Lillah and charity

Giving sadaqah for a safe delivery

Q: I have a question that my wife is pregnant for the second time. We have one more baby Alhamdulillah. In a couple of days, we have seen that we have lost our first child and later we got her in the dream. We want to give Sadaqah of our first child as well as of the baby who is in his/her mother womb. So is it possible that we can give Sadaqah of the child who is supposed to come in Duniya very soon?

Intention when giving sadaqah

Q: 1. When giving Sadaqah should we make niyyah that I am giving this sadaqah for the good health of my children and family members? Or just the niyyah of sadaqah is sufficient in helping ease our difficulties?

2. If sadaqah is given with the niyyah of good health/protection of ones family, will one get the sawab too?

Khairaat and Sadaqa

Q:

1) I would like to know the difference between khairaat and sadaqa and to whom and when we can give these?

2) I have my pay around 440 USD, in which I send amount to my family. Do I have to give zakat on this?

3) For job purpose, I am living in another city of Pakistan. How can I serve my parents, as Islam says that we have to make "KHIDMAT" for our parents?

Assisting beggars

Q: I give money to charity monthly to Muslim aid. However I never give money to beggars. I just feel they should beg from Allah not men. I also think they may buy alcohol. Another time a chubby person begged money from me, clearly that person didn't need money. I still feel guilty for not giving them money. Should I give them money or is that encouraging them to beg from people rather than the most richest, Allah.