Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Looking at a girl before marriage

Q: I have read that a man can see the face and hands of a woman he is interested in marrying, if he is permitted by her family.

1. What are the limits of his gaze at her covered parts of body? Can a man gaze at the breasts, hips and buttocks region of her covered body?

2. Is it permissible to look for certain aspects of physical beauty of women one is choosing for nikah?

Requirements of a valid nikaah

Q:

1. What are the requirements of a valid marriage in Islam? Is the consent of parents mandatory?

2. If a girl and boy (both adults), in the presence of two adult male witnesses and without the consent of their parents, performed Ijaab and Qabool (without any duress and with free will), is this nikah valid?

3. If the answer to question 2 is 'yes' and if the parents of both the girl and the boy agree for their marriage in future without being aware that the girl and boy have already entered into nikah, (and the girl and boy do not want to reveal this fact to their parents), can they enter into nikah again when the marriage takes place for the purposes of registration in union council?

Girl under 18 getting married

Q: I am 17 years old. My mother has passed away last year and I am living with my mamo and nano. I am totally burdened to them. My sister got married last year. They want me to also get married. I am biologically 19. My age was change in childhood. Can I get my nikaah since I've heard that girls under 18 cannot get married?

Wali of a girl whose father does not want to be present for the nikaah

Q: I was divorced 20 years back and I have 2 daughters from my first marriage. My parents brought them up without any help from my ex husband.

After divorce, he got married and I also got married. Now my first daughter is getting married. For some time my ex husband is contact with my daughters so she asked her father to be her wali in her marriage but he refused all of sudden.

My father, their maternal grandfather (nana) became her wali from the age of 2 since he only taking care of her.

My question is whether my daughter's marriage is valid or not?

Getting married to a girl who was molested in childhood

Q: A relative was investigating a girl for my marriage. He learnt from a very reliable source that the girl was sexually molested when she was a child. When my parents learnt that the girl was molested as a child, they said that we should not investigate her anymore for my marriage.

Is this correct behavior? Is this a valid reason for not considering someone for marriage? In my opinion, it appears unfair to her as she was a na-baligh at the time. I do understand well that child sexual abuse victims often carry traumatic memories and emotional symptoms well into adulthood. But will this mean that one should not consider such a person for marriage entirely before looking at anything else, like character, morality, hayaa, etc.?

Girl getting married without the happiness of her mother

Q: I would like to know if a hanafi girl has found a suitable partner, such a partner that is a Muslim, one who performs his salaah, he is capable of financially providing for her and fulfills all the requirements of nikaah, however her mother refuses for her to make nikaah to such a boy without any solid and valid excuse, will it be allowed for her to make nikaah to him without the happiness of her mother as the mother is not being reasonable?

Girl marrying without the permission of her wali

Q: I got married 9 years ago, when I was baaligh. I did a court marriage to protect myself from sins, in Pakistan. During our nikaah we had 2 male witnesses, molvi judge and Surah Al Nisa was recited and dua was made and we both consented with heart.

As per constitution of Pakistan (Islamic country) nikah is valid. But there was no wali present or consented at the time of nikah. As I didn't inform anyone as I knew they will not agree. Neither I knew that a wali is mandatory at that time nor my husband knew, neither did the molvi who did the nikaah told that to us. He was also a nikah registrar.

Soon after my nikaah, within a month my family came to know about my nikaah. Initially there was hype then they agreed and my father sent me back to his house in multan. Then after some time my rukshati was also done with my elder sister (married to his elder brother).

I was an ignorant Muslim at thay time. Now since 1 year I have changed a lot and reverted to Allah and I fear Him for all my sins. I have around a 5 years old son too. Today I saw videos on YouTube telling me that "No nikaah is valid without a wali - and a woman that does her own nikaah is zaani". I see different sects groups and fatwas, some hanafi says nikaah is valid, some says wali is not required, while others say nikaah is not valid, without a wali.