Suspending a talaaq

Q: I said to my wife. "Agar bazar se ik ganty ke andar wapus na ai to sub kuch khatam hojai ga" with the intention in my head to scare her that the rishta will end so come fast and not at all with the niyat of talaq. Now after 3 months I did researched and found out that this is called kinaya and it may be a divorce?

Providing for one's wife if she is living with her mother

Q: About 7 months ago (the first week of Ramadhan) my wife requsted a divorce, she requested her brother to collect her and asked me to issue a talaq. I refused saying that it was not what I wanted. I requested that I will only abide if she gave me the request in writing, with the reason why she wants the divorce. Until this day I have not received it.

She moved in with her mother, who stays in the same town. Over the next few months I begged her to come back home and each time she refused. I kept on providing for her and he kids and sent her gifts etc., not once did she do the same. She even told me to arrange my own domestic worker to clean our house as she cannot manage to see to the house anymore. After numerous requests for her to please return home as we are still married, she refused.

About 2 months ago, I stopped giving her an allowance as I felt its not fair since she doesn't want to come home. I still provide for the kids what they need. She says its unislamic as I have to still maintain her and her expenses. I have asked her to come home and fulfil her responsibilities which she refuses.

Please advise if I should conitnue giving her money and also, what should I do as she keeps on telling the kids and everyone else that I do not provide for her. I have left the car I bought for her with her and also pay for her fuel, and have not used a cent of her money in our marriage. I pay the kids school fees and give them an allowance as well. I feel since she has chosen to move out and stay with her mother, then her mother should see to her expenses.

Playing sports for money

Q: I want to ask a few questions about gambling

1. If two teams play cricket for money and the one who loses the match will have to give money, is this permissible?

2. If two teams play cricket for money and the looser will have to give money and the winner uses this money for cricket material, this way both teams will get benefit. Is this permissible?

3. If two teams play cricket for money and the one who loses will have to give food/party to all the teams. Is this permissible?

Equality between wives

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a woman for over 2 years. Recently I gave given birth to our 4th child, the baby is only 2 months old. My other children are still small. She has 3 sons. He says that he wants to make nikah but at times he also seems confused saying that she’s a good friend.

He says that if he does make nikah, he will sign a contract with her stating that he will spend 1 night only with her and give her a fixed amount per month (he will give her less than what he gives me) and that he won’t provide a home for her as she has her own home. He says that he will not be taking care of her children financially. He even says that in the contract he will state that she will have no rights to he’s inheritance. Is all this permissible?