Advice

Q: I think I have some form of OCD so I constantly worry /doubt what I do. I used to live a careless life and have wanted to changed my ways so I did. I am trying to now be a better muslim. I read the prayer of repentance asking for forgiveness but when I was say ameen at the end a bad thought just comes into my head. With my OCD problem this happens a lot.

1) Did my namaaz still count?

2) If a person repents and asks for forgiveness then promises to try to be a better Muslim and tries not to make the same mistakes and makes a mistake will they be breaking their promise? I ask this as I am still young and I want to be practical. I mean if the person promises to try and its human nature to make mistakes then they wont be breaking their promise right?

3) If a person promises to never make the same mistake again but then realizes that it is better to promise to try to never make the same mistake again and says that, will the first statement be overridden? Because I think it is better to promise something that I know I can do for sure rather than be unpractical and think I will never make another mistake in my life because I want to strive to be better than I was before but I don't want to break a promise, so is it valid to promise to try instead? Did my namaaz count?

Q: I want to ask you that whenever I am in salaah my mind has doubts about Islam and I start thinking about Hindu religion. Answer me so that I can end these doubts about Islam.

Q: My friend is getting married this August and her would be keeps on saying about getting her in Jannah, but she is scared while hearing this as she had an affair earlier and got physical with him at times. She has difficulty in loving her fiancee?

Q: Is it permissible to do istikharah about going to umrah and when to go? Also my family and I have been requesting my father to take us to umrah for the past few years and alhumdulillah this year we have the means to go however my father says to wait because of his health conditions even though they are minor (for the past 2 years this has been the case), what do you advise?

Q: How do I clear doubts of something from my mind which are frequently causing anxiety and stress?

Q: I'm very despondent. My husband is from UK and now he is moving back there. He is leaving on Monday and will only return when he is coming back to take us there. There will be a separation of about three to six months until he gets our paperwork done. I have four kids and will be responsible for them in this time. I'm very worried as to how I will manage on my own. I'm also worried about temptation concerning my husband because he is easily tempted. I'm prepared to wait for him because on a previous email to you, you told me that I will be rewarded by Allah Ta'ala for waiting for him and guarding my chastity. Alhamdullilah I pray my five times salaah and read my quran, do my fardh, sunnah and nafl acts also. I'm just worried about my husband though. Please can you tell me what I can read daily for sabr and hidayah to manage the responsibility and to keep my husband away from temptation. And also for my depression and stress.

Q: I'm a bit stressed out. My baby is now almost 7 months old. He was Masha Allah developing and reaching all his millstones but he hasn't done some things like continuous roll over or turning to reach for toys while laying on the floor, only if it's in front of him or when he tracks from one eye to to another then he reaches for it. The reason we are concerned is that 5 years ago, I was blessed with a daughter. She is disabled and has been diagnosed with a neurological disorder. She was also developing well till 10 months and up to a year but regressed and then we did a genetics test and found out that she is missing a small protein in the brain that facilitates signals and messages from the brain to the rest of body which she is lacking, thus she doesn't walk, doesn't speak, has no hand use and of course not a normal brain. She had no deformities alhamdulillah! And Very good eye track! This disease only strikes spontaneously to girls and boys don't survive it but in rare cases boys may survive. The doctor tested to see me if I was carrying this disease and alhamdulillah I am not, during my pregnancy with my son, I did full screening through sono and I did a full genetics test. The Doctor also told me that it won't happen again. So I put my trust in Allah and asked for a child that will serve for his deen, and I also named him Abdullah. I really don't want him to have any disorders or any disease. I read all the duas and dhikrs for Allahs pleasure only. However, I would like to know if you you know of duas to read for his normal development and for the protection of any diseases? Sorry for the long explanation. Please keep us in your duas.

Q: Whenever I come across a situation where financial help is requested, either by a madresa, an orphanage or a hospital or some other need, I help as much as I can. I also think to myself that If I had lots of money, I would take on the whole project by myself. My question is, is it allowed to think in this way.

Q: How does one reconcile working for the akhirah (which are perhaps commanded or at least recommended: please comment) and working in this dunyah. I am the sole breadwinner of my family and in order for Allah Ta'ala to increase my rizk, increase His blessings, afford for my wife to stay at home and this as a model for my children, need to continuously improve and develop my career. As a result of the above, I am required to devote my time to part time study. Sustaining a career requires life-long learning of the worldly things. Is this permissible and in conformance with Islam? Notwithstanding reading of Quran, ta'leem, deeni studies are in place Alhamdulillah.

Q: If i do something without my husband's permission, is this wrong? My husband don't want me to leave my house when he is not home. I want to sell avon and I need to look for customers and deliver their products. Do I need his permission to work?