Q: I think I might be suffering from OCD as I constantly have doubts about everything. In the mornings when I wake up to pray fajar there is still lots of time left after I finish to go back to sleep, but I am always scared I might get a wet dream so I stay up. But this got very tiring after a week because I am still a student and so I decided to go to sleep. The problem is that I constantly or very frequently will worry about getting a wet dream because I used to get them quite frequently before and they caused me a lot of distress and made me have doubts all time and made my life very stressful and hard to live. So now every time I am going to sleep I am always worrying about it and sometimes I do get a wet dream I think (I don't know for sure if it is a wet ream because I have been told that a wet dream must contain an orgasm, and I never remember having one) in the morning it is very hard for me to know if there is extra wetness because I always have some vaginal discharge. The day before I was getting a lot so I couldn't tell this morning. I decided to do some research on it and found a female Muslim's article and read it and it says that I must have certainty that I had an orgasm to make ghusl. But since I suffer from doubts a lot all the time it is very hard for me. Before I would just make ghusl even if I wasn't sure but that caused my doubts to get even worse because even the smallest doubt I would go take a shower and make ghusl. My mom is very upset with me and gets angry if I take so many showers all the time So my questions are:

1) What do I do in these situations? I am a very doubtful person and can never tell. Do I just make ghusl every single time then? This caused me a lot of hardship in the past because I have many doubts all the time.

2) When I woke up this morning after having a wet dream I didn't remember having an orgasm and I didn't fully remember the dream and couldn't tell is there was extra wetness because I was having lots of vaginal discharge the day before so I didn't make ghusl. I had to go to school so I changed my clothes and when I came home I did wudu and prayed namaz, but then I was having doubts again. Did I do the right thing this morning, because I have done a lot of research and they always say unless you can make a promise to Allah saying your wudu has broken it hasn't, so since i wasn't sure at all I thought I would try to stop my doubtful thoughts by not doing my normal routine showering but then I just got more because I keeping thinking what if I did the wrong thing.

3) How can I over come these thoughts? They have controlled me for 2-3 years and they make doing simple things like namaaz and wudu very difficult for me. So do I still need to do ghusl even if i am not sure I had an orgasm in my wet dream at all? Are the clothes I wore to school napak now? Did my namaz not count?

4) After I went to the bathroom this morning to use the toilet before school I washed myself like I normally do after I urinate but there were drops of water after I got up from the toilet from the water I used that touches my clothes. Are my clothes napaak because i didn't do ghusl?

5) If I sat somewhere with those wet drops in my pants did the place like sofa or bed become napaak?

6) If I have wet dreams in the future when I don't remember them and am not sure if there was an orgasm and can't tell if there is extra wetness because of vaginal discharge what do I do becuase they happen frequently and when I wake up I am very sure I didn't have an orgasm because I don't remember having it at all but then my doubts start and I begin to worry that I am always making a mistake?

7) Since I didn't shower until the next day, did all the clothes I changed into get napaak too?

Please help me I am very troubled with my life right now. I think I have gone crazy. Thank you for helping me with my doubts may Allah reward you.

Q: I'm a 32 year old Muslim woman and have natural dread locked hair. I want to find out is it permissible to have and if not what do I do because a woman isn't allowed to cut off her hair?

Q: Our helper is interested in Islam, but when she tried to tell her parents about Islam, they tell her that she must leave if she accepts Islam and threatened to do something to her child (not sure what) as they believe here in the cities, they are too many religions and thinks Islam to be something like satanism. She wanted to know whether she can accept Islam but keep it a secret from her parents. I told her she can, but then started wondering whether it is right. She has already said the Kalima couple times repeating after my little brother when he came back from Madrassah but not formally. I think she believes, and she's eager to learn more about Salaah and that. Please advise as to what should I do, and is it okay for her to keep it a secret.

Q:

1. Is it Sunnah to sit cross legged after Fajr Salaah?

2. Which other times did Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) sit cross legged?

Q: Is celebrating Muharram haraam in Islam?

Q: I would like to know how to inculcate good manners in my children. I noticed that if I am strict and firm with them, they start screaming and crying. However, if I am lenient with them, they take advantage of me and simply ignore me. Please provide me with some guidelines on how to discipline them.

Q: I and my husband have been married for four years now with one two year old son. Before our marriage we had a love relation for ten years. As we are cousins too, we had the most beautiful relation though with few fights. Just before getting married I was studying for USMLE but my husband who was my fiance stopped me had big fights and told me to leave it and study in Pakistan whatever I want to do. Two years after our marriage I did my specialization and started working in hospital from 9 to 2. Its been last one month my husband has strong objection on not doing it and leaving it. In between our marriage we had huge fights. My husband beat me several times very brutally and things have gotten to two talaaqs because of his anger. He has not given me any money for my personal expenses only for house hold and recently he took away money from me which he gave to save and told me he will not give me money as I do job and he will deprive me of it. I came to my parents home. He came and misbehaved and abused my parents. They came to know he beats me regularly and abuses me. They told me to leave him but he apologised and said he will not do it again and let me continue my profession. As I came back with him his attitude is still the same no change in it. His parents tell him in front of me to do second marriage. I would add here that he recently told me before going for hajj that he had been bisexual before marriage and has done infidelities multiple times with both men and women but after marriage has stopped. My heart has stopped loving and trusting him and I don't even like it when he touches me because his attitude towards me is still the same. Should I get separated? Is it ok for me to leave him or stay? I am unable to communicate with him because he will fight and hurt me. I don't want to destroy our relation but my heart no longer likes him.

Q: I have two children Alhamdulillah. Both are boys age four years and two and a half years. Both are very naughty/aggressive by nature. I am trying to mange them but some times I feel that I am too strict with them so I try to change my behaviour, but when I change myself they became more aggressive and not ready to listen to anything. Sometimes it becomes really awkward and embarrassing when we (me and my wife) are calling them for something but they simply ignoring us and when we try to be little strict they (specially the younger one) starts shouting and crying for hours. Please guide me what Islam says about this situation? Is getting a little strict permissible or not? What is the best way treat a child?

Q: If someone reverted to Islam from Hinduism. Am I correct in thinking that she cannot buy for her families (Hindu) groceries and stuff for their prayers?

Q: What is "Hijama"? Is it mentioned in the Hadith?