Advice

Q: I want to ask a question about my mother. Recently my father died from heart attack. My mother is in iddat right now and my relatives like my chacha, my dadi, phopo and taya (elder brother of my father) everyone is talking bad about my mother and they don't want to continue the relation with my mother but they want me to be with them. They are continuously becoming involved in our personal matters. Like I want to work job but they are forcing me to stay at home and do what they want me to do. I just want to know that is it important for me and my mother to listen to them after their bad behaviour? Do we have to continue the relation and do whatever they say?

Q: I have been married for couple of years now and ever since my marriage my husband keeps talking bad about my family and how he did not get anything as dowry from my family. I have stayed with him for 1 year after marriage since he is unable to provide me visa in order to stay together. His job is not giving him visa so he buys business visa for himself and the only reason he is sticking to his job is because it's easy where he does not have to work. The one year I stayed was when I found a job on my own. I want to your advise please since am not sure what to do. My husband does not make any effort in keeping us together, does not like my family, takes help from them but talks bad behind, he uses bad language with me, tells me I am not fit to be a wife, does not like the food I prepare, and asks me to stay in his father's house since I am married to that house. He married me thinking my family is from US and thought he will get everything and it is not necessary to work. Now I have a baby as well and he does not show any interest in keeping us together. All the time he cries about how he has no money and has to send to his family and how we have become an expense on him. I keep thinking why am I with such a person who does not like any of my qualities. I want to divorce him but worried about my child. Please advise is this the right ground to take a divorce or should I keep trying.

Q: I hope you are doing great. I am a 24 year old boy. I am in this haraam relationship with a girl for more than 5 years now. I have tried many times to end this relationship but every time I end up going back to it. This relationship is effecting me in every bad way. Wasting my time on phone, chatting, sending pictures and what not. Lately I am so immersed in this that I do nothing without wasting time with her. I have no feelings while praying or studying. I only think of her. Please pray for me and suggest me how can I end this Haram relationship?

Q: Is it permissible for a momen (believer) woman who has young children to stay in the same house but different room with a husband who is acting hypocritically (Allah knows he wants to irritate his wife by refusing to pray and use of improper words, swearing etc. because he doesn't like his wife or he is really what he shows), or she should divorce, as she doesn't want to be divorced unless living with that kind of husband is Haram. If divorce is not mandatory she is ready to have saber until she is alive because Allah's satisfaction is more impotent then everything else to her.

Q: I suffer from this type of ocd called scrupulosity. This often makes me have obsessive guilt. I fear that I have made the wrong choice on some islamic controversial issues and disagreements among the scholars such as music and other disagreements scholars have disagreements on. For example, for music I follow the opinion that music is permissible as long as if doesn't contain bad words and sexual content or provokes lustful desires. After researching the hadiths and reading different opinions I felt happy and confident with my choice. The waswas came and has made feel doubt. Not just on this issue but others as well. I fear that I have made the wrong choice and that I'll go to hell for it. I became so obsessed about thinking about my decision. Why does shaitan put this doubt in me and cause me anxiety. What if I make the wrong choice and side with the wrong scholars, will I be put to hell and punished by God? How can I feel confident on my choice without feeling doubt and obsessive guilt?

Q: I am from Pakistan and I am working in Dubai since 18 months. I find it always very difficult and disappointing to stay away from parents and brothers and sister. In my country I can get a job but it pays less than the job in Dubai. I have decided to leave and go back and work there on less salary than here and live with parents and brothers and I am also getting married soon in my country so I prefer to stay with all family and work on less salary there instead of staying here in Dubai away from them. My question is that according to Islamic teachings, am I taking the right step? Maybe this question seems little bit stupid but it holds great importance in my life as I want to follow my Deen in every aspect of my life. Please answer my question and help me to put an end to this confusion.

Q: I had been engaged for one year and I just talked to my fiancee on mobile and crossed every limit on mobile. She left me after one year and got married immediately to her bhaabi's brother. I saw her after her marriage, she came before me on my call in front of her family. She said that she told her parents that she did not agree to the engagement but her mother said she is lying and her bhaabi had put black magic on her. I am very much confused and upset and can't forget the talks we had. I just want to know that

1. Did she really love that boy?

2. Maybe she loved that boy and me as well but she left me because of my behaviour or may be she and that boy had something between them.

3. I also want to apologise to her in front of her family as well.

Q: I want to learn driving but my husband seems jealous. The problem is that he is always travelling and seem to love wife's money a lot because I work. I want a dua to do because a driving licence is very important to me. Please help.

Q: I have one problem and I need to know that what should I do. I am 28 years old and married 6 years ago but 3 years back I met a guy on chat. We became close friends, we even started loving each other but many times I feel that I am doing wrong. I am cheating my husband. I decided to break relation with that guy but don't know, I feel like I hurt that guy as he was in love. Now without letting him know any reason, I am not in contact with this guy because I don't want to do any sinful deed anymore. I want to know that did I do the right thing? But one feeling is still in my mind that maybe I hurt that guy and maybe he will not forgive me. Please guide me what should I do?