advice

Q: I am making nikkah soon Insha Allah. I will become a second wife to this man. He is married to a very violent woman and this is one of my concerns as she has already attacked me physically in public and I'm sure she won't stop. She isn't afraid of him, she swears and hits him, in public too. I love this man very much so I have made sacrifices to be with him. My other concern is that they are married in community of property, that means, what is his is theirs and that means whatever he buys for me will legally belong to them and not me, which also means that should he pass on, she can claim my home and leave me stranded. What are my rights once we married? He wants to get us an apartment while his first wife owns a house. He has set up a trust fund for her but nothing for me as yet. I feel like I will be second in everything. If I do marry him, it will be anc, in accordance to shariah. Am I right in being concerned for my future or am I being selfish? Please advise me.

Q: I have a 10 year old daughter who obeyed me till now. But trying to behave like her cousins, she now misbehaves with me and reply back when I scold her even for her betterment. Can you please advice me on some duas to change her attitude?

Q: I am a first year pharmacy student, but since the time I have gotten admission into this college, I have been struggling with my grades. I managed to pass my first semester with C's by a hard struggle but this semester I do not know what is wrong. I study very hard, I read duas before my exams but I do not know why my grades do not come as I expect them. Sometimes I think its someone's evil eye on me or that this is no good for me astagfirullah. Please can you help me; are there any duas any wazifas to help me? I have searched online and found many but I do not know what to do. I used to teach at the mosque little kids Quran and Islamic studies but when I got admission here I stopped because of my schedule. Could it be that I stopped because I feel like I did not wrong thing. My classes were at a timing where I could not make it to the masjid on time so I had to stop. But please let me know anything that I can do to help me get good grades. I have gotten many loans to go here because of the tuition fees so I need to do better.

Q: What do we have to do to gain our parents good Duas?

Q: I am married for 27 years and found out my husband is on  chat room. Each time he tells me he is done with it, just to find out that he is still busy with it. He sees nothing wrong with it. I have access to his cell account via his cell and ID no. and I saw some of the disgusting messages. Can you please advise?

Q: I have been married for fourteen years. I have three daughter. For the past seven years my wife had affairs with different men and I tried every time to speak to her to repent but the affairs just happen over and over year after year. As a result of this my life been constant worry with no peace of mind. It is because I loved her so much I just tried to save the marriage every time. I have my brother and my parents here to stop this marriage but in my heart I still love her. How do I occupy my mind through this talaaq process because it feels like I am scared but I don't want to go back to this life. As I know myself I will try to go back and in past that is how it happen over and over. I forgave her but her affairs never stop. I gave her one talaaq seven years back and I wanted to know if I can give her the rest two talaaqs not in anger in any way, but just so that I can't go back to that life.

Q: When I fell pregnant with my little one, the Moulana advised my husband and I to read as much Quraan as possible to the baby in the womb. Now that he is born, I am trying to continue. While he plays, I pray Quraan aloud to him and when he sleeps I play surah Yaseen, Ar Rahmaan , Yusuf or surah Maryam from my phone. Alhamdulillah, I know reading Quraan can bring overall benefits to the baby but I was wondering if anyone knows specific benefits? Or can someone advise me on how to do this better?

Q: I don't know if my heart has truly forgiven my wife for this unforgettable act she committed (adultery). We are still together but I can't seem to forget and I can't seem to get over it. It is really bringing such pain within my heart and it's almost 3 years past. I know I have to be strong but I can't stop thinking about it. Is this because I didn't really forgive or is this just what I must live with. Please advise me how can I get past this and live a normal life with my wife without the memory of this betrayal?