Various masaail of Nikaah

Q: I got a job in the Maldives. So I moved to the Maldives with my husband and children. Now my husband got a job offer in the Gulf. He is willing to go probably in the next month or so. As per rules I need to complete 3 month notice period then only I can go back to my homeland. Is it allowed in Islam, if I stay abroad for 3 months without husband in the Maldives and then return.

Note: The children will be with me when my husband leaves and I have been staying in the Maldives for the last six months.

Q: My parents want me to get married but I don't want to. I am 22 years old and in all these years I saw horrible fights and extra marital affairs surreal stuff like that and they always blame me for their unsuccessful marriage. I am not mentally stable. I get suicidal at times such that I can't control. If I get married, how can I take care of my children when I can't control myself?

Whenever the topic of marriage comes, it's killing me when I think about all those years of fights. I can't take any sort of torture. I am unable to convince my parents. I instead end up yelling at them which I don't want to. I do read Quran but as soon as something regarding marriage comes up, I get those attacks again. I don't know what to do. How can I get over this situation.

Q: I am young. I am physically and sexually fit. I do my hard exercises on a daily basis. I have a job and I earn (halaal). I try to give most of my time in worship. Now, the matter is that I don't want to marry, I just want to live my life as single till death. What should I do?

Q: Alhamdulillah, twelve years back, I got married. At the time of marriage my intention was not to take any jahez (dowry) but one of my parents asked for basic materials like bed, furniture, house hold items (not big items). My intention is now to return the amount spent on those items to my father-in-law. 

My question is: Can I give my father-in-law the suitable amount? Shall I ask my parents about this? Or is it not required because the above items will be the milkiyat (owner) of my wife?

Q: Is that person sinful who does not marry in this world if he/she does not find someone as relgious and God fearing as him/her in this world and wants to remain unmarried to marry somone very pious/God fearing in the Hereafter because a more religious/God fearing person will have better rewards in Paradise and would share them with his/her partner.

Q: If you see the signs of the curse of Allah Ta'ala on someone where they are unable to make duaa and you know he isn't a good person but hides it and pretends, what do the teachings say in breaking up his marriage and removing the wife from this ordeal?

Q: How much should someone love his wife?

Q: Is it permissible in Islam to go on tours and outings along with your partner after nikaah but before rukhsati? If no! Then what acts are to be avoided with your partner when one is married and did not get rukhsati yet?

Q: Allah created both men and women differently such that a woman does not naturally feel to have more than one spouse at a time.

1. My question is that if it was in the nature of a male to have more than one wife as created by Allah then why are there naturally the feelings of jealousy or insecurities and intolerance that a woman feels about it? My mind and heart both know that Allahs plans are the best and I blindly trust in them but then why I feel annoyed and really bad about the fact of sharing my husband with someone else. I even feel annoyed when my husband teases me about angels of Jannat? Why has Allah put this feeling in us knowing the natural tendency of males? 

2. Though I know that there is nothing wrong in having more than one wife but I still feel uncomfortable and jealous about this fact. I would never be able to stand the fact of my husband marrying someone else. Does that mean that I am not a good believer as my husband constantly keeps saying that if I cannot tolerate the fact of my husband having another wife (suppose) then I am not a good muslimah. Is that so?

Q: I am in love with a non-Muslim. We both want to marry each other. I know that nikah is the only way out. But I want to know if it is halaal for her to accept Islam for me.