Advice

Q: I write to you in regards to my mother who has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. Doctors have said she’ll receive treatment (chemotherapy) and thereafter surgery because it is treatable.

Myself and my siblings have been very upset and anxious since knowing the diagnosis. We are supportive of each other.

I would just like to know what can be done to ease this difficult time for us, and my mother as treatment can be heavy both physically and mentally in such cases I am completely overcome by anxiety.

Q: I am a new revert and my family doesn't know. They would completely disown me or hurt me if they knew. I sometimes struggle with doing prayer because they are there and lately I am also taking care of my sick father and cannot always do wudu or find the qibla at the hospital for prayer. What do I do? I feel like I'm failing.

Q: Is it allowed to talk with the opposite gender if only the girl's parents know but not the boy's parents? There isn't any flirting or any type of haraam conversation involved.

Q: I want to get married because I'm afraid of falling in zina. But I don't know any person whom should I marry or as I belong to a broken family, my mother can't even take the responsibility of me. I have no guardian.

How do I get married? Is it destined? Or I have to do something? I prayed, did Istikhara and tahajjud too. I'm depressed badly. Please guide me.

Q: Earlier in my past life when I didn't have much understanding of deen, I felt like I'm free from challenges and tests. After following deen Alhamdulilla I feel like life gives me tests at every step. One finishes and the other is on my door step. What is this Ustadh?

I'm confused. Is this a sign that My Rabb is not happy with me that's why I'm encountering one test after the other?

Q: Can I talk to my fiance before marriage in Islam?

Q: There is this ayah in the Quran "and that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards".

I understand that it is about afterlife and has nothing to do with wordly affairs. One of my friends used this in the context that you have to make effort to find a spouse and for that they were willing to get into talking stage with someone in the absence of a wali. Do I have to make an effort in finding a spouse and is talking to someone for that matter allowed?

Q: I recently got married on 30 April 2023. My wife doesn't have a brain. Her mother is controlling her life and she interferes in my married life. It's two month already and my wife is still staying with her parents. She is asking me for a divorce but I don't want to give it. I want her in my life.

What must I do?

Q: What should I advise and say to a person that does ruqya and does not make ibaadat?

Q: I always plan but I don't follow through, what can I do? I pray also, but my life is not changing, mostly setbacks. I want worldly success too because if I don't have money I don't think continuing spiritual life will be possible. So help me.