua that you and your crush marry each other, in your prayers?

Q: My husband keeps accusing me of looking at other men and not to cause him shame in the community. He doesn't like me going out and doesn't trust me even though I wear full jilbaab and niqaab. I also have some knowledge of the Deen. We've been married for 22 years and have 7 children. He has always been jealous but it got worse in the last 3 years. I'm not interested in other men and when I tell him he doesn't believe me.

Q: I have met a Christian friend over Facebook 3 years ago and we are now close friends, even best friends. I have tried to convince him to become a Muslim but no results. I am a girl and Muslim and my friend is a boy and Christian. Isn't this haram?