Advice

Rizk being extended after marriage

Q: A brother is struggling with a job. I have always been favoured by Allah Ta'ala. As soon as I got married my rizk was granted and as my family grew so Allah Ta'ala increased my rizk. This is anecdotal evidence from my experience. Based on this can I encourage the brother to marry and in turn his rizk will be extended?

What is the sunnatullah (sunnah of Allah SWT)? Please explain.

Home industries

Q: I have remarried and have always been the breadwinner in the home in my previous marriage as well. I am now currently pregnant and wish to just be a housewife, what can I do? My ex husband does not look after his two kids financially so therefore I also need to also work? I need advice as a muslim woman what must I do? I feel trapped in the workplace.

Haraam relationships

Q: My question is about girlfriend boyfriend relationship. I have a girlfriend and I do love her and she loves me too. My questions are as follows:-

1. Is it permissible in Islam to love a girl? (If we truly love her, without having any need or desire and want to truly marry her Insha Allah)

2. Is it right that according to a Hadith of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) it is better if we marry someone whom we love rather than marrying the one whom we don't know (i.e. arranged marriage)?

3. Can I keep a halaal relationship, if we have not done or not desire to do any dirty or haraam things with her?

4. Is keeping a relationship considered as halaal, or allowed if I want to truly marry her Insha Allah.

5. If she is my girlfriend and in future Insha allah I will marry her, then would she be a halaal wife?

6. Can I meet her in public places (one hafiz told me this)?

7. Can I touch her a bit also (holding hands)

8. Apart from touching hand what else is permissible if I truly want to marry her (means hugging or just sitting side by side together)?

9. All in all what are your views about relationships if I want to truly marry her and I truly love her? What is halaal and haram and what is right and wrong? What is allowed and not allowed under these circumstances? I will be very very very very thankful to you if you answer all these questions in detail so that I can understand well.

Woman living on her own

Q: Please advise, I am a 24 year old female and currently live with my two elder brothers. However over the years our home has made me constantly miserable and unhappy due to fighting and brothers not getting along. I am considering moving out on my own, however I am worried about breaking family ties, as I am the only common factor that aids in the two brothers making up after a fight (which normally lasts a few months at a time). Please advise what you think would be best?

Waking up with fear during the night

Q: I would like to know what to do in the case of waking up in the middle of the night and seeing shadowy figures all the time. If this used to happen and was at a worse state but then stopped and now is back again. I know that the wearing of amulets and such is not right, so what is the ruling on these occurrences. What is permissible- I firmly believe only Allah has the power to protect and recite all the necessary adkhar before going to bed, but as I scream out loud every night and get really scared, my parents are worried and would like to take me to a moulana. Could this just very well be a psychological effect and not anything to do with the jinn kind or such, as I want to do things the right way and only put my trust in Allah. I also came across a hadith about the use of ruqyah and about the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) mentioning such people who seek this out in a negative way, so what constitutes ruqyah? Jazakallah and may Allah bless all those who make it their intention to help the ummah in whichever way.

Salaami

Q: If I attended a function where salaami took place, but I was not aware that this would happen and neither did I stand during the salaami, is there any sin committed on my part? If yes how can this be rectified?