Advice

Q: What should I advise and say to a person that does ruqya and does not make ibaadat?

Q: I always plan but I don't follow through, what can I do? I pray also, but my life is not changing, mostly setbacks. I want worldly success too because if I don't have money I don't think continuing spiritual life will be possible. So help me.

Q: I have been speaking to a girl online and we have tried to stop speaking many times and I totally regret the sin and wanted to conceal it so I didn’t tell anyone but it gets difficult because we find ourselves falling back into the sin and we want to get married. The only thing stopping is my parents so I told my parents about the situation even though I never wanted anyone to know because I wanted to conceal my sin, thinking they would assist me into getting married. However my parents have still not given me an answer and they think I’m too immature to get married and that I don't read all my Salaahs which I try my very best to perform all the time and the girl has accepted me the way I am. Can Mufti Saab please advise me.

Q: Is it permissible for a revert to talk/write and share about one's abusive traumatic past filled with haraam things that has lead to multiple trauma based mental health disorders.

Q: Recently, I realised that I think catastrophically. I always assume the worst and anticipate the worst situations which never occur.

I know this bad habit did not appear suddenly, but I had some really bad experiences that came out of the blue which caught me offguard. Now, this habit in the way I think is affecting my life.

I am only 19 and I feel this habit is creating destruction within my home and I fear that it will affect my future even more.

How can I remove this negative way of thinking? 

Q: I am suffering with a lot of pressure and I also have alot of problems. My family is not that family who has peace. We will never have peace only if Allah wills.

I lost two of my friends, meaning they stopped talking to me. I feel like I did something wrong which I didn't. They make me feel unworthy to live. I feel ugly. I feel like nobody loves me anymore. I don't know what to do please help me as I might just kill myself.

Q: I've been diagnosed with various medical ailments over the pass few months and new ones have started. It's becoming too expensive for me to see different specialists... Is there an authentic amal or namaz which can relieve me of all my problems? I just don't seem to be getting better and it's frustrating.

Q: I have been in a relationship with this girl for years. In the past she betrayed me, lied to many times but eventually within time she changed and I decided to get engaged. We did get engaged and after the engagement I keet remembering what she did to me in the past and I can't forget all that she lied to me saying that her parents are dead. But within time she changed alot and for 4 years she didn't lie to me at all.

Now I started cheating on her and then I fell in love with a girl and all of sudden I stopped everything, talking to girls and all other things. I really want to get married to this girl and not my finace. I asked her to break up with me as in the future I might not be a good husband but she keeps repeating the same thing that shes not going to live without me and cries asking me to fix things.

Even if I fix things up, I I know I can never love her and make her happy. This new girl understands me very well and shes my childhood family friend and we always shared a very good understanding and trying to think of a halaal way to get together as in getting married.

Q: My wife always compares herself to other women and it makes her stressed out and unsatisfied with her life as she is a housewife and spends most of the time at home doing different stuff like cooking, looking after our kid, helping my mother and so on. How can I help her to stop comparing herself to others?

Q: Is your husband allowed to ignore you because you don’t look attractive to him 4 months after giving birth? Knowing very well that you’re making effort to exercise, etc?