advice

Shaadi me pareshaani

Q: Meri shaadi hokey 6 saal hogaya aur mujhe 2 bache hai shadi hone ke bad mere saas aur sasur mere se bohat batsuluki se pesh aare the har din kuch na kuch taane baate sunate aur mere shohar ku mere khilaf sikhana jisse mere shohar mujhse ladte the unke baaton me aakey shuru se mere saas sasur jo bhi bolte woh sunke mere shohar mujhse ladte rehte hai. Shaadi ke ek mahina rehne ke baad mere shohar dubai chale gaye uske baad har din mere sasur raat me Nashe ki halath me mujhe ghar chodke jaane ke liye kehte aur mere maa baap ku bura bhala kehte mahine me 4 din maikey jane ki ijzat dete the aur mujhpe ye ilzaam lagate the ki woh 4 din mera talluk koi ghair aadmi se hai mera affair hai koi aur se isliye maikey jati bolte. Phir mere shohar kabhi kuch nhi bolte apne maa baap se. Mere sasur mera affair mere chichere bhai se hai bole mamu se hai bole chicha se hai bole itne ilzaam sunke bhi mai bardash kari aur mere shohar kuch nhi bole itna sunke. Saas bhi yehi bolte the ki tum ye ghar me rahe toh mujhe pasand nhi aata. Ramzan ki pehli eid thi meri shadi ke baad us din bhi mere saas lade aur meri izat aburu ku gindiye aur mujhe dhamki diye ki mere khilaf unke bete ku bhatkake talaq dene lagate. mai kuch nhi bolti unku phaltha ke sirf suni khamoshi se. ek saal tak mai mere maa baap ku kuch nhi boli is zulm ke bareme jab hadh se zyada hogaya toh boli phr mere maa baap mere shohar se baat kare aur mere shohar ki raza mandi se mujhe maikey me rakhe. Sise hi 2 saal guzar gaye mujhe na alag rakhe na apne saat rakhe mere shohar saal bhar me ek mahine ki chutti pe aatey the par mere saat nhi rehte jab unke maa baap bolte mere paas jane ke liye toh mere ghar aatey nhi toh nhi aatey. 2 saal baad mujhe ladki hui har waqt mere saas sasur mujhe kuch na kuch ghair ghalat bolke ghar se nikal diye aaj 6 saal hogaya ab mujhe bacha hua dusra 4 mahine ka hai mere shohar sikawat me aatey aur mujhse dur hojate aajtak mujhe insaaf nhi mila ladayi hui meri aur mere shohar ki India aaye the uno aur ladke uno mere paas nhi aaye baat nhi karey manane ki bohat koshish kari mai par uno mujhe baghair bole baghair mile mere aur bachon se dubai chale gaye. ab mujhe phr unke ghar jao bolre aur unke maa baap kuch bhi bolo sunke raho bolre aur bolre ki biwi bache unki zimmedari nhi hai unke sirf maa baap hi hai bolre. aur mujhe mere shohar ke pairon me girke raho bolre. agar mai unke ghar jakey nhi rahi toh mera aur mere bachon ka haq nhi detey bolre ab mai kya karu itni zillat ke baad mai phr kaise jaon unke ghar jabke unke maa baap ka mujhpe koi haq nhi. mujhe kuch rasta dikhaye molana sahab mujhe kya karna chahiye boliye.

Homosexual feelings

Q: I am a Hanafi Muslim. I experience homosexual feelings. I don't know how to cope up. I do pray to Allah Ta'ala. I offer Salah too. But please guide me. I can't afford to annoy Allah Ta'ala more.

Marital problems

Q: Recently my family did my marriage and my husband is too much taller and fat compare to me. When I'm having sex with him I'm suffering from too much pain. I can't explain you. So just I want to known is it compulsory to have sex with him every day or for few month I can have sex with him once in a week. Even before marriage no one ask me about this boy just they did my marriage with this man. So please can you tell me is it compulsory to have sex with him every day or I can have sex with him once in a week?

Larki ke bare larke se khush nahi

Q: Mei kisi se 5 year se bahut piyar karti ho wo bhi bahut karte he. Wo mere mamu ka beta he. Mamu ki taraf se 2 baar rishta bhi aya tha but jab hamare ghar wale agree nahi hoa but ab mamu ko paralise ho gaya hai and mumani ko mei bilkul nahi pasand. Mumani uski shadi kahi aur kara rahi hai hum dono bahut piyar karte he hamne ishtekara bhi karaya hai wo bhi bahut acha aya hai. Aap mufti sahab koi wazifa bataiye jisse mumani ke dil me ajai.

Na mahram mard se baat karna

Q: Mujhe four year se piyaar he aur wo mjhse bat keta tha wo hafiz he but wo mjhse kabhi direct nahi btata kya he uske dil me hum dono mile nahi h bus msg pr bat hoti thi aur dono qureshi ap mjhe koi wazfa bataiye jisse wo mjhse clear btaiye i want to marry him and he was said that mjhe hafze me bht wakt lagaiga but mei intezar karne ko ready ho mufti sahab kya koi aisa wazifa he jisse uski side se rishta ajai.

Keeping the light on in the room where one's mother is sleeping to engage in ibaadat

Q: During Ramadaan my mother was sleeping in the same room with me and I wanted to stay up for the whole night in ibaadat. I couldn't leave the room due to purdah and my mother said that she does not mind having the light on, so I left it on for a long while. Was this correct? 2. What takes preference, awaabeen salaah, or helping in the kitchen?

Stray thoughts

Q: I am struggling with OCD which creates negative thoughts and waswasa in my mind so I feel very bad. I feel sadness anxiety, stress, depression, angerness and too much fear with this. What can I do now? I am hopless. I can't find any way. Shaytaan always puts waswasa in my mind. If you do this it will happen like this, so i am confused, afraid and fearful with this thoughts. Its ruined my peace of mind please advice me.