advice

Q: My question is that I came to KSA from Karachi two months back to my parents and I don't like it here at all. I am 23 years old and I lived all my life in Pakistan. I am used to the lifestyle of Pakistan. I tried to compromise and live here but I can't anymore! I pray regularly Alhumdulelah and believe that only Allah Ta'ala can help me. But my parents are not thinking about me. I didn't eat for 5 days but they're not bothered. They're giving excuses that we spent so much money to bring you here and now you want to go. I collected my money for exit visa and ticket also so that I don't burden them. I have my home back in Karachi and my elder brother lives there too. It is no problem if I go live there but my parents are making it a problem. I hav faith that if Allah wills, He can help me. No one else can stop me then! But sometimes I become weak and feel like committing suicide so that they can save their money properly! I am afraid I might do something wrong with myself.

Q: My wife does not like me. Can I live with imagining a girl (jannat wife)?

Q: Myself my husband we both are very nice people. We are always on the helping side. We are not jealous, very simple and clear hearted people. But recently we got very big loss in our properties and we also give out accurate zakat as mentioned in the Qur'an. So what is the reason we face so many problems?

Q: I had indented to marry a lady then during our conversation after couple of months before nikaah I came to know that she is greedy and I fear that she would do the way she likes to do and will not listen to me because I believe she is a professional excusor. I strongly feel that this marriage will not work. I refused once then through a third person we sorted out and tried to re-continue. Now again I am feeling the same situation. Should I go with this marriage or not? I am confused. My family says in this country you don't know people are very different. That lady was married before and got divorce from her husband in a couple of weeks. Please guide me. She said she did istkhara and it was ok. I did but got nothing, no feeling etc. still same.

Q: I'm a 19 year old from Pakistan. Two years ago I started to wear the hijab and the burqa. My mother passed away when I was 9 and so I look up to my aunt for all the girly stuff. Everyone admired me when I started wearing the head cover and the burqa except my aunt. According to her I'm overdoing it; she gave me her example that she wears the hijab and burqa when shes driving alone, but she doesn't wear it when she is out with her husband ( her husband does not like hijab at all) she does not even wear the head cover in public gatherings or parties where the place is filled with non-mahrams. According to her, this is neutral and the way it is supposed to be. I wear hijab anywhere I go and do not take it off no matter what and she knows that too. She claims that I wear hijab just for looking cool. Wallahi I wear hijab for the sake of Allah and to please my Lord. And then she asks me to wear hijab in some other ' appealing style ' which requires me to raise the backside of my head and to reveal my forehead. My aunt used to wear burqa and hijab when she used to work. I also want to practise the niqab because I don't like the way how men eat up a woman by their stares and they do not spare a woman whose in hijab and burqa. But she says that I'm not religious enough to practise it. My other aunty calls me a 'laloo kheti' ( a term used in urdu to define a person who belongs from the lower class). I am really heart broken. My confidence is shaken. Why do people say stuff to me like that. I wear hijab the way it is supposed to be. It covers the bossom. And it covers my forehead as well. Please help me. And she also claims that I don't want you two sisters to have such an appalling difference (my sister who is 13 doesn't cover her head and hardly carries a duppatta and prefers to untie her hair every time) my aunt likes the way how my sister carries herself and she says that I look outdated in front of her and that shouldn't be the way. Please help me sir.

Q:

1. A girl is unable to love her father because he hurts her feelings, will she be accountable for not loving him?

2. After marriage girl should give importance for her parents or husband's parents?

3. A girl is happy in her husband's house because her in laws treats her well than her own parents. So naturally girl starts loving her in laws more than her parents will she be accountable before Allah for not giving so much of love for own parents? Please note that this girl had to suffer emotionally while she was at her parent's home due to some of the behaviour of her parents.

4. Will we be accountable in the court of Allah if we have little hatred for someone because that person used to hurt our feelings through his/her words or behaviour?