Advice

Q: I got your reply today and I got very happy by reading your reply. Jazakallah khair. My husband is a very nice person. My in-laws are also very nice and supportive but the thing is that my husband is a very short tempered person and I am a very patient and sober kind of girl. So sometimes he hurts me so much by his behaviour. You wrote in your reply that my istihkara dream indicates that my relation with my husband and in-laws is improving.. So please tell me what should I need to do to handle his rude kind of behaviour? I love and respect him and my in-laws and I want to be the best wife for him and the best daughter for my in-laws. Allah has given me approval for this relation by showing me the positive response in my dream. I trust Allah a lot and I respect his decision by saving my relationship with my husband and in-laws and that is the reason I always try to handle things patiently. Waiting for your reply. Allah bless you.

Q: A marriage proposal came for a girl ,the boy and his family are good people the boy is into tabligh also, however the girl has done istikharah once but after doing istikharah her heart became neutral, means she is not inclined to the present proposal instead she left this matter to Allah thinking if Allah wishes let him make easy the path of nikah with this boy or if Allah does not wish let him take this matter away from us. Now if Allah brings this proposal near to us and both parties are almost happy with it, will it be khair for us?

Q: I have psychosis and split personality disorder, and ocd. I was repeatedly saying things to back bite people and to to leave Islam and if I was concentrating on stopping I would be able to stop. Some times I would put my attentive on something else and then I would continue saying things that would back bite or leave Islam. Would the backbiting count and did I leave Islam?

Q: I have failed driving test six times. I am pregnant and really need to pass. I cry when my little kids have to go to school which is far. Please help me.

Q: I am working in Dubai, in a private company as an accountant. The company pays me less compared to my work and responsibility. As an accountant I should get much more as per UAE market. The owner of the company pays more in back hand to those staff who belong to his relatives or his group. I was watching all this things and finally I have decided to leave the company and start looking for a job. Al-hamdulillah finally I got a job. Now time to resign from this company and join the new company, I gave resignation letter and mentioned the reason being my family problems because I knew if I have said the original reason, they will never allow me to go. After my resign letter the owner of the company called me and miss behaved with me and then the owner with his son's assistance attacked me, he slap me, kick me in front of the office staff. Even they abused me, they used very bad words against my father. After the incident they threatened me that if I complain to police they would take action against my family in India (me and my owner  belong to the same area). I know they are very powerful and I can't do anything against them,they have very good relations in higher class people in UAE and I belong to middle class family. After the matter, I feel very sad. I am trying to forget but I can't. I can't sleep at night. I can't show my face to other staff. I feel very hurt. I hope you understand my situation. After that I have decided I can't get the respect which I have lost at that day. I can't get justice in this world. So I have decided to complain to Al Mighty Allah. Can you please explain to me what will the justice be for me according to Quran and Hadith so I can expect this justice from Almighty Allah in this world and Aakhirat also. Please explain.

Q: I want to ask a question about my mother. Recently my father died from heart attack. My mother is in iddat right now and my relatives like my chacha, my dadi, phopo and taya (elder brother of my father) everyone is talking bad about my mother and they don't want to continue the relation with my mother but they want me to be with them. They are continuously becoming involved in our personal matters. Like I want to work job but they are forcing me to stay at home and do what they want me to do. I just want to know that is it important for me and my mother to listen to them after their bad behaviour? Do we have to continue the relation and do whatever they say?

Q: I have been married for couple of years now and ever since my marriage my husband keeps talking bad about my family and how he did not get anything as dowry from my family. I have stayed with him for 1 year after marriage since he is unable to provide me visa in order to stay together. His job is not giving him visa so he buys business visa for himself and the only reason he is sticking to his job is because it's easy where he does not have to work. The one year I stayed was when I found a job on my own. I want to your advise please since am not sure what to do. My husband does not make any effort in keeping us together, does not like my family, takes help from them but talks bad behind, he uses bad language with me, tells me I am not fit to be a wife, does not like the food I prepare, and asks me to stay in his father's house since I am married to that house. He married me thinking my family is from US and thought he will get everything and it is not necessary to work. Now I have a baby as well and he does not show any interest in keeping us together. All the time he cries about how he has no money and has to send to his family and how we have become an expense on him. I keep thinking why am I with such a person who does not like any of my qualities. I want to divorce him but worried about my child. Please advise is this the right ground to take a divorce or should I keep trying.

Q: I hope you are doing great. I am a 24 year old boy. I am in this haraam relationship with a girl for more than 5 years now. I have tried many times to end this relationship but every time I end up going back to it. This relationship is effecting me in every bad way. Wasting my time on phone, chatting, sending pictures and what not. Lately I am so immersed in this that I do nothing without wasting time with her. I have no feelings while praying or studying. I only think of her. Please pray for me and suggest me how can I end this Haram relationship?

Q: Is it permissible for a momen (believer) woman who has young children to stay in the same house but different room with a husband who is acting hypocritically (Allah knows he wants to irritate his wife by refusing to pray and use of improper words, swearing etc. because he doesn't like his wife or he is really what he shows), or she should divorce, as she doesn't want to be divorced unless living with that kind of husband is Haram. If divorce is not mandatory she is ready to have saber until she is alive because Allah's satisfaction is more impotent then everything else to her.