Q: I have been married for 4 years. I have been separated from my husband staying with my parent for 2 years. He does not nafaqah me. We spent more time apart than together. I have no trust in him, I don't believe him. Our gap has grown so much bigger between us. Whenever we speak about things trying to make changes, but it never happens. We are still fighting. I'm unhappy miserable and lonely.
Q: I really need your advice. I am married for almost a year now. My husband works only on weekends at the Fleamarket while I work Monday- Fridays normal 8- 5 shifts. During the week he is at leisure . He goes to the Malls , sits on the beach. sleeps etc etc. This is really getting to me . I feel as a man it is his duty to take care of me. I asked him to go find a normal weekday job . He said straight out he cant afford to take care of me . That is why I have to work. I don't have a problem working , I love to work . But why doesn't he want to work as well. I compare him to other men and he gets angry .These days when i get home his not at home his either at his friends or looking for car parts for his golf. I got so angry last night because I want to come home to my husband but he is sitting at his friends house. We ended up in a huge argument, I broke his cigarettes and then he hit me. Yes mufti he hit me. He says I must grow up this is the 21st century men dont need to take care of woman. Am I wrong. We all want the good things in life to be at leisure. We live with his family. No body at home knows what he did that is why i am hoping to get a response from you. He says I am jealous of his lifestyle . Yes I am. I am lost. Must I leave him?
Q: I have been married for couple of years now and ever since my marriage my husband keeps talking bad about my family and how he did not get anything as dowry from my family. I have stayed with him for 1 year after marriage since he is unable to provide me visa in order to stay together. His job is not giving him visa so he buys business visa for himself and the only reason he is sticking to his job is because it's easy where he does not have to work. The one year I stayed was when I found a job on my own. I want to your advise please since am not sure what to do. My husband does not make any effort in keeping us together, does not like my family, takes help from them but talks bad behind, he uses bad language with me, tells me I am not fit to be a wife, does not like the food I prepare, and asks me to stay in his father's house since I am married to that house. He married me thinking my family is from US and thought he will get everything and it is not necessary to work. Now I have a baby as well and he does not show any interest in keeping us together. All the time he cries about how he has no money and has to send to his family and how we have become an expense on him. I keep thinking why am I with such a person who does not like any of my qualities. I want to divorce him but worried about my child. Please advise is this the right ground to take a divorce or should I keep trying.