advice

Q: Mera masla zara gaur se padhe aur shariyat ka ky huqum hai iss mamleme hame rahenuma kare Baat darasal ye hai ke mere bhai ki shaddi 10 mahine pahle hui aur wo job ke silsel se bhar hi rahte lakin bhabhi jab bhi ghar bulati wo sab kam bajume rakh kar leave le ke ghar aajate aur mahine me one week bhabhi ke sath hi rahte ...aur bhabhi se be-inteha mohabbat karte hai aur jaha tak bhabhi ka sawal hai unhe to khana bhi barabar banana nhi ata ...shaadi ke wqt bole ke sab kuch ata hai fir bhi yaha hum logo ne khana pakana sikhye ...wo apne shoahr ki farma bardari nahi karti ...das baar koi baat bolne per ek baar sunti ... bhai ne bole hui kam nahi karti ...yaha tak ki namaz nahi padti ...quran nhai padti ...parda nahi karti ...ye sab bhai ne force kar ke karwate .... aur bar bar maiyke chali jati ..bhai ke mana karne ke bad bhi ..kai bar to bhai hote hui maiyke chali gaye ..bhai ne use samjaya aise mat kiya karo alkin koi fiyda nahi ..fir mere wailden ne samjaya kuch din acche rahti bad me jaise ke waise ...phir bhi ne unki sas ke samne ye bat rahki ..kuch din ke bad fir waise hi chalu ...fir bhai ne sasur ke same ye bat ki ...to kuch din ke bad fir waise hi ...baar bar ghar chod ke jane ke dhamki deti bhai ko ...koi kam me dil nahi lagata tha bhabhi ka aur bhai ne jab biwi ke huqooq ke bayan sunaye to bhai ko kahti tumare paas sab byana hai kya kio songs aur movies nahi hai kya.. Bayan sunane ke bad bhi koi frak nahi pada kuch din sab karti bad me wahi apni akad dekhati ...aur to aur bhai ne ekdam sede aur sunnat takrike se shaadi ki ...aur bhabhi se kaha tha tumari jo bhi zarurte hai sahaddi ke bad wo sab bhai poori karenge aur ek shohar hone ka haqq mere bhai ne bahot acchese nibhaya ...kisebhi bhabhi ke rishtedar se poocho to wo yahi kahte ki tumri beti ke kismat bahot acche hai uske shohar uski har ek zarurat ka bahot khyal rakhta hai ... Aur us ke bad bhabhi ne ek din ye bataya ke Shaddi se phele wo apne chachre bhai ke sath pyar karti thi aur 4 se 5 sal us ke sath zina bhi kiya aur to aur uske chachare bhai ne uski sab gandi taswere lake useka bahot jismani fiyda uthya ...aur uske dostone ne bhi .. aur usne uske sath shaddi bhi nahi ke aur bas har baar uska nazayaz faiyda uthta tha ... itna sab hone ke bad usne bahi se mafi magi ...bhai ne maaf kardiya aur uski zindagi kharab nahi honna bolke use sath hi rakaha. kuch nahi kiya ...aab ye bat ke wo taswere us ke chachere bhai se kaise nikale aur aage jake koi pareshni na ho bolke ...unhone apne saas aur sasre ko ghar per bulaye .. aur baar bar bhabhi bhi kahti ke wo taswere us se hasil karna hai ye sab soch ke bhai ne bhabhi ke walidain ko bat karne bulaye...aur ye baat sir bhabhi ne bhai ko batye ...bhabhi ke wailden ko iske bare me kuch nahi malum tha ...kam as kam bhabhi ne shaddi se phale ye baat apne waliden ko batana tha na ...unhone aisa kiya nahi . bhai ke saas aur sasre akle nahi aye wo apne poore logo ko leke aye 10 se 15 jents aur 5 se 7 ladies ...aur bhai par tohmat lagaye ke bhai ne apne hi biwi ko force kiya ke aise bol bolke .. aur jab bhabhi se sab ne pooch sach kya hai to bhabhi kaha mere shohar ne muje force kare ye sab bolne ke liya to maine bola ...aur bhai ke uper najne kya kya ilzam lagaye ye muj per shaak karte ....aur bhahes bahot badh gayi ...aur humare pass hum ne kise ko bhi nahi bulaye bhai aur pitaji dono hi ...bhabhi sab logo ke samne mukar gaye aur apne hi shohar ko ke upar tohmat lagne lagi aur boli ke mai aise nahi hu maine aisa kuch bhi nahi kiya ye sab zoot hai ...mai igusse me thi isswaje se boldiya... aur uske bad wo log zabardasti bhabhi ko sath leke chale gaye ...hala ke bhai ne ijzat nahi di thi bhabhi ko jane ke ...bhai ke sasur bole meri beti ko mere sath bhjo nahi to mai yahi khudkhushi kardunag to hum log sab khamosh ho gaye aur wo bhabhi ko le ke chale gaye ... Bhaibhi ne mere waliden ke sugar blood pressure badha diya ....sab ko tension de kar wo chai gaye ..... uske bad bhi bhai ne apne sasur ko call kiya ...bhabhi ke uncle ko call kiya lakin wo log call nahi uthare ...phir mere khala ke ladkene bhabhi ke chacha ko jakar baat akri ..unhone bataya wo logo ki tabiyat kharab hai bad me baat karenge ...fir mere walid ne un logo ko call kiya wo log koi bhi jawab nahi de rahe hai .... aaj ek mahine se ziyada ho gaya hai wo logo ne call bhi nahi kiya aur hamara call bhi nahi uthya ...jo kuch baaat hui thi wo bhabhi ke maum aur uncle se hui thi aur wo bole ke ..ladaka hamri bacchi ko torcher karta hai ...aur sata hai ..aur sahakh karta hai ... aur yahi baat unhone mere walid se bhi kahi jab mere walid ne unhe call kiya tab. Mera bhai to panjwaqta namzi hai ..shaddi ke bad bhabhi ko to bahar gumane bhi le gaye aur to aur bhabhi jo cheej ko dehkh le bhai use kharid lete bhabhi ke liye ... agar koi aake bedroom dekhenga to samaj jayenga ke kya kya nahikharida bhai ne bhabhi ke liea har ek pasand bhaibhi ke kharidlate. aur ek baat bhabhi bhai ke samne ek bat karti aur unke aur mere waidain ke same alag bat karti ...jo bhai ke same qubool karti wo sab ke samne nahi karti .. aur bhabhi bahi ko to bahot satati bhi thi lakin bhai ne kise ko nahi bataya ...aur na mere waliden bhabhi ko kise baat ke liea kuch bolte na fir unhe satate. aab aise sitwation me hume kya karna chaiye ...shariyat kya huquum deti hai ..humari rahnumai kare ... Aap apna zawab zara tafsil se de taki sab kuch samajne me asani ho.

