Asking forgiveness from one's relatives

Q: My niece had a proposal fixed n kept meeting in my house.i ws not well yet i cooperated. But she n her mom came late n the boyside came earlier than scheduled time. my husband had gone for namaz. i panicked when she came it was late n i as a hypoglaemic lost my temper due to hunger attack n told her something loudly in kitchen which were insulting words to the boy which he heard in the hall and broke the proposed engagement.since then i m begging for forgiveness from niece her mother,the boy .offering gold n money n even sawab of my umra but my niece refuses to forgive me n has orderd my sister to break relationship wit me.she curses me n uses bad words n filthy language for me n my innocent girl. What should i do now? I m taking treatment for anger issue. I m feeling very sad and depressed.

Istibra

Q: After going toilet, I make istibraa by tying toilet paper around my private part for about one hour. Then I take out the toilet paper and I wash myself. For the past few days, after I make istibraa and I wash myself, I see that after 2-3 minutes something comes at the tip of my private part. I'm not sure if it is urine or water. Last night, I made istibraa for 2 hours and then I washed myself. After I washed myself the urine or water came at the tip of my private part after 2-3 minutes, I washed again and it came again. I washed two more times and I became tired. I washed again and I went to read my esha namaaz. Today, I made istibraa for about 2 hours and before I washed myself I checked my private part for a while and nothing came out but after i washed myself the urine or water came at the tip of my private part again. I want to know if it is urine or the water coming at the tip of my private part and if it is urine should I make qadha of the salaah. I read with this doubt in my mind?