Hoors

Q: In jannah hoors are described as gifts for righteous men and a hadith of tirmidi says that if a woman hurt her husband then the hoors curse her and say he is with you temporarily. He is going to return to us.

1. I need to know why are hoors only for men. I am not saying women deserve something like this but at least what is this curse. I mean we are human. Little fights are common. Then why is this privilege only for men. Even men hurt women. Why is there no Hadith for that.

2. Why women are treated like baseless things. My Imaan becomes weak. Are we useless creations? Then why this partiality? Please explain in detail. I want to know. I am very stressed.

Premarital relationship

Q: I am in a relationship with a girl who is my relative since the past 7 months and I really love her a lot and have strong plans of getting married to her. We got physical a few times as in kissing and touching but never in intercourse. I even talked to my parents about this but my father doesn't agree due to relationships going wrong between her families. My question is how do I convince my parents on this and will I be considered as disobedient if I go against them and is there any way I can repent for my sins. I am really confused and I want to get married to her in accordance to Islam and can't think of any alternative.