Advice

Q: My wife makes my seven year old child sleep with her daily for the last two years. I keep asking her to not to make him sleep in my place but she ignores this. Due to this situation, we are only able to get intimate once every two months. Please tell us your recommendation for us.

Q: I love a guy and he loves me too. Our parents know about it but my father has no problem. Even his family likes me. Only my mom has a problem with our relation. I did ishtekhara even my mom did and the answer was yes. How do I convince my mom. Please give me some wazifa. I can't live without that guy. I feel like committing suicide.

Q: The problem with my mother is 13 years ago she was operated for left side breast cancer. She had undergone chemo 6 cycles and radiotherapy. Now since past 6 months she complained about the pain in her left side chest and drastic weight loss, the pain was excruciating and after multiple diagnosis and biopsy the Doctor's concluded that her breast cancer has re-occurred and spread to the lungs and part of the liver, there is no other symptom other than the pain, fatigue and weight loss. The allopathic Doctors have said that chemo would aggravate the situation and might make her bed ridden, moreover we are not in the favor of allopathic treatment as we have seen her suffering years ago. Hence we approached ayurvedic doctor and to add to my problem he mixed some medicines in cow's urine and prescribed to take on empty stomach. My mother never misses her prayer, recites quran, reads surah baqrah daily and I give her ruqya water on empty stomach. The fact that she has to drink the urine early morning is killing me though she does not know about anything of this. Kindly help. I don't want to go against Allah and his Rasool (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and treat my mom. If there is shifa in it I would surely go ahead and give it to my mom. And how can Allah Ta'ala put shifa in such a filth. I have full faith in Allah and hence reluctant to go ahead with the medication.

Q: I want to know if it is wrong for the mother of a physically disabled 55 year old male resident in the UK to try to persuade a unknown divorced female with 18 month old daughter in Pakistan to come to the UK on a student visa with intention of marrying the disabled male and to leave her baby daughter behind and forget about her. I am worried that this is morally wrong. Lying about intentions to enter another country and to separate a young baby from her mother when it may or may not be possible for the male to fulfill the rights of a wife in the relationship of marriage. Further more instead of accepting the young baby and offering to care for her and raise her as a family member the mother has said they will never provide anything for her and if female wants her baby daughter to join her in the future she cannot. I am losing sleep over this matter and very concerned that this is very unfair treatment amounting to zulm. Please advise. As far as I know the mother just wants a 'free' housemaid and cleaner for herself and her son although Allah Ta'ala knows best. There is absolutely no need for the mother to worry about her or her disabled son being looked after in the future as she has three other children all married and independent who look after them.

Q: Is it permissible for a girl to make a non-mahram her friend? To talk to him, care for him and treat him like her brothers with no bad intentions or feelings?

Q: Sometimes I feel that when I am doing some act of righteousness or I intend to do it, I feel this weak sincerity and sometimes I try to force myself that I am doing it only for the sake of Allah, but still my sincerity is weak. I don't stop to do the act anyway but I would like to know if my deeds will be accepted.

Q: Which should be preferred most after istekhara a) the dream or any sign in the dream or b) what the heart guides?

Q: My 18 year old daughter has decided to go against my wishes to see her father that last saw her when she was 2 years old. He embraced islam when we got married but reverted back to christianity when we got divorced. I've managed to keep her away from him as he has very bad habits but lately she has gotten in contact with him without my knowledge and he has promised her money and a better life. I don't know what to do. I would like to know what shariah says about this situation.

Q: I am in a terrible situation. I'm a widow for 13 years and I am still living with my in-laws. Mother in law doesn't speak to me and now won't eat my food after 26 years. I overlook it as she is old. On the other hand I have my son recently married whose wife doesn't want him to keep with me and calls him mothers child and fights with him all the time. Please guide me.