Q: I have a question regarding milk parents.
I was conceived by my biological parents with the intention of being adopted by my aunty (fathers sister) as she hadn’t had any children with her husband for 11 years.
When I was born, I was adopted and grew up in another city with my (new) milk parents. From small I was told about my adoption so it wasn’t something shocking to me.
I grew up knowing my siblings and visiting my biological parents often, but my milk parents were like my real/main parents and my biological were like my aunty and uncle.
Now that I’m older and married and my siblings are also older and married and I’m staying in the town I grew up with my biological parents. I hadn’t been there as much and made the khidmat owed to my biological parents.
My biological parents said multiple times that I should treat my milk parents as my real ones and that they (the biological ones) hold no haq over me. I asked my shaikh what to do and he says that shariah is above everything and that their words or emotions don’t govern what the actual rights to them are.
So my question is who holds more right over me, the milk parents who raised me or the biological parents who bore me?
When it comes to khidmat or instruction, who holds more weight?
And lastly, if they excuse me from khidmat what does it mean?
A: Your biological parents have a greater right over you compared to your foster parents who have adopted you. Even though your biological parents have mentioned that you should regard your foster parents as your original parents, the law of shariah is that they (your biological parents) are your parents. Hence, you should maintain closer relations with your parents and whenever you find an opportunity to serve them, you should do so.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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