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Q: My husband has two wifes and I am his second wife. My husband had performed umrah four times already with his first wife and he is going again to perform umrah with his first wife and his elder daughter and again not taking me with him. Please tell what are my rights about this matter?

Q: I am B.Tech qualified student doing M.Tech. My uncle is repeatedly saying to continue M.Tech and pursue Ph.D and become assistant professor which will require at least 4 years. I am already 25 years old and want to earn as soon as possible as I feel I should get married since 2-3 years. But I feel shy to talk on this matter with my parents. I want to do a job but uncle insists that teaching will be better for me (by observing my weak physical condition due to black magic). Completing higher studies will require 4 years and I will be reaching 29 years till I complete Ph.D become assistant professor. Due to sexual temptations and to prevent myself from sins, I want to do nikaah, but my uncle and father is of the view that I should continue studies. What should I do? During 2-3 years, I had indulged in pornography and masturbation due to temptations. If I continue to study for 4 years, there is danger of getting involved myself in porn and adultery and I don't want to do it. What should I do in the light of Quran and Hadith? How should I inform them about this and convince them. Also I am confused as to what source of income will be better for me job or teaching? (Teaching is better if whole life is concerned except four years and government job is better if entire life is concerned)

Q: My husband did a secret nikaah and after five years. I have found out that he has another wife and a small child. I have asked him to divorce her and send her back to her country if he wants to have any chance to continue our marriage. He has agreed. However, the guilt of sending the innocent child back is eating me up inside even though I will never accept his second wife or child. What do I do?

Q: A boy married a older girl without the consent of his parents in the presence of two male witnesses. Now if he wishes to tell his parents about it and they ask him to divorce the girl, will that be correct? Just because they against him marrying someone older and a few people in the family have spoken ill of the girl thus making his parents believe she isn't a good girl. Does he have to follow his parents and divorce the girl or should he remain married?

Q: I wanted to know if two partners play and had oral sex and semen was swallowed, would that render a person's 40 days prayer not accepted? I know oral sex is abhorred upon in Islam but what if it happened?

Q: I am really worried. I was talking to a friend and we were arguing on something. He said if you leave it for 40 days you will forget it. Get used to not having it (at that time I didn't have it in mind that it's a hadith). Then he said it's a hadith and we were in argument and I said I know it's a hadith and I said don't put hadith into worldly matters. Since then I am worried that may be I denied a haidth unintentionally. I need your guidance.

Q: I have a medical shop which is not working well at all. Can I know the reason and solution?

Q: My question is that my husband always argues with me. When he's with me, he gets gets angry for no reason. He doesn't like spending time with me. Please provide me any wazifa for our solution and good life.

Q: I don't know if you will read my message but I pray that you can help solve my problem. I had a very tough life with my ex-husband and in-laws but I never thought of breaking my marriage because of my kids. I knew that if I moved out we all will suffer. My parents knew everything and they used to tell me that I just leave him and they will keep us and provide for us. They used to force me a lot but deep down my heart I felt like not leaving becuase I was scared to stay at my parents with kids (there comes a point in life where parents can't take the kids of the daughter). Life went on. My hubby used to beat me and do all the nasty things with me. When one day our neighbour came to talk to him that brother it's not nice of you beating your wife in public. Do what you want to do inside the house, respect your wife. My husband immediately jumped on me and said that why is this man favouring you. Seems like you have some relation with him. He forced me to sign on a paper that my neighbour tried to rape me. I was refusing and he planned everything and took me to the police station and made me sign on that. My father came to know that and he came and took me there by force and told me you don't need to make up your marriage with someone who doesn't care about your chastity. I was somehow relieved and thanked Allah Ta'ala removed me from there. I was with my kids at my parents, it was all ok. I got the khula after two years. The problem here is that my mother can't stand my kids. She shouts them for nothing. If I will talk to her she quarrels with me so badly and whatever I do, she won't talk to me for days. This was the thing I was scared of. I knew my mother, she was always super strict with us too. I can't be and I don't want to be that way with my kids because I know of all the damages it has caused to me. It's like I am in trauma with all the strictness they were doing on us since we were little and my marriage to my ex was for this reason only that I wanted an escape from this. I don't want my kids to suffer the same. Alhamdulillah I am raising them Islamically but I can't be on them 24/7 not to let them even play outside. Sometimes I feel like it's the end now. When I got a proposal from a man who was accepting me and my kids with Al conditions accepted, my parents said no, as this will bring shame on them in the community. Yes I want to get married, I need a husband. I've told them clearly that I need a husband and I want to save my Imaan and I don't want to do anything which will bring harm to my Imaan, but what they said is make sabar. Please suggest me a way out of this.