Advice

Q: Please help me sir. I am in depression. I know my problem which I have written is too big and time consuming. Please help me. I am a 25 years old Muslim girl. My parents are finding suitable husband for me with which I am fine. I never had any past relationship. I believe Allah has already planned a very good man for me. I recently got a proposal from a very good family. I heard that the family and that the boy is very nice and suitable for me. My family became very happy and satisfied. That boy wanted to speak to me. I agreed. The conversation with him was very uncomfortable. He was speaking as if we are in a relationship. Within 24 hours of our conversation he told he is missing me which I found very awkward. I was worried so I did ishtekhara. I prayed to Allah to give me some indications. I prayed that if that person is not good for my deen, duniya and aakhirat, then please don't make me marry this person. He continuously calls me and messages me. I have stopped replying to him. I told him that from now on our elders will decide. He was insisting me to talk and convincing me to agree to this marriage. I denied marrying him. Now my family is worried that I have taken decision in a hurry and judged him too soon. My parents are disappointed and telling me that I have rejected a good proposal and now I am not going to get any better proposals and this is the reason why many girls don't get married at the right age and to a right person because of childish behaviour like me. I am extremely worried and low I am continuously praying to Allah that if I have done a mistake please forgive me. I am praying for a suitable proposal for me. I am upset. I am scared. Please help me.

Q: I have a very big problem. I can't stop lying to my family and friends. Also I feel it difficult to share personal information with those closest to me. I am completely isolated and feel that my pride is interfering with my relationships. Please help me with some advice how I can overcome this dilemma.

Q: I am a 25 year old muslim girl. Four years a go meat a guy and by time we both fell in love, its been 3.5y ears now we are in a relationship until today he did not touch me we did not do anything physical. After a few months of the relationship he went to Australia for a better life. He is Masha Allah a hafiz e quran and a very nice person. He is now in Australia he finished his education trying to get a PR his family has agreed on us getting married but my parents have issues like he is less educated then I am. His father had passed away when he was 3 so there is no one supporting him financially he is working in Australia and earning enough to pay his University fees and living and other expenses according to him he can also support his wife and a child. According to him he is well settled. His mother had called my mother to ask my hand in marriage 2 years a go after that his brother had called my father a number of times. First my father wanted him to finish his education now that the education is done and they are trying for a PR. His brother calls my father and gives him all the details my father just listens to the what they have to say and thats it gives no response my father also does not even tell my mother about the calls or messages. One time when his brother messaged my father my father saw the message but did not reply to it. If my mother tries to explain my father he gets angry and aggressive. We both are true and loyal and I want to make my love halaal. I do not want to hurt my parents. My friends also have told me to run away or get married without my parents knowing but I did not want to do that. Can you please guide me about what islam says about getting marred according to my will and can you tell me a dua that would help me convince my parents. And also please let me know that with this attitude of my father towards a person who is a hfiz quran prays all the namaz earns halaal has a good heart and character am I allowed to do my nikaah without my fathers permission.

Q: My question is that it's been 22 years of my daughters wedding. She has 4 daughters.actually my son in law is really very short tempered and abusive too and he mostly misdoubts on his daughters but infact my grand daughters are engaged in holy teachings including my daughter as well. My elder grand daughter has all the qualities which a girl should have. Due to my son in law all proposals are rejected so what should we recite? So what can we do to overcome this problem?

Q: I and my wife are currently experiencing marital issues/problems. After a heated argument/exchange I said to her that she must be out of the house when I get home. On my return that evening I found that my wife had indeed left, taking our four kids, all of their clothing, all of the groceries and some items which belonged to me. Apparently she went to her friends home and later that week to family (She was gone for a whole week), Subsequent to this I was served with a protection order wherein the Magistrate declared that I am to leave the property and that I am barred from entering my home until some time in October when the court will make a decision relating to the order whether it may make it permanent. I have been in a state of depression ever since and am now sharing a BED with my uncle as I have no other place to go to. I have not issued any Talaaq but have been instructed by her family that I must continue paying the rent and expenses as nafaakaah. Firstly, what rights do I have here, my wife does not want to re-concile saying that she needs time as I have caused too much damage over the 14 years of marriage. She says that she has until October, this is very unfair to me (my opinion) Admittedly I have done wrong in the past, I have expressed regret and remorse but she seems to not be listening / willing to let me back. I love my kids and do care for my wife and do not want to lose them. Please guide me and assist me here even if the pill is bitter to swallow.

Q: My question is regarding a fight between relatives. My two aunts and my mother had a fight in 2013 on some issue and after that they stop contact and are not talking to each other. Since then my father was not available when this fight happened he is sad from what his sisters did because my mom was not at fault. After the fight my father tried to contact them but they didn't answered his call and after one week we came back to KSA after few months my aunt called my father but my father was angry so he scolded her and after that time till now they have no contact. In between this time my parents tried to fix this problem again but it didn't happen. Now my parents want them to contact and say sorry only then they will forgive them but my aunts are not agreeing on this. They think they are right. My father is really sad and one aunt is my mother in-law. I want to ask that according to the Islamic point of view what should I do to bring them together and end this situation?

Q: Me and my family try to live according to the sharia and fulfill all the rulings of deen to some extent alhamdulillah. I have a twenty years old daughter who is quite pretty, obedient and well behaved alhamdulillah. Within the past two years a great number of proposals came for her. Women from different families come to see my daughter but afterwards neither they return nor they come in contact by any means. Some families show their interest clearly to me but never come. I am continually reciting the ayat what you suggest to everyone regarding getting good proposals after every salah and make dua. My daughter does the same too. One mufti sahib suggested to recite ayat no.62 of surah namal 14000 times every Wednesday till three Wednesdays in order to get rid of any obstacle. I did this too. I recite surah rehman thrice daily for this cause. I am too much worried mufti sahib. Please help with the suggestion in this matter. I would be obliged if you will reply sooner.