Q: My son does not do well at school, so my wife and I decided that he does full time haafaz classes in order to open his mind. After speaking to lots of people and my son, they say he needs to do both. Please advice as this is important.
Q: I lost all my jewellery two years ago and I have not yet found it. I did a lot of wazifas.
Q: I just wanted to ask. I really want to become a haafiz but there are many things that bother me. I want to become haafiz but I am already 26 years old. Sometimes I think I want to work in Saudi so maybe I can recite Qur'an there or become hifz while working, sometimes I think I want to make a small business etc. I don't know what to do but I really want to become haafiz and I don't know how. I can't afford to go to madrasah. What should I do? Is becoming haafiz not meant for me? Is it bad for me that's why no matter what I do I feel like there is no way for me to become haafiz. I feel so down. I even pray seldom and I can't complete the five times prayer a day because I feel so down. I don't know what to do.
Q: If my husband speaks to his female cousins or friends just to keep a good relation and friendly chat but I don't like it and I don't like such conversation. What should my husband do as he thinks I am over possessive and he is not doing anything wrong.
Q: Meri shadi ko 5 saal ho jaye. Shadi k 2nd month me husband bahar country chala gia or 5 saal me Sirf aik baar 4 maheny k lye aya. Me chahti hun k wo pakka apny ghar ajaye ya mujy lay jaye. Kindly mujy koi wazeefa send kejeye. Me apni zindage se na omeed ho choki hun.
Q: Since Ramadaan I tried to bring a change to my lifestyle . I started my tahajjud and I'm trying to refrain from intermingling and to be more strict with my purda and form of niqaab. I would like to don the jilbaab but I am scared. Scared of spiralling down after been on this spiritual high. It has happened to me before that is why I am so afraid. Also my husband dosn't seem to be impressed and is of no support in any way whatsoever. We live in a house of Aalims all together. Unfortunately our parda is zilch. I don't know how to proceed. How do I hold fast onto haq and this feeling of only wanting to do that which is atqa. My desire has always been to memorise the quraan as well. Can mufti please advise me. I don't want to lose this feeling of closeness to Allah Ta'ala. I'm so scared that I'm going to get lazy and lethargic and will slowly retrogress whatsoever. What must I do. Am I doing too many things at once? I am an aalima. I just feel like Allah Ta'ala has lifted a blindfold from my eyes and I now see things very differently. I am ashamed the change is only coming now. All the years I have been so relaxed and negligent. Please advise me. I sometimes feel like I'm fighting a battle alone and everyone is just waiting for me to fall.
Q: I have been having great problems with my wife the last few years. She separated herself from me because of her mother telling her and the last few months she came back and we have been trying to reconcile. She's very disobedient and always fights with me but we have a child so I have tried and tried with her. When we were separated, she and her mother disrespected my mother and my father and now my family don't want me to reconcile because of this. Also she kicked me out of my home three times. I made an agreement with my wife that I will go back and live with her but I want her to sort things out with my parents just an apology to break the ice. My wife refused and just left and has completely cut me off. I want to know is this wrong what I asked of her. I do want to reconcile but know she doesn't want to anymore. I don't know what else to do. My wife only let me see my son the last few months after years and now she is doing the same again. I don't know what to do. Can you please help me.
Q: I am the eldest of four sisters. My parents have one 'perfect' favourite. Often even if this favourite does something wrong we are reprimanded and punished. If we bring up the fact that it was her not us they tell us to ' shut your mouth' ' you are x years old you should know better' 'drop it' etc and get angered. Often the youngest is disciplined because of the other ones behaviour. This is unfair and I try to make them understand but then I'm seen as the bad one. This sister now has a mindset that she is superior to us and ignores and causes problems for us. We now feel inferior, useless and unnecessary as children to the extent that I have considered running away. I don't know what to do my parents are always kind and religious but when it comes to fairness between their offspring the rest of us cannot measure up to their special one often we are told to leave her be and be better or nicer to her which is very hard. Mufti saab please advise.
Q: I have a cousin from a very Deen dar family who got involved with a girl from a Shi'ah background in the college he was studying in. She herself was "modern" and my cousin was probably able to persuade her to give up the peculiarly Shi'ah beliefs that she was brought up with. Four years later they were getting married and we were invited to their wedding. There was a wedding performed by one or their "ulama" (stating that this was a nikaah daa'imi - - not muwaqqat?!) and a reception. My father is an Aalim (a student of Mawlana Saleemullah Khan mudda zilluhu al-aali) and is also somewhat visible in the Tabligh work. Although he was not present my mother was concerned about his good name if she attended a social occasion of Shi'ah people. Also I am twenty and my brother is eighteen and my mother was concerned that we not interact socially with Shi'ah people. As a result my mother chose not to go to either occasion. Since then some family elders have come down hard on us for not coming and have said that this was Qata' rahmi and also that since the girl has accepted Islam we should have supported her but being present and should have accepted her "with open arms", and that we are running the risk of driving her away while she has accepted Islam. Should we pay heed to these objections and try to make amends? Please answer in detail.
Q: I like one girl. I met her three months back. I did istikhara at the starting and now after three months my parents went to there place and after that they ask our well know mufti to tell us if it is good for us or not. We gave him the names of both families and he said its not good for you but I love her. Can I go against this decision or not? Please help me. We have to inform them tomorrow about our decision.