Talaaq

Q: My husband and I went through a rough patch in our marriage where he gave me talaaq. We met through a mutual friend and decided to get married, our families arranged the wedding but then arguments occurred over wedding furniture and the wedding dress between our families which lead to his family trying to break off the wedding the night before. My husband married me anyway and at the beginning of our marriage he was very depressed about his family cutting him out of their lives. I felt like he sometimes took all his anger and frustration out on me, it really affected him mentally. I tried to be really kind and supportive but sometimes the verbal abuse and neglect became too much. I told him to be patient and his family will eventually talk to him again, he was so convinced that they would ignore him forever he was so depressed. Alhamdulillah now his family spoke to him again and everything is normal, it took a while but they got there. I just wanted to know if that talaq was valid. I read on other websites to refer to similar questions and read the answer there. The questions were about talaaq given in extreme anger and the answers were their talaq was not valid. My husband and I were arguing a lot during our rough patch and it got so heated we said awful things to each other. He was not himself at all. At this moment I was staying at my parent's house and he was at our flat. We argued on the phone and it continued on text late into the night. He suddenly texted "i divorce u" while we were sending heated texts. The next morning he said he couldn't remember doing it, sending that text, and said he was extremely angry and texting very fast. I would really like to know if this talaaq was valid. I've researched so much on talaaq during extreme anger and I keep reading that it's invalid and that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said there is no talaq during extreme anger. Please help put my mind at ease.

Q: I gave a condition to my wife just for one particular day and for a particular phone call that you will be divorced, will be divorced, will be divorced if you call baji (my elder sister). She did not call on that particular day nor did my sister call her on that day. I am living in UAE and had already taken fatwa from aukaaf department and the mufti sahab said "chunkay ap na sirf aik din ki pabandi lagai thi or ap ki biwi na fone ni kiya is liye talaq ni hui, agar ker lati to ho jati or wo future ma bilkul call ker sakti han" After that me and my wife are living normal life. My wife calls her and visits her, but the problem is that I didn't the mufti sahab about three talaqs because I didn't remember at that time. I told him only one talaaq. I take oath that this condition was given for only one particular day. It was clear to my wife also. Also my niyyah was to stop my wife from that particular call by threatening her. It was not meant for divorce. Due to my loneliness I am scared and worried. Please help me.

Q: I would like to know if husband and wife have gone to the MJC. The wife wanted a faskh but the husband didn't want. The MJC didn't grant one because there wasn't grounds for a faskh, but has requested that the husband and wife meet again at the MJC to discuss the way forward. My question is, can the wife go behind his back to another Imam or Sheikh and get a faskh without the husband even knowing about it or being notified. I have heard that there are some Imams that will simply issue a faskh based on the wifes story and not even bother to notify the husband. Is this valid?

Q: We got our younger brother married to our cousin and rukhsati was not held. Now a clash came between both families. Now tell me if my brother gives divorce in front of us not in front of his wife, then will the divorce be valid or not?

Q: If husband in anger says talaak three times just talaaq nothing else with it. Is talaaq done from uttering these three words?

Q: Before I ask my question let me explain what happened. Shortly after we got married my husband and I had a fight and he said I am giving you a talaaq. This being the first time he has said we took it it as one talaaq, and we reconciled and carried on. After that we had numerous fights and it got to a point where he said he doesn't want to be with me anymore, he is leaving. Very harsh words towards me. But he did not say that he is giving me another talaaq or divorcing me. A few months passed after that and it has now gotten to a point about two weeks ago, that he said I am giving you a talaaq, and he packed up and left. I have been sitting in iddat since then. My questions are as follows;

1. Does him saying during our fights that he is leaving constitute a second talaaq?

2. Is this talaaq he has given now the 2nd or 3rd talaaq?

3. If it is the 2nd talaaq can we reconcile and does a new nikaah have to made?

4. If it is the 3rd talaaq does he still have a responsibility to me during my iddat period or not, as he has moved out am I obliged to spend my iddat in my current home where I am still staying?

5. Is it permissible for me to go to work during my iddat as he is no longer supporting me, and I have no father or brothers or even uncles to take me in?

Q: I am married to my wife for the past 7 years and during these years of my married life I used to have heated arguments with my wife on her behavior and out of anger I have given her divorce in intervals but maximum number at a time was 2. We are still living together. Please advise if our marriage is still valid?

Q: My husband told me if I will call or contact a friend of mine, I will automatically get three talaaqs. I wanted to know if this is true according to Shariah? Will I really get divorced if I call that friend? And if this is true then how can I talk to that friend if I have a serious issue to discuss with her without getting divorced? Please help. I hope i will get an answer soon.

Q: Can a woman undergo two faskhs and still remarry the same man after the iddat of her second faskh?

Q: I was having a good time with my wife. I just snatched a pillow from her because I was using the internet at that time so she said to me a word in urdu (katti) and I said (acha yar). I hope you know katti. Katti means when in childhood friends use to say to break friendship and they raise little finger and say katti. That word, my wife used to me and it was just in love I know but I was busy on the internet and I said acha yar thats all. I didn't have niyaat or any thoughts of divorce. After that when using the internet I got waswasa and it made me afraid. I am having waswasa since 1 year. What to do?