Advice

Q: Please what is the cause of sadness, torment, unhappiness and depression in the life of a Muslim?

Q: My question is about girlfriend boyfriend relationship. I have a girlfriend and I do love her and she loves me too. My questions are as follows:-

1. Is it permissible in Islam to love a girl? (If we truly love her, without having any need or desire and want to truly marry her Insha Allah)

2. Is it right that according to a Hadith of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) it is better if we marry someone whom we love rather than marrying the one whom we don't know (i.e. arranged marriage)?

3. Can I keep a halaal relationship, if we have not done or not desire to do any dirty or haraam things with her?

4. Is keeping a relationship considered as halaal, or allowed if I want to truly marry her Insha Allah.

5. If she is my girlfriend and in future Insha allah I will marry her, then would she be a halaal wife?

6. Can I meet her in public places (one hafiz told me this)?

7. Can I touch her a bit also (holding hands)

8. Apart from touching hand what else is permissible if I truly want to marry her (means hugging or just sitting side by side together)?

9. All in all what are your views about relationships if I want to truly marry her and I truly love her? What is halaal and haram and what is right and wrong? What is allowed and not allowed under these circumstances? I will be very very very very thankful to you if you answer all these questions in detail so that I can understand well.

Q: Is it permissible for a muslimah to give her real name in facebook?

Q: Please advise, I am a 24 year old female and currently live with my two elder brothers. However over the years our home has made me constantly miserable and unhappy due to fighting and brothers not getting along. I am considering moving out on my own, however I am worried about breaking family ties, as I am the only common factor that aids in the two brothers making up after a fight (which normally lasts a few months at a time). Please advise what you think would be best?

Q: Is it correct for someone to believe that if a person drinks coke his dhor will become weak and only pious people are saved from this?

Q: What is the easiest method off being punctual your your ma'moolaat?

Q: I would like to know what to do in the case of waking up in the middle of the night and seeing shadowy figures all the time. If this used to happen and was at a worse state but then stopped and now is back again. I know that the wearing of amulets and such is not right, so what is the ruling on these occurrences. What is permissible- I firmly believe only Allah has the power to protect and recite all the necessary adkhar before going to bed, but as I scream out loud every night and get really scared, my parents are worried and would like to take me to a moulana. Could this just very well be a psychological effect and not anything to do with the jinn kind or such, as I want to do things the right way and only put my trust in Allah. I also came across a hadith about the use of ruqyah and about the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) mentioning such people who seek this out in a negative way, so what constitutes ruqyah? Jazakallah and may Allah bless all those who make it their intention to help the ummah in whichever way.

Q: If I attended a function where salaami took place, but I was not aware that this would happen and neither did I stand during the salaami, is there any sin committed on my part? If yes how can this be rectified?

Q: We have a young Molvi here, graduated from a Deobandi Darul Uloom, who is invited around the country to Masjids to perform nasheed programmes. He encourages others to join in and recite loudly with him. To me, it seems all rather like an entertainment package rather than instilling the fear and love of Allah and Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam. The question I ask myself is how much Amal or the desire for Amal comes in to the life of the individual after attending these naat and nasheed programmes, for which we are now seeing such posters that one wonders, what is the difference between these posters and that of pop stars? Would I be correct in assuming that these programmes have no islahi benefit whatsoever? Secondly, is the Masjid to be used to recite nasheeds loudly in chorus and in unison? Thirdly, does such a young man, even though he is a Molvi, not get affected by the attention he is receiving? Surely pride enters his heart or should we believe that his Hazrat's company has purified him of the disease of pride? Please do enlighten us regarding these nasheed and naat programmes initiated by our newly qualified young Deobandi Molvis?

Q: My question is men will have hoor (beautiful women) in Jannah Insha Allah. But what about women, will they have their own husband as they married in earth or they will change the husband, kindly give details about how men and women will have their life partners in Jannah.