advice

Q: Please send a dua or waazifa to read. My brother in-laws son wants to come stay with us and I don't think it is right when I have a young girl of 13 years in the house and he is 17 years old. I also feel that I will have no privacy as I am full time in scarf. My husband and in-laws feel I am selfish. I don't want to hurt anyone but Islamically I don't think it is right he is not my son. Please help to read something that he can understand and agree to stay somewhere else or travel daily to his parents than staying in my house.

Q: I have a 3 year old son that gets very angry at times when he is scolded or reprimanded for doing something wrong. With the result he tends to get a bit aggressive with people around him. Is there a duaa I can read for him?

Q: My son does not like to study and he can not concentrate and he can't learn. He forgets whatever he studies. He is experiencing the same problem with his hifz.

Q: My question is about my wife. I have normally extreme need of sex but my wife does not allow me to have properly she come to me only twice or thrice a month sometimes only one time. That also not willing by her only. She performs it as a formality. It has been 12 years of my marriage. In early days it was ok, but also not that much which could be normal among husband and wife but since more then 5 years she is does not take any interest. Give me any good answer. I love my wife but I don't want to do zina. Please guide me what should I do? Even if I discuses with her, she does not take anything serious. Am I allowed to do 2nd marriage in this condition?

Q: If a wife is disobedient to her husband in any case of deen/dunia, what should the do? Take action or to be patient (sabar) for Allah Ta'ala?

Q: I am in great trouble and need sharia based solution. My husband is having sexual relationship with male guys and has been in this practice since puberty. I came to know when I got married to him. Another problem is that he wants me to be a part of his game and join his friends in this venture. I tried to get divorce but he says he will keep my children. I cannot leave my children with him cause he will destroy them. I am doing a job as he does not want to spend money on children's education. I have taken this responsibility but now as I want my children to join my school as it is a well known he is not allowing them and creating all the barrier to keep them not getting admission there. My only purpose in life is to provide quality future to my children so they may not become the victim for such a man and stand on their own feet.

Q: From about many years, I feel that somebody sits on me when I suddenly get awaken from my sleep. At that time, I use to be awake but suddenly my eyes get closed under pressure and my mouth gets closed. I try to shout but can't. I also feel somebody is walking in my room and from about a year I even hear some words which that person makes in my ear during that time which I don't understand. As a result of this, my heart has become very weak though I offer prayers five times a day and also recite ayat ul qursi and four quls (surah kafiroon, surah iklas. surah falaq. surah nas) but still undergo this. Same was happening with my father who passed away last year. Same also happens with my sister and mother but rarely. I even hear knocking sounds on door during this. Please tell me something about this.

Q: I need to know that if the husband does not want children to study in standard English medium school because he does not want t o invest in education although he earns a lot. Can wife take step in providing proper schooling to her children on her own expense.