Nisaab for zakaat for husband and wife

Q:

1. I have question regarding zakat. I am a married and a house wife. My husband is working in another city. My husband gives me money monthly for home purchases and some pocket money. We don't have our own house, we just bought a piece of land 5 months ago and want to build a house. My husband has 7000 dollars and I have more than 100 grams of gold. So is zakat and qurbani waajib on me and on my husband or do we first have to build our house?

2. If qurbani and zakat is waajib on us, do we have to pay zakat separately and do qurbani separately?

Masturbation

Q: Is it a major sin for a woman to masturbate? Could you please provide references from the Quran Sharif and Hadith for the satisfaction of my heart and mind? I have heard that it can cause weak memory and eyesight as well as other health problems.

Distancing one's child from lesbian grandmother

Q: My husband’s mother is a Christian. She is a lesbian and lives with another woman and is not shy about their relationship. I don’t like this situation and don’t like going to visit especially with our children, however I know I cannot keep my husband away from his mother. My daughter is big and has questioned me on this relationship that she can see. I have advised her that this is wrong in every way possible and has reminded her of the story of Nabi Lut (alaihis salaam). Is it wrong of me not to want to visit or be seen in public with her? I don’t like being associated with her at all and this is difficult for my husband to understand because it is his mother. How can I make my husband understand because I feel very strongly about not being associated with her although I am because I am married to him. Can mufti give advice on this situation please.

Husband drinking wife's breast milk

Q:

1. Is it permissible for my husband to drink/swallow my milk intentionally and unintentionally. I am breastfeeding his son. Whilst making love to me he squeezes my breasts and sucks my nipples very hard and there is milk all round his mouth and I know he is also taking it inside.

2. Am I responsible to make food for my father in law when my husband calls me to bed to fulfil his needs and satisfy him?