Q: I want to ask the most important question of my life. Please answer me. I am married since 12 years. I have three daughters. My husband is nice, takes care of me and our girls but he has just one very bad habit; he talks to other women on the net and phone and he talks real bad things and these ladies I don't understand want kind of women they are. I don't know if he has any physical relations too or not. It's very painful. I have tried every thing. He himself says that there is nothing missing in me but he just can't leave this habit and he don't want to leave it too. What should I do? Should I stay in this marriage as I have 3 daughters who need their father or should I leave? I personally don't want to end my marriage but its not easy to tolerate all this what should I do?

Q: I am very tensed due to a few circumstances in the home now. When I was married my husband was earning and all his income went on my sister in-law's high fee, their dresses and other stuff and my mother in-law kept all his money saved. For full four years my husband gave me nothing and we saved nothing and then my son began to go to school and and then the other expenditures started along with the birth of second child. My husband's other brothers they also started working and what they earned they saved and now they have enough money. My mother in-law has enough money to spend on herself, but my husband who gave all what he has to his family is now hand to mouth. I always believe that virtue comes back to its doer but this happened not in my case. My in-laws are against me because they are not enjoying my husbands money because of our own expenditures. I am tensed because I have to do a job to bear the expenditures and my husband is tensed that we have saved nothing and his support is never regarded in the family. The only thing which my dewar did is to get a ups for the whole family and my saas tell this to all eveytime every day and my husband who used to keep all the money in his mom's hand, she has said nothing in her favour. Before my dewar's wedding I was the only target of my saas, she used to scold me but after wedding she had seen the new bahu's behaviour. She is a bit changed towards me but why I suffered so harsh for 10 years? Why was I unfortunate enough to bear and face all that?

Q: Do you have to shower after masturbating?

Q: Mohammed proposed to sell his share of a commercial property to Abdul Kader for R1 250 000. The seller didn't mention that it is cash (expecting immediate payment). The buyer didn't pay for the property immediately and one year has elapsed. The terms of payment have never been agreed upon. The buyer and seller didn't agree on how many months the buyer has to pay. Can the buyer claim that he has unlimited time to pay as we didn't mention "cash" at the time of sale? Is the seller entitled to rentals for the passed year? Is the seller still regarded as the owner of the property?

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1. Further to your advice that grave photography is undesirable, please advise in detail.

2. Are women forbidden to visit the graveyard? Under what circumstances are women forbidden to join salatul-Janazah?

Q: Please could you advise me on the following matter. I am considered Islamically mature and have been for nearly 10 years. I have met a potential spouse who was introduced to my family and wants to make nikkah with me. My family are refusing based on the following reasons:

1. The age difference between him and I is too much (9years)

2. He is too old for me (he is 27 years old)

3. I am too young (19 years)

4. I do not have a degree/career and I am cannot stand on my own two feet yet

5. He resides in a different continent

6. He is from a different cast to me

In terms of his Deen and character, we have heard pleasing feedback from neutral sources. He earns a halaal income and will be able to provide for me. His family are very supportive. They have agreed to send me home twice a year and allow me to continue my studies, illustrating their willingness to accommodate my family's reservations as far as possible. But to no avail unfortunately; my father does not want me to take this step despite my plight. My father and I do not have the same understanding, because he would rather the boy and I "go for coffee" and "go for movies" and remain friends. However I unlike him realize there are 3 things that shouldn't be delayed (salaah, burial and nikkah), and we shouldn't refuse proposals based on unIslamic reasoning. My father unfortunately has not made the wisest decisions in his lifetime which makes me want to do the 'right' thing even more; in a halal manner. I myself have made istikhara and feel very content in my choice of a life partner. I continue to make duaa for guidance from The Almighty. Please advise the way forward considering my father is using abusive language, due to me still being firm in this decision of mine. His reasoning for me is not Shariah compliant, feel free to correct me if I am mistaken.

Q: I would like to know whether it is necessary for the brides representative to be her Mahram and if nikah was made without her Mahram as her representative will that nikah be valid also how many witnesses are necessary for the nikah to be valid?

Q: I am a student at a Christian school. There, we are forced to join Church sessions everyday in a Church and be part of the prayers. Can I attend these sessions provided I do not believe in Christianity?

Q: I want to give my properties to my children (sons and daughters) during my lifetime, but I will require sufficient income for my living expenses. Is it permissible for me to gift the properties to them with the condition that a certain portion of income from the properties be given to me until my demise?

Q: I had to give 400 RS to my friend, so I gave him 500 rupees but some hours later he gave me back 300 rupees. So the extra 200 rupees actually belong to him and initially I told him to keep it but he refused. My question is can I use this amount for my personal use and for eating purposes as I dont know whether this is interest based money or not.