Advice

Q: I want to know if it is wrong for the mother of a physically disabled 55 year old male resident in the UK to try to persuade a unknown divorced female with 18 month old daughter in Pakistan to come to the UK on a student visa with intention of marrying the disabled male and to leave her baby daughter behind and forget about her. I am worried that this is morally wrong. Lying about intentions to enter another country and to separate a young baby from her mother when it may or may not be possible for the male to fulfill the rights of a wife in the relationship of marriage. Further more instead of accepting the young baby and offering to care for her and raise her as a family member the mother has said they will never provide anything for her and if female wants her baby daughter to join her in the future she cannot. I am losing sleep over this matter and very concerned that this is very unfair treatment amounting to zulm. Please advise. As far as I know the mother just wants a 'free' housemaid and cleaner for herself and her son although Allah Ta'ala knows best. There is absolutely no need for the mother to worry about her or her disabled son being looked after in the future as she has three other children all married and independent who look after them.

Q: Is it permissible for a girl to make a non-mahram her friend? To talk to him, care for him and treat him like her brothers with no bad intentions or feelings?

Q: Sometimes I feel that when I am doing some act of righteousness or I intend to do it, I feel this weak sincerity and sometimes I try to force myself that I am doing it only for the sake of Allah, but still my sincerity is weak. I don't stop to do the act anyway but I would like to know if my deeds will be accepted.

Q: Which should be preferred most after istekhara a) the dream or any sign in the dream or b) what the heart guides?

Q: My 18 year old daughter has decided to go against my wishes to see her father that last saw her when she was 2 years old. He embraced islam when we got married but reverted back to christianity when we got divorced. I've managed to keep her away from him as he has very bad habits but lately she has gotten in contact with him without my knowledge and he has promised her money and a better life. I don't know what to do. I would like to know what shariah says about this situation.

Q: I am in a terrible situation. I'm a widow for 13 years and I am still living with my in-laws. Mother in law doesn't speak to me and now won't eat my food after 26 years. I overlook it as she is old. On the other hand I have my son recently married whose wife doesn't want him to keep with me and calls him mothers child and fights with him all the time. Please guide me.

Q: It has been three years since everything in my life has been going wrong and this point in my life is the most toughest. I have had to give my last born daughter 4 years to a madressah for two weeks to try and find a job and I have tried. I have used every single cent I could lay my hands on trying to find a job and I have come up with nothing. At this point I don't even have R6 for bread and I need to fetch my daughter at the end of this week. I feel very suffocated right now. I feel that I am a failure. What kind of a mother can't be there for her children. I have done everything I can for my children and now I'm not sure why but I do feel that I am loosing this battle and I need duas and advice as much as possible. All I ask for is to be able to provide for my children. Is that too much to ask for? I can't leave my baby there any longer and I don't think I can feed her when I do bring her.

Q: I have asked you about my personal problem. Now tell me what should we do. We are five sisters. Our father is a poor man. My elder sister's husband did a second marriage and after that at least 3 year he didn't go to my sister. She has three children in 15 years of marriage. My second elder sister is married for 10 years and her husband is not able to fulfil a husbands duties as well as financial needs. My third elder sister's husband is very well off but after 7 years of marriage he is also not able to fulfil her rights. My marriage is in it's third year but my husband's parents don't let me live with him for my whole life permanently nor does he himself want to take me with him. However, he can afford it easily abroad. He just came for 6 month in these 3 years. My younger sister is overage and my parents still didn't find her a soul mate. Please you tell me what should we all sister do. We are human, have emotions, can't take divorce. What has Allah revealed for such conditions? Should we just make sabar?

Q: Is punishing students permissible in Islam (other than for praying purpose)? I heard it is not justified. What is your opinion?

Q: What should I do? Everything I do in life is a failure. I have never had any success in my life. I feel helpless. I cannot provide sufficiently for my wife and child. We are bankrupt. Our business is broke. I am broke. Nothing is going the way it should. We read our namaaz, we pray to Allah asking for his divine intervention, but its as if Allah does not acknowledge us. We are in a lot of debt. I have given up, I feel like my only way out is death.