Q: I am a Muslim guy and I have been in a relationship with a christian girl for a while. I am trying to make this relationship permissible on all aspects and I want to marry her but we are not planning to register this marriage in the court (not legal marriage) just Islamic so that we can be confident that whatever we are doing is not a sin/Haram. We are very serious in this relationship and we want to take it to a legal marriage level but not now since she is still a college student and her parents and not fine with her getting married that early. I believe, I can fulfil all the Islamic marriage requirements from bringing in witnesses to announcing my marriage. It's worth mentioning that we live apart in two different cities, more than 6 hours away from each other but we do see each other every once in a while.

My question is: Is marry this girl according to the Islamic laws permissible?

Q: I am a 30 year old women, with a 3 year old daughter. I am currently looking to seek Khula. My husband is also my first cousin and I was very happy with my marriage, however he left me over 2 years ago due to the following reasons:

1. Before we got married I had over £50k saved up as I worked for 10 years. Our parents had agreed for us to speak over the phone to understand each other before the marriage in a few weeks time. I told him that I didn't have my own home or place to rent yet & to give me 3 months to buy or find a place to rent. He refused at the time and said that we should get married now. He also said that he would be able to buy a home for us as he had enough money from his family (they were extremely wealthy) and for me to not worry about it - this conversation happened several times. So we married a few weeks later. Note I spent close to £30k on marriage. I offered to use some of the money I had left for either rent or to buy a property & also use the money he had promised he had to get a place - however for the next 3-4 years he just kept promising and using excuses to delay getting any money. Then he left me 2 years ago on the day I raised the point again about us moving out (note my father wanted us to leave his home where we stayed after we got married) with one of his excuses being he can't buy a home and that we can't be together. He never looked back at me or even tried to keep in touch with his child. Countless times I even offered to rent a place out myself for us be he just didn't want to.

2. We lived at my parents home after we got married and got his Visa to come to the UK. We actually in total lived here for 4 years. I helped to also provide for my own family because my father was on an extremely low income and also was the eldest child so I supported my mother, father & 3 other siblings. I told him this that I would need to support them before we got married & never did he object to it during the course of our marriage. However when he left me he used this as another excuse that he was annoyed I used to provide/help my family financially.

3. Another point is that he left me after 3 months of getting his permanent stay in the UK. So I'm assuming the Visa was the reason for the marriage.

4. I always tried to be very supportive to my husband helping financially - for e,g when our child was born I brought everything. I never once questioned him or even asked for any money because I understood he was on a low income & whatever is mine is his. Since the day he left 2 years ago he never made contact again with me. I don't know where he lives, some family members do but they don't tell me. Based on above reasons that he didnt support me financially and still doesn't, left me and my child without proper valid reason over 2 years ago - please could you answer the following questions:

1. Am I within my rights to request for Khula?

2. As I don't know where he is? What does Islam say about this? And how should I approach Khula? I don't want any money from him - as I am capable of looking after myself and my child. I just want peace and want to move on. More recently I had a proposal from an already married man who wants to support me & my child. (I don't know him & not spoken to him but we live in a close community and he heard about my circumstances at a local mosque) - my parents were told of this proposal through friends. If I go ahead I don't want him to break up with his first wife. In fact I would want to live together as a family.

1. Does he need to get consent from his first wife if we were to do a Nikkah?

2. My parents told me about it but are refusing to the proposal because he's already married - Can I marry him without my parents consent?

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Q: If the husband looking at his wife says go talak but stops himself and does not complete his sentence does it still count as talaq?

Q: I have a very serious issue going on in my life right now and has been going on for a while now! I dont know if its because of nazar or jadoo! I pray regularly! sometimes 4, sometimes 5! I also read the Quran frequently! I'm 30 years old and still unmarried! I did however get proposals in the past, and got engaged but sadly that didnt work out! A few of the proposals were not very suitable and some were! but the problem lies with my mother! she is extremely paranoid and is always suspecting people! Now I finally found someone who is compatible and is a Muslim who also prays but she thinks hes from a different sect which he has said that he is not! He is a Sunni Muslim and so is his family! the problem is my mother is still not convinced and thinks hes not telling the truth! she is always suspecting people and is never satisfied even though she is religious! I understand that she has gone through a lot in her life but now she is not letting me marry! one of my sisters is married alhumdullilah but she is still in denial! Her behavior is getting intolerable! Both are families met and both liked each other except my mother! I gave her a deadline that if she doesnt approve or cause any sort of problem I will have to take the matters into my hands and will therefore marry on my own! My father has agreed to support me and has also given his approval but still the matter has not progressed! everytime I get a proposal something or the other happens! I have done several wazifas and also did istekhara when i first got engaged! nothing seems to be working for me! Im in depression now and sometime I think of ending my life because I have desires too and want to live a normal life and stay away from zinah and evil! My question is If I get my nikkah done at a mosque without my mother or parents or any family member will it be permissible? Please let me know!! I need help!!

Q: My husband cheated on me. He had sexual relations with a married woman and a mother of three. iI have left his home. What should I do? Should I leave him or not? I am neither able to live with him nor able to leave him. He is in love with zina.

Q: I have some family problems now a days..nothing was like this before..my younger brother never behaved like this before..now he stands in front of father ..argue with him even ready for quarrel..he was most obedient of us bt now his behavior is totally changed in a week...his age is 17 years..also there are many other problems which have started at once..i want peace in my house before...is there any special dua or prayer for it??plz help me out

Q: I am woman who was recently in an arranged marriage. My husbands side did not allow me to talk to my husband before the wedding, I only had a 10 min conversation with him. I raised concerns over my husband not talking much before the wedding and my parents chose to ignore this. A few days in to the marriage I discovered that my husband suffers from a mental health condition called schizophrenia. I was very upset that this was hidden from me and also my family. This explained a lot of initial difficulties that I was having with him, although I started to care for him a lot. I was worried that he may have another manic episode which will make life very difficult for our marriage. He is currently on medication everyday for this. I have decided to end our marriage because of all his symptoms and my worry for this getting worse in the future. I was with him for a few weeks and the marriage was not consummated because we were getting to know each other. I have since come home and prayed istikhara to see if I should go back to my husband. I have seen that I was being attacked by a wasp, the house was on fire and also that there were a lot of scary people and creatures waiting outiside to attack me and family. I don't know what these dreams mean. I have decided not to go back to my husband. However I find that at times my heart longs for him and that my heart longs to be with him and share my moments with him. I'm finding it difficult to think of marrying other men. I am so confused and a mess. I know that I cared for him a lot but I worry about the difficulty his condition will have on our future as it is something no one told me about. A lot of people ask me to go back and give it a try but I cannot make his condition better, the issues for the future will still be there and I don't want to consummate the marriage if we may end it again. Please give me your thoughts, am I in the wrong for wanting to leave? Will these feelings for care and love go away? I started to feel like his career and became overprotective of him and his condition.

Q:

My first question is: In Islam, when does a child have the right to go outside and maybe socialise or even go to the mosque and come back by themselves. Say a general ruling for maybe a boy who is 13-14 years old.

My second question is: Up to what extent is an older sibling allowed to punish a younger sibling i.e. corporal punishment or verbal? 

My third question is: If your parents say something like "I don't care about what sunnah or fatwah says, it's about what I say! It's about me!" how do you respond in a respectful way.