Q: Mera ayk sawaal hai ki hamare ghar mein kisi ki ghibat karna kisi ki choghli karna aur dosre ghar walaon ko bora bhalai kehna ye sab hamare ghar mein aam baad hai. Kya ise rookna ghalat hai main jabbhi in chizaon se rookta hon to mere waaleda sab bhaiyon ke nazar mein gira detin hain. Kya main ghalat hon kya ye mera rook na meri walidain ki izzat na karne mein shamil hai? Aur mere chote bhai aur mere bade bhai kehte hain ki main ghalat hon aur kehte hain ki main apne apko accha banne ka diqawa karta hon.

Q: I am in dire need of help. I am a horrible, sinful person, who should be stoned to death. I was involved with a boy, to the extent of intercourse, when my parents picked out a suitable match for me. I love my parents dearly and did not want to disappoint/hurt/shock/betray them, so I kept quiet and agreed to the nikah. After the nikah I continued having illicit sexual relations with the boy I previously liked. On the night of my rukhsati, I drugged my husband, and left him, and returned to my parents saying he was an addict, and got myself a divorce. The husband recovered from sickness after being drugged, but by then everyone believed him to be an addict. The guilt is killing me, my parents still think the man they married me to was at fault, they blame themselves for forcing me into a marriage. I keep praying to Allah that they never find out the truth because it would kill them. I love my parents and pray for them, and I pray that I am able to make them happy and proud of me someday, they are everything for me. I know that I am a sinner, and I want to make things right. I feel that Allah hates me and will never reward me in this world with success and happiness, for what I have done, and the Hereafter definitely holds jahannum for me. I feel that I cannot pray to Allah because I am filthy and impure, and that I should not even dare to pray or fast or ask Allah for anything. He has already bestowed immense favour upon me and my parents by hiding my sins so far. I did not love the man they picked for me, and after the nikah, I hated him even more, but he did not deserve what I did to him. When my parents forced me into this marriage, I should have been honest with them instead of lying about everything. I want to study ahead, I want to work and support my parents. I want to be happy but nothing is possible without Allah's help. And why would He help a sinner. Even when I cry and pray to Him, I feel that I cannot go beyond asking for forgiveness because asking for success or happiness would be too much. Will I spend the rest of my life unhappy, failing at everything I do, because Allah hates me? Will Allah Ta'ala ever forgive me? Confessing my sins would kill my parents but is that what it will take for me to make things right with my Maker? I am hopeless and dejected, and feel like giving up on life, but I try to be strong for my parents. I have always had faith in Allah, and He has answered all my prayers, but I think I have gone too far this time.

Q: Mujhe aapse advise chahiye ke mera apny husband se khula lena behter hai ya osky ravaye me tabdili ka intezaar karon. Mery husband ne mujhse dosri shaadi apni or meri razamandi k sath ki or shaadi k baad mery sath sirf 12 din rahy. Phir wo UK chaly gaye jahan unki second wife or bacchy rehty hain. Allah ne unhain buhat dowlat or ezzat de rakhi hai, lekin phir bhi wo mujhe naan nafqa nahi dety, mery rehny ka kahin intezaam nahi kia. Jabky shaadi se pehly unhon ne mujhse or mery parents se yahi kaha tha ke wo mujhe apne sath rakhain gy. Ab na apny pas bulaty hai na Pakistan me khud apni koi rehayeash mujhe di. main shaadi k baad se apny waldeen k ghar me pardi hon. shaadi se phely jab unhon ne sirf meri tasweer dekh ker haan ker di thi. osky baad wo meri her zarorat ka khayal rakhty thy. lekin shaadi k baad mujhse hamesha jaan churdane ki koshish kerty hain,jab maine unse naan nafqa or apne rehny ki jaga ki baat ki tab se wo ye kehty hain main unhain pasand nahi hon, meri or unki family status ka koi match nahi hai etc. or ab tu had ye k last 10 months se na koi call na msg. whatsapp per akser online hoty hain lekin meri kisi baat ka reply nahi kerty. mufti sahab meri shaadi 40 saal ki age me bardi mushkil se hoi, ghurbat ki waja se parents jahaiz nahi dy sakty thy.es liye khobsorat hone k bawajood rishty waly haan nahi kerty thy. mery husband married thy. unhain shaadi se pehly es baat per koi aitraaz nahi tha k main ghareeb family se hon, lekin ab unhain main or meri family bori lagti hai. ab tu family ka her shakhs kehta hai k mujhe khula le leni chahiye. Lekin main hamesha ye soch ker ruk jati hon k her insaan k dil me Allah rehta hai k shayed unhain mera khayal ajaye k wo aisa ker k mery sath na-insaafi ker rahy hain, or phir meri life me sab theek ho jaye. mery husband mujhse 12 saal bardy hai. es waqt unki age 52 saal hain. shaadi k baad unhon ne jitni baar mujhse mubasrat ki osme bhi mujhe unka koi interest nahi nazar aya k wo mujhse satisfy kerny me koi dilchaspi rakhty hon. Ab main Married hone k bawajood bhi unmarried life guzarne per majboor hon. Mufti sahab plz mujhe advise dijiye k main kaya karon. kia khula lena hi mery masly ka hal hai, jabky meri or mery parents ki ghurbat or low status ab bhi apni jaga hai.

Q: Main bohat pareshan hon apne ghar waalon se kyun ki gharpe walidain ke saat badhzuban istemaal hoti hai. Lekin meri walidain ko aur bhaiyon ko bora nahi lagta. Lekin main ek haq baat karta hon to main sab ki nazron mein bora banjaata hon. Aisa kyun? Aur mere chote bhai aur mere bade bhai log walid ya waalda se badhzuban se baat karte hai to hamare bade hasi mein baat ko woda dete hain. Aur main thuda ghusse mein baat karta hon to os baat pahad se bhi bada bana dete hain aisa kyun hora hai mere saath? Agar ghar pe koi ghalat horaha hota hai to main faoran moonh pe booldeta hon kya ye mera rookna ghalat hai kya mera ghusse jayaz nahi hai kya main ghalat hon bataiye main kya karon?

Q: Mery susral walo ny mojh pr or meri ammi pr ilzam lgay h ky hm in logo pr jado or sifli krty hn or pery hasband ko kaha h ky talak do me ny allima ka cours ky h me ny boht kaha h ky me ny koch ni ky h magr wo log khty hn ky kesi baba ni meri or meri ammi ki shakl dekhi he. Please meri help kry meri shadi ko 16 sal ho gy hn or mery 2 bachy hn.

Q: Mein life mein har chez se upset hun. namaz ada krty hun dua krty Hun mom upset ha mery husband se khush ni ha unhe lgta woh mery liye behatr ni aur bolty ha aur bolty mein unke baat ni maan rage toh mujh maaf ni krengy meiny unse kaha woh mery shohar ha jaise bhi ha mein unhe chor ni skty Allah ne rishta banaya ha toh ta umar in sha Allah nibahoungy ....aur normal hum bolty hai na ke hum andr se toot gye ha toh ek dafa mein upset thy meiny mera whtsap ka status "broken" likh dia tha jst aise ke mein khud andr se toot gye Hun jaise yahe intension se isy meri nikaah toh effect ni hua na cz meiny apke page mein ek wakia pada tha Jo Facebook se rltd tha toh ek wehm sa ha ap mera doubt clear krey na plz cz meiny broken likha tha khudke liye bus. Please sab clear kr ke jwb dena ke Jin Jin chezo se nikaah effect ni hota bus aur mery pas koi bada ni hota jise mein pouch sako ap madad krey aur reply zaror kijeyga mujhe.