Mahr

Asking for one's mahr after giving it to one's husband

Q: 12 years ago I got married. My haq mehr was decided to be paid later. There is a fight between me and my husband related to the amount he spent on our honeymoon. To make the things simpler, I said that you can keep my mehr amount to compensate your expenses. Later on, I spent 12 years of my life in an abusive marriage. I never demanded this amount again. We have 3 children.

Now, he divorced me and married another women. Can I demand my haq mehr amount now as I have once forgiven it or given it to him? I also need it for my children. He has also not returned my jewellery that was given to me at the time of our wedding as a gift. Can I demand my haq mehr now, as I have once forgiven it or given it to him? 

Giving a house on bond as mahr

Q: A couple bought a house in both their names, shared the deposit and took finance jointly. Subsequently the husband gave her one or two talaaqs and she completed her iddat. Thereafter the couple planned to re-marry. Her condition for the second re-marriage was that the mahr must be the house that was jointly purchased, so that she has full power to the house.

The question that is being asked is that is it possible to give a house on bond as mahr, considering that the payments are in arrears. The bank wants to auction the house. So is it permissible to give this house as mahr, the house is not paid for yet, so ownership still remains with the bank until fully paid for.

Learning a portion of the Quraan as mahr

Q: I'm getting married in June Insha-Allah. When my parents were discussing the mahr, I kept a request in front of my in laws and my husband that instead of money I wanted to be gifted with a Surah from the Quran which will hold a value of living a good life after marriage and adding barakah to our life. So me and my husband will be memorizing it. Is it a valid point?

Husband signing a dowry agreement

Q: Is it permissible in islam for the Moulana to create a dowry agreement and to tell the husband to sign such an agreement that in the event of him divorcing his wife then he has to hand over his assets to his wife or his rights to his assets will be forfeited and transferred to the wife. Also to place the husband on terms to sign such dowry agreement. I know in Islam we have mahr paid immediately